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Because when you're watching porn, you're lusting, which is bad.

Well, ever since my grandpa died, I haven't been watching it as much. I feel so ashamed, but before that I didn't care. Which concerns me. Why did I not care if God knew, but I care if my grandpa knows?

I've had that same question in mind, i always worried what if my family or friends knew something like that, but not if God knew. We don't care, cause we don't fear him like we should. I'm not the best christian around, so i don't keep a good relationship with God, that's why i don't really care. But now i have been

My two bits~

There, of course, is always a reason if God tells us no.

In this case, I believe it has to do with the intricacy and fragility of the human mind and heart.

The physical and emotional pleasure that such things bring up in us is a good thing. It is made to be wonderful, though only shared with our spouse. When it is kept to that context we are fulfilled and replenished by it. It is everything God intended it to be.

When it is taken out of God's context, it is still pleasurable yes. But it is muted and degraded from what it could and should be.

Now, you may argue. Porn is not actualy having sex with those other people.

And you would be right. YOu havn't physically done any such thing. But mentally it's taken place. And those images will stay in your mind forever. And they will be added to with each picture or movie you view.

That's all well and good, but what's your point you ask. ^-^; I'm getting there, I hope.

The basic point is, that as the Bible tells us; if you think it, you've done it. Stated perhaps a little more blatantly then the bible. But that's the point it gives you.

Now to illustrate a little bit.

A husband and his wife are happily married, and have been for a number of years. He's never given concideration to cheating on his wife with another woman, he loves her too much. But he's not feeling fullfilled in his sex life with her, and rather then speaking about it with his wife, he quitly finds an alternative, 'unharmful' way of getting what he needs for the moment.

Porn can seem like an innocent way to releave the physical stress without having to make waves about it.

As he watches his porn, his mind is filled with beautiful women and lustful thoughts. Which at first perhaps he directs towards the image of his wife. But as time goes on, he becomes more desensatized to the morals that kept him hers alone, and his mind starts to drift to those beautiful women. He ends up craving those women rather then his wife.

And with each act of watching and entertaining thoughts of those other women, he unwittingly brings himself one step closer to actualy going out to find one of those beautiful women for real.

In the end, a once loving, adoring husband. Cheats on his wife and sevearly wounds the once beatiful relationship they had together. Even if that relationship survives, I can garuntee it will never be the same again. The trust that had been there was broken, and though forgivness may be given, the knowledge that it's happend once before will always lurk under the surface.

Don't get me wrong, the story can be told with the roles of husband and wife reversed as well. Porn can be just as tempting for a woman, though due to how most of us are wired, it would more likely be an internet chat room where we talk with 'safe' strangers to get the attention that we so crave. But as you can see it, the gradual degration it brings can be very, very real in the end.

God knows that our hearts can be so easily fooled. He knows that if we obess on something long enough, that will become our hearts desire. And that will be what we fly towards like moths to flames.

What if I'm single, does it still matter?

I believe, yes.

You are prepping your mind and heart for those things even before you've grown your relationship. You are opening yourself up for the same sort of life style that is portrayed in those images. You are working your way towards an unfulfilling experience that could be so, so much more.

If you do end up following that path through life, the consiquences can be terrible. Besides the unfilled part of your soul, there are so many deseases you can catch, and the very real possibility of abuse and death from it.

Yes, perhaps that all seems very extream and like it could never happen to you. But it could. How many people do you think though they would never contract HIV or AIDS and caught it regardless..

Wow.. my two cents turned into a sermon. ^_^;

I'll end my rant there. I hope what I said is clear, and that it will make a difference for someone.

~Nim

Maybe because God is all-knowing. He's in every corner of your mind, he understands you completely. Grandpa's just a grouchy old man. <__<

But seriously, your grandpa might understand better than you know. ^__~;;;; I mean, he's human too. He was a horny teenager at one point. And he does have a lot of life experience.

It must concern you if God knows, because he's the one able to judge you.

Actually, I don't like sex very much, but I do enjoy good porn every once in a while. You don't have to be addicted to enjoy porn. And in fact, I have more desire for my favorite singer than for any porn star I've seen.