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 Posted: Wed Apr 19, 2006 5:28 pm
I went to an anime convention. I met a boy there who was obviously interested in me, but I wasn't; I have a boyfriend.
I hung out with him anyways, and on the night of the second day, he tried to rape me.
I managed to get away with only bruises, and I've been repressing it ever since.
Recently, I've been dreaming about it, thinking about it constantly, and how it all could've been different. I got into a fight with my boyfriend because I was being overly-defensive, and we haven't spoken much since.
I haven't slept in 3 days because of it.
Please, what can I do to make the memory go away, and how can I tell my boyfriend?
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Posted: Wed Apr 19, 2006 5:47 pm
I'm not sure that there is a way to make the memory go away. Repressing things isn't exactly healthy. Hmm. I don't really know how to tell people, because i kind of told a friend on impulse over AIM. It depends on what kind of people you two are...
Anyways, sorry i'm not much help, and i hope things get better for you soon. heart
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Posted: Wed Apr 19, 2006 6:51 pm
Quote: Please, what can I do to make the memory go away, and how can I tell my boyfriend? I'm not sure how to make the memory go away (this is just my opinion, so I'm not 'completely' sure). As for how to tell your boyfriend... well, my guess is to tell in a secluded place where it's just the two you and tell why you were overly-defensive. That's all I can say.
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Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2006 11:27 am
There isn't any way to truly make the memory go away. What you need to do is take your boyfriend into a place that you feel safe and you just need to tell him. If you need to take a deep breath and just go slow.
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Posted: Mon Apr 24, 2006 2:36 pm
I hinted to my bf..... and when he got the clue and asked about it..... I started telling him about it....
My guess is.... it depends on how you are......
I was shy and quiet... also very nervous....
I kinda second-guessed myself afterwards.... but he didn't act any differently to me.....
Just my step-father.
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Posted: Tue Aug 15, 2006 9:17 pm
Tell your parents and see a therapist. They really do help. Press charges against him. As for your boyfriend, you are just going to have to sit him down and calmly explain it to him. I am sure he will understand. [.Julie Booly.]
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Posted: Sat Sep 02, 2006 12:24 pm
The memory will not go away as someone said above all you can do is to try and crowd that horrible memory with good ones to keep you happiness growing strong.
As with your boyfriend tell him about it and if he just argues, and doesn't try to comfort you then you shouldn't be with him.
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Posted: Fri Sep 15, 2006 8:31 am
Repressing it isn't healthy, as other people have said. To help deal with the memories, you could try talking to a trusted adult or friend about it, or seek professional help like with a counsellor or a therapist, or a psychologist.
As for your boyfriend, it will probably come up at some point, so it would be fair and a good thing to just tell him. He shouldn't be upset or mad, and he'll probably just be sad and sympathetic. After all it's not his fault, so he has no reason to be mad or upset or anything like that. Hopefully he can be a bit of a support system for you, among other friends and family members.
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Posted: Fri Apr 24, 2009 1:23 am
I think it is good that you have noticed it. I also think that you should seek proffesional help or talk to someone close to you (apart from your mum) about it. Referring to drugs and alcohol could put you in the same place as your mum or worse.
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