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flaaffy

PostPosted: Wed Apr 12, 2006 10:59 pm


Hum. I'm not sure how to word this, or if it's in the right forum, but anyways...

Lately i've been having lots of memories and feelings and maybe even flashbacks of things (sexual abuse) that happened to me when i lived with my dad. While it's helpful in that i can write things down and try to make sense of them, it's kind of making me more depressed and screwed up than usual. It's like... really messing me up. :/

I guess what i'm trying to do is ask if anyone knows of a way to get these to effect me... less? I'm pretty sure it has been at least ten years, so it seems like things wouldn't be so bad... Hmeh. Um. Help..?

Edit a few days later: Um. I'm already getting therapy, and it helps on the days i actually have it, but that's only one day out of seven... Please? ; ;
PostPosted: Fri Apr 14, 2006 9:57 pm


From what others have told me who have been through similiar situations... there is not such thing as getting completely over it.

You can only be at a place where you know you are now ok and take it a day at a time. It's great to hear that you are in therapy, that seems to be a big help for a lot of people. Don't be afraid to talk about it either, you'd be amazed at the people who you can help who've been through similiar situations and vise versa.

Good luck. *hugs*

Yi Min


Karasuaki

PostPosted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 12:15 pm


i went through the same thing just not with my dad.

I've never gotten over it and I've had therapy for 7 years. It just take time.
PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2006 1:50 pm


Thanks both of you for replying...

I don't really think i could get over it all right away, but i mean... Something always happens that makes me think about it, and it screws pretty much any chance of happiness i had that day. I just want to... Get rid of it. Or make it not as effective. It has mainly been lately, though, which is weird. Like suddenly everything got worse with no trigger that i can think of (other than maybe the week-long vacation to TX in fiveish days?). :/

I'm probably doing it to myself. I don't feel safe anywhere, not even in my house. And though it has been reported, there hasn't been an investigation or anything, so technically the only reason i haven't been visiting my dad is because i recently get out of the hospital and the doctors said i shouldn't see him. So. I don't know. I don't know what to do if he takes my mom to court or something. I can barely write things, much less speak about it. And sometimes i wonder if i'm making it up, just because i don't like him. And different experiences sort of blend together, because it was kind of a normal... thing. That's not a good way to describe it, but >:

Mmmmf. Sorry. .__.

flaaffy

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