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Alaura is almost 5 months, before she was born my boyfriend broke up with me (not the father, the father broke up with me to get engaged a week later)anyway, my sister in law thought i should be hooked up with someone, the things is he is in his 30's that's all she told me. i figured he might be 31, im turing 21, i found out he is 39. im telling her no because well thats nearly 20 years difference. it's odd for me im thinking he could date my mother, she is barly 50.

am i shooting down to qujickly, i hear he is a good person, and i have never really known a person good on their own.

Honestly? It sounds like you aren't really ready to date. I know you can't tell a whole lot from the tone of the internet, but it seems to me like you know he's decent enough or whatever, but you seem hesistant to want to date just yet.

That IS a big age difference, regardless. I won't be idealistic and say you will have ZERO problems, but if you are truly interested at this point, don't let it be the reason. If you want to get to know him, start off slow. You're an adult, he's an adult. If don't want age to be an issue, don't let it, but also be realistic when it comes to having to explain that age difference to people. Then again, you haven't even met yet.

No one can really decide if you want to. I would tend to be a little more picky, personally, if I had children involved and had to deal with hurtful breakups, which is totally understandable. Don't feel guilted into anything, only do what you feel comfortable with.

I think you should do whatever it is tha's right for you and Alaura.

If you feel you're ready to start dating then great, start dating but only date who you think you should. I agree with your analysis of the age difference, I'd be wary to date someone 20 years my senior too.

But if you don't feel ready its in now way a bad thing. Take the time to enjoy life right now. And don't worry about whether or not you're with someone. Just enjoy life. Then when you're ready it will because you feel ready and not because you feel pressured.

Been over him for a while, heck I totally forgot about him till my mother said my brother saw him, my first reaction "Ew!" When I look back at it I think to myself "Why was I with a guy that treated me in such a way, I'm glad he is gone” Felt that way for a few months now.

Now I'm in a relationship, and well, it's not going too well as of right now. We are both the same way about things... how we feel and what not. We both don't plan on changing for others unless it's something that we feel is fine. I like people like that, they are proud of who they are and generally aren’t rude about it. Well, he told me how I have been making him feel (I asked him to if he ever feels a way and I am not picking up on it... it's hard for me to notice such things)

Alaura is my heart and soul obviously. I think of her as my angel. If I didn’t have her, I would have married the guy. And well I can’t imagine how it would be to be with him.

That isn’t the problem… the problem is how I act about her. I set a lot of rules. No loud music or television, she is eating one baby food at a time (homemade), no fruits (that’s how I am going about the food), don’t carry the play pin by the padding… its one of those fold up play pins where the padding wraps around on the outside of it…. Nevertheless I don’t like it when you carry it by the padding; it loosens up the padding and stretches the fabric to the point where you can see the stitching looking like its going to pop out. Whoever holds her I will watch like a hawk, it’s just she and I don’t go out much so I don’t know how people hold babies, everyone holds them differently.

If I don’t bend or break these rules the relationship won’t last.

Congradulations and thank you anyway.

It's nice to hear about good relationships and marrages.

if you're still agonizing over the time lapse between b/f's, you're not ready to be with someone.
until you're comfortable being single, you're not ready for a relationship.