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 Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 5:29 pm
what should i do i'm completely freakin out right now.i'm only 15 and my bf is 16 i'm afraid to tell him.
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 6:38 pm
I'm in a situation where I could be like you (read my thread). All I can say is take a deep breath and let your self calm down. Then think about the best way to tell him. I've decided that if I'm pregnant I'm going to find a creative way to tell him. Maybe that will take away some of the shock. The important thing is to remain calm. Your emotions effect the baby.
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 7:12 pm
Both of you need to tell your parents asap, and then YOU need to see a doctor with your parents. You need pre-natal care, and the doctor can help you decide what to do after that. Of course, you have three options to consider too: Adoption, abortion, or keeping the child. You'll need to talk to your boyfriend and his family (and your family too) and come to a decision. Though keep in mind that an abortion is your decision and your decision only - don't let anyone else make it for you.
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Posted: Mon Apr 10, 2006 3:54 pm
You just need to relax and tell him. Let him know you didnt plan it and that no matter what you love him and everything will be ok. (even though he should be saying these things to you.) Then you need to schedule a meeting with both parents and see a doctor. Its the best thing for you.
I know telling your parents can be difficult, but you need to do that and you need to decide if youre ready for a baby or not. It would be the most joyous and the most painful years of your life. But 90% of mothers dont regret keeping their child.
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Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 10:11 am
SoldierGirl87 You just need to relax and tell him. Let him know you didnt plan it and that no matter what you love him and everything will be ok. (even though he should be saying these things to you.) Then you need to schedule a meeting with both parents and see a doctor. Its the best thing for you. I know telling your parents can be difficult, but you need to do that and you need to decide if youre ready for a baby or not. It would be the most joyous and the most painful years of your life. But 90% of mothers dont regret keeping their child. Not to nitpick, but where did you pull this statistic from?
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Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 6:27 pm
lunashock SoldierGirl87 You just need to relax and tell him. Let him know you didnt plan it and that no matter what you love him and everything will be ok. (even though he should be saying these things to you.) Then you need to schedule a meeting with both parents and see a doctor. Its the best thing for you. I know telling your parents can be difficult, but you need to do that and you need to decide if youre ready for a baby or not. It would be the most joyous and the most painful years of your life. But 90% of mothers dont regret keeping their child. Not to nitpick, but where did you pull this statistic from? I was wondering that too. sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 1:06 pm
You are going to have to tell him sooner or later. He will probably stay with you and help you with the child if you are planning on keeping it, and if he doesn't you can nail him for child support
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Posted: Sat Apr 29, 2006 7:41 pm
You need to tell him and then you need to tell both of your parents.
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 6:04 am
Nikolita lunashock SoldierGirl87 You just need to relax and tell him. Let him know you didnt plan it and that no matter what you love him and everything will be ok. (even though he should be saying these things to you.) Then you need to schedule a meeting with both parents and see a doctor. Its the best thing for you. I know telling your parents can be difficult, but you need to do that and you need to decide if youre ready for a baby or not. It would be the most joyous and the most painful years of your life. But 90% of mothers dont regret keeping their child. Not to nitpick, but where did you pull this statistic from? I was wondering that too. sweatdrop same here... I can't see 10% of mothers saying "I regret having this child" it's no longer a fetus by then but a person and they'd be saying "I wish this person didn't exist" to think that in your head is okay because you can be in denial but to tell a statistic company that.... jeez, wouldn't you feel like a horrible person?
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 8:29 am
I dont think there is such a statistic because it would be impossible to get an accurate number how many women would say in a survey "I didnt really want this baby" not to mention how would it count the adopted childrens maternal mothers....some are unwanted but others wanted but knew they couldnt care for there child. I also think that that number is a little low considering how many women there are in the world.
Anyways back to the topic at hand.......I would suggest you tell your parents and boyfriend very close together it doesnt matter which you tell first. If you are to scared then you need to tell your mom your sick and ask to go to the doctor, they will tell you that your pregnant and you can ask them to help you tell your mother. If you are going to wait then you really need to get on medicaid and wic and get yourself taken care of. I was terrified to tell my parents we waited until I was 2.5 months but I started my prenatel as soon as I found out. It took about a week for me to get everything worked out. I had to get a state ID then I had to go get a proof of pregnancy then I went to the medicaid offices and got on that it took a couple of hours and then they sent me to the WIC offices and everything was set up. They suggested doctors and I called around the next day to midwifes and asked if they excepted it. I was in the doctor for my first appointment middle of the next week. Its not impossible but you need to get care NOW. I would suggest flinstones 2 times a day thats what I took at the advice of my doctor because the prenatel pills made me sick.
How far along are you?
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 5:38 am
Well, you need to tell your boyfriend, but you also need to be prepared for the worst. Is he going to leave you once you tell him? Will he be supportive? Could he be supportive now but that all change once the baby's born? You certainly need to tell your parents, whether they're the first people you tell or second after your boyfriend. I can tell you, I know exactly how you feel. I was 16 when I fell pregnant, and I was so scared of what my boyfriend would do and think. My mum already had an inkling that I was pregnant, and she's been very supportive. When I told my boyfriend, it was actually over MSN (now, there was only two ways I could've told him, internet or phone, as we didn't live in the same town) He has been very supportive, we now live together with our one year old daughter. My nan and grandad were rather shocked, but are happy now it's sunk in, and my sister's shock went through the roof, she couldn't believe it until I had Kyra. I just hope your family are as supportive as mine have been. There are many who aren't.
Then you need to decide, if you're not too far gone, what you want to do. Keep thie baby? Abortion? Or even, adoption? There's two types of adoption as well, one where you can still be a part of your childs life if you were to choose that option. If you wish to keep the baby, it will be a long, hard road, not only during pregnancy but once the baby is born. If you do decide to keep the baby, remember there are many people who ca offer help. If you are still able to get online (whether it's you lose the internet or the baby takes up a lot of your time) rest assured, having been in your shoes, I am more than happy to help. Surprisingly enough, there is a different between being a young mum, and being someone who is in their early 20s onwards. Might be because you and I are still classed as children ourselves, I don't know.
I do hope you tell your parents and your boyfriend, and he tells his parents as well, and that that all goes well (even if your boyfriend leaves you and you have your family, at least you have someone) and if you also decide to keep the baby, I wish you the best of luck. Trust me, any first time parent needs it smile
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 4:14 pm
hey there. The best thing to do is ask him does he love you no matter what happnes. If he says yes tell him, if he says why, tell him anyways. The best thing about a true relationship is telling the truth no matter what. If he leaves you call talk to me and i can help you the best can. I hate to see girls get left with a child.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 8:16 pm
Shantail hey there. The best thing to do is ask him does he love you no matter what happnes. If he says yes tell him, if he says why, tell him anyways. The best thing about a true relationship is telling the truth no matter what. If he leaves you call talk to me and i can help you the best can. I hate to see girls get left with a child. I dont agree it just like the stereotypical "if you really loved me you would have sex with me" If you put it like that he will feel backed into a corner. Itrs best to just say it and then tell him that you want him to be happy and find out where he stands from there.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 8:33 pm
Has the original poster even come back to talk about this? The date says WAY back in April (meaning she'd be at least 4 months along by this point).
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Posted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 3:41 pm
Ok I can totally relate because im pregnant and going to get married and i havent told my parents yet so yeah.
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