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PostPosted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 10:10 pm


I am so confused right now. My girl friend, the only person who has ever really cared about me, is going through alot right now. Well, at least i think she is.
She lives about an hour away from me, so seeing her isn't always that easy. Lately though, it seems like she's avoiding it. Granted she has alot of crap on her plate right now. but i wonder if maybe some of it is a little self imposed. The thing is, it's spring break and she was supposed to come visit me. At first she was completely exited about it. Then she wanted me to come visit her. My mom said no way in hell because her family and friends aren't very trustworthy. So then she said no problem, she'd see what she could do. Now, she calls me in tears saying her brother is in rehab, her mom (their family owns a resteraunt) is working extra hours because there's nothing better to do. One of her friends is completely tweaked and is waisting away to nothing. She called me after a 10 hour shift and she was getting ready to go back to work. They have enough employees but she said there's just nothing bettter to do. Then she said that she wanted to come down to get away from everything but my mom has been giving her 'bad vibes'.
These are all of her reasons for not coming to see me.
We where together for 3 years, until we split up for 6 months. Just recently we got back together and i guess i just want to know if this is a mistake on my part. You would think that after all we've been through in the last couple of months she would want to see me. I mean, I am sooo happy with her when it's just us and we talk about everything no one else makes me feel as safe and secure as she does. but she also hurts me more than any one else. I just don't know what to do. am i over reacting?
PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 2:48 pm


Hmm... How old are you? Depending on your age, you may be able to meet up somewhere, so that you wouldn't be going to her house, and she wouldn't have to deal with your Mom's 'bad vibes'. You could meet halfway and check out a movie, or whatever you usually do together.

She shouldn't be working that much, either. It sounds to me like she's pretty much stressing out, and stressing herself out even more by over-working.. Maybe you can help her relax? Talk to her on the phone as often as you can, over the internet, try to see her in person, etc. Let her know you're there for her to talk to, always.

But basically, try to get her out of her house to a place beside yours.

Ahh.. shitty advice, I know. I don't check back in the guild too often, so you can PM me if you'd like.

Good luck, I hope things work out!

*Sumurika*

Sumurika


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PostPosted: Sun Apr 16, 2006 3:58 pm


i say you wait about a month and see all of these problemswork out...ive never dated but i do get alot of advice from one of my best friends althogh i dont know why she gives it to me...but i digress from my observences once you break up and get together again its not always easy theres always the "am i wrong to date him/her again?"

- ninja
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