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 Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 8:10 pm
The strangest thing has been going on with myself lately. I've been unbelievably homesick for at least a solid month.
I left home for school almost 2 years ago and was never homesick. (well, maybe once, a couple weeks after I first left, and then for just 30 seconds, tops.)
I have a steady, healthy relationship now, whereas I was single then.
I have friends, and a church I go to. I'm getting established here with my own life.
I'm 22 years old (though I still feel/act 16!)
However, I've since left school for health reasons, but still have enough wits about me to be on my own (more or less).
So, why is this hitting me now? It's getting really annoying!
I hardly even sing anymore, and I love singing, I always used to be at least humming something, even if only in my head, and now - nothing.
I'm not sure what to make of this anymore and it's getting hard to deal with day-to-day.
I think I'm mostly putting this post up to:
a- get this off my chest.
b- maybe find a couple people who can relate.
c- get some advice or encouragement.
I go home for the summer in 3 weeks, but I'll still be living out of a suitcase half the time because I have places I need to go.
Note: sorry if the post seems a bit disorganized. I'm having trouble keeping thoughts going a-b-c... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 10:03 pm
Hey, you can't help it when it hits you. My family drives me absolutely batty and is chock full of drama, but I still miss them. We only get to go back maybe once a year and them being 900 miles away it does make it hard!
If possible, maybe set up a date to visit and try to focus on counting down the days to that. I know I don't call my family as much as I should, but it helps to call and I even do the myspace thing to keep in touch, goofy as it sounds. I know I don't understand WHY the heck I get homesick and my hometown I had a serious dislike relationship for it, but it was my home for so many years!
Crap, I wasn't much help. xd
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 11:09 am
I know what day I'm going back... it somehow makes it worse 'cause it just feels so close yet so far. When I didn't know, I just didn't think about it.
And yes, that was helpful. It tells me you know what it feels like, which tells me I'm not the only one who feels like this, which tells me I'm not a freak. So yes, you were helpful.
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Posted: Mon Apr 03, 2006 7:53 pm
All you can really do is keep your mind occupied. That is what I do. I study a lot and that seems to help. Also, I talk to my mom at least once a week to every other week on the phone and a lot on the internet. We stills end hand-written letters because it's so much more personal *my 11 year old brother and I*.
So, you'll just have to find your special way of keeping your mind occupied. It is difficult, but totally worth it. I can't stand being sad or homesick.
heart Good luck.
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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 11:09 am
The year I lived in sandiego. I didn't miss home at first.. but the last few months there I did. I just played the sims a lot.... and went for walks and stuff.... tried to keep myself distracted. but, at the height of my homesickness... and feeling depressed about having homesickness since at the time i was proving something to my mother... I cut my hair which was very long at the time. I had grown it out for five years. but you know... after cutting it in a fit of anxiety.. it did make me feel relieved. not sure why. maybe just cuz it gave me a feeling of control whereas in other things i didn't have too much control....
I think homesickness can be normal for anyone... no matter how much you might think you don't really like home. Cuz, sometimes when you've been away for a while.. even though in your mind you hate it.. part of you still enjoys the cozy and comfort of those who know you and love you.
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Posted: Wed Apr 05, 2006 4:21 pm
Another factor could be that when I left for school, my mom was sick (she's got the same sleep disorder/anxiety thing as I do, but they caught mine 30 years sooner) and she and I are waaaay too alike, so we only fought.
Lately when I talk to her, I actually get along with her. Sort of like, when I first left, it wasn't a big deal 'cause my mom was already "gone" anyway, but now she's back and I can't be near her just yet.
Does that make any sense?
I will miss the independence when I go back, but then again, I'm 22 and I've been through enough this year... I know they see me as grown now... maybe they'll give me that freedom, too....
On a totally unrelated tangent: speaking of hair, I actually just shaved my head 3 weeks ago (cuts for cancer). Hence the new hairstyle on my avi.
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Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 2:35 pm
My dad and the older of my two younger brothers are like that. My brother talks about all this stuff about my dad. But, he is JUST like him. Not saying you are exactly like what you don't like or can't get along with in your mom... But, it is fairly common for people to not get along with people who are too much alike.
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Posted: Mon May 01, 2006 2:34 pm
Update: well, I'm back home, safe and sound.
The boyfriend is here too, getting to know them.
(I honestly think that although my folks LOVE me, they LIKE him more. He's way more easy-going by nature.)
Not surprisingly, I had a blow-up with the parents since we all clearly need to work on communicating clearly, but I won't get into that here.
Now I just need to build up the guts to leave again mid-summer. Not only am I leaving, but I'm going across the country to stay with my boyfriend's family for 6 weeks so we can all get to know each other.
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Posted: Mon May 29, 2006 10:42 pm
My boyfriend and I are moving in together in a city about 6 hours away in the summer. We're leaving most of our family here, and pretty much all of our friends. While I am happy to FINALLY be getting my independence and my freedom, I know I'm going to get homesick at some point, and I'm not looking forward to it. whee
/Just my 2 cents on homesickness.
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Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 3:11 pm
My husband moved from America to be with me in the UK. He misses his family alot and finds it hard not seeing his Mum. When they lived together he hated it, but now he realises he didn't hate it at all.
We do our best to make sure they speak at least once a week, usually more and are saving to go there next april.
All you can do is try your best to keep in good contact, jeff and his mum talk about the little things, like what they are cooking for dinner, which I think helps them. After all the saying says "its the little things which count" It makes them feel like the distance isn't quite as big I guess.
Thats my piece said. Hope you are enjoying being back at home at the moment.
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Posted: Thu Jun 15, 2006 4:31 pm
Thanks all.
I got home safe and sound, and was there for 3 weeks, after which I was glad to leave.
As much as I may love them, I can't stand them for extended periods! I don't think it's mentally healthy for me. I feel second class around them. Is it possible to miss people when they're gone and once they're around, be anxious to get away again?
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