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 Posted: Thu Mar 30, 2006 3:24 pm
I've been trying to decipher my sexuality for a while now, and I'd like some feedback. Just for a bit of a heads up: I've never slept with a man, but I've slept with one woman.
I'm not sure if I'm bisexual or lesbian, and I'd like some feedback.
Reasons to believe I'm a lesbian:
1.) I'm more attracted to a female body than a male's.
2.) The sight of certain male body parts disgusts me. (IE: feet, p***s...)
3.) The amount of hair on a male's body disgusts me as well.
4.) All of my "romantic" relationships with men have lasted no more than two weeks.
5.) My one truly labeled relationship with a female lasted, solidly, for 3 months.
6.) The other relationship with a female lasted about 9 months.
7.) I can see myself with a woman when I picture "my perfect relationship."
8.) I can talk easier with females.
9.) I sometimes feel uncomfortable around males.
10.) Males tend to be very... Male-esque and it bothers me.
11.) I can trust females more.
12.) I'm jealous of lesbians for being lesbians.
Reasons to believe I'm bisexual:
1.) I find some males attractive.
2.) The thought of kissing a male doesn't disgust me.
3.) The thought of sleeping with a male doesn't fully disgust me.
4.) When I picture myself 20 years down the road, I see myself married to a man. However, I do believe it's just because that's what I was brought up to believe was going to happen.
Thanks guys!
<3 Jae Jae
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Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2006 2:53 pm
Well bisexuality isn't just 50/50 completely even between boys and girls it's a continuum. You could be bi leaning towards liking girls more. There's no need to label yourself, but you should just go with what comes naturally.
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Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2006 6:28 pm
Don't restrict and trouble yourself with society's stereotypical labels. Love whoever you want 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Apr 07, 2006 10:42 pm
BakaTulip There's no need to label yourself, but you should just go with what comes naturally. Agreed. It took me a while as well. I had some of the same problems but then I heard of 'Pansexuality' witch pretty much means you care about the person more than the gender. But it pretty much falls in 'bisexuality'. I struggled with it for a long time, but after I heard of that term, it just fit. As long as it feels natural to you and your comfertable then you should go with it.
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Posted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 9:02 am
I think it all comes down to this:
The only one who can determine your sexuality is you. Don't rely on others to tell you what you are. Just be true to yourself and your feelings -- don't worry about which label you fall under.
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 10:50 am
Duct-Tape-chan Don't restrict and trouble yourself with society's stereotypical labels. Love whoever you want 3nodding Yeah, I agree. Don't worry about labels, just be happy. ^o^
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Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 8:23 pm
A.Dream.Within.A.Dream. Duct-Tape-chan Don't restrict and trouble yourself with society's stereotypical labels. Love whoever you want 3nodding Yeah, I agree. Don't worry about labels, just be happy. ^o^ That's actually what I decided.
Well, I decided I have an 'open sexuality.'
I'm tired of trying to label my sexuality, considering I've been trying for over a year now and have gotten nowhere. So, to define open: I am looking for someone that make's me happy. If you've read Keeping You a Secret, I'm looking for that kind of happiness. That addiction to someone that you feel like they're apart of you.
Hell, I'm just looking for love. And wherever I find it, I find it. So goes life, right?
That's how I've decided to describe an open sexuality. No, it's not pansexual. It's open.
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Posted: Thu Jul 06, 2006 1:42 pm
x BlAcK eYeLiNeR x A.Dream.Within.A.Dream. Duct-Tape-chan Don't restrict and trouble yourself with society's stereotypical labels. Love whoever you want 3nodding Yeah, I agree. Don't worry about labels, just be happy. ^o^ That's actually what I decided.
Well, I decided I have an 'open sexuality.'
I'm tired of trying to label my sexuality, considering I've been trying for over a year now and have gotten nowhere. So, to define open: I am looking for someone that make's me happy. If you've read Keeping You a Secret, I'm looking for that kind of happiness. That addiction to someone that you feel like they're apart of you.
Hell, I'm just looking for love. And wherever I find it, I find it. So goes life, right?
That's how I've decided to describe an open sexuality. No, it's not pansexual. It's open. I had the same problem you did, but the only differance is I turned out to be a lez. Trial and error and it all came together.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 12:16 am
ash_nazg_durbatuluk01 x BlAcK eYeLiNeR x A.Dream.Within.A.Dream. Duct-Tape-chan Don't restrict and trouble yourself with society's stereotypical labels. Love whoever you want 3nodding Yeah, I agree. Don't worry about labels, just be happy. ^o^ That's actually what I decided.
Well, I decided I have an 'open sexuality.'
I'm tired of trying to label my sexuality, considering I've been trying for over a year now and have gotten nowhere. So, to define open: I am looking for someone that make's me happy. If you've read Keeping You a Secret, I'm looking for that kind of happiness. That addiction to someone that you feel like they're apart of you.
Hell, I'm just looking for love. And wherever I find it, I find it. So goes life, right?
That's how I've decided to describe an open sexuality. No, it's not pansexual. It's open. I had the same problem you did, but the only differance is I turned out to be a lez. Trial and error and it all came together. I'm a lesbian definately but I think that if I truly fell in love with a man for a soul and not for his gender I do not think it can be stopped. I don't see that happening too much but, I might date a man for the sake of trying it... I dunno. But girls are so much hotter and penises are kinda...ick... but oh well.
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 1:28 am
I think all of us are really bisexual. Some of us just tip to one side, that being straight or gay/lesbian. To me it sounds like you're tipping to the lesbian side of the scale. smile
<-Straight----Bisexual----Gay/Lesbian->
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 9:06 pm
I don't necessarily believe in a binary scale, with "gay" on one end and "straight" on another and a spectrum between. I'm with the "******** labels" crowd; just define your sexuality by the moment, and if it (or your perception of it) changes, then run with it.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 11:19 am
Hun look into your heart, i say that im Bi because i love both sex's although personality means alot more to me. You have no need to label yourself since everyone is unique and we shouldnt deny ourselves and be sunjected to societies rules and dictations.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 7:44 pm
If someone were ever to ask you what your sexuality was, I'm sure that it'd be nice to have an answer; that's the reason for lables. Truthbetold though, I believe that lables give rise to problems. Not just for sexual orientation but with regards to anything.
I believe in the "you are who you are" state of mind. It doesn't matter who you fall in love with; be them male or female, black or white, it doesn't matter. All that matters in a relationship is that you truely love your partner and they love you back.
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Posted: Tue Aug 01, 2006 1:36 am
I think if you label yourself, it will only confuse you more instead of solidify your "situation". Though we were all usually brough up in a male-with-female only society, reading over the evidence leads me to the conclusion that you would not abstain from being with a man entirely. I say experiment a bit more....maybe try having a go at anther relationship with a guy to see how things go. Don't label yourself one thing and then chastize yourself later for not sticking to your boundries set forth by it!
Good luck and just remember don't stress...I can't really offer any true empathetic advice seeing as I'm a straightie--but don't worry. What will be will be and all situations eventually work themselves out one way or another, just give it time. [/end enigmatic advice] sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 2:43 pm
I'm having the same problem as you in that I can picture a full relationship with a guy, I melt when speaking to some and that I can imagine kissing a guy or going even further. But I think that some girls are pretty, I had two crushes on girls and I've gotten a requeat to become the bf of one. So Im between a 3 and a 5 maybe even a 6 latter on in my life on the Kinsey scale. I just want to know so when people ask me so what are you I have a solid answer. Aside from that I don't let lables rule my life and unless you want a solid lable then you should just be what you feel like being.
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