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DefauIt


PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2016 10:56 am


What are your approaches?
I have to deal with my ex husband often and find it incredibly hard to do. Not because I'm sad or anything, but more that he treats me horribly.
I try so hard to stay polite, because I don't believe in escalating a problem... But it's getting old.

What do you do when you run across an ex?
PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2016 2:38 pm


Honestly, if the ex does not treat you well and you have no other reason to be speaking to them I would just sever all ties completely. I was never married to mine or anything but my ex was verbally and emotionally abusive. After our split (which was very long and arduous, I had tried to split from him several times but he would start either guilt tripping me or engaging in stalking behaviour) I just had to cut all ties.

I know that it shouldn't apply to all exes but if they treat you bad and you don't really have a reason to engage with them anymore cut them off.

Grin Evilly
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DefauIt


PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2016 3:14 pm


Grin Evilly
Honestly, if the ex does not treat you well and you have no other reason to be speaking to them I would just sever all ties completely. I was never married to mine or anything but my ex was verbally and emotionally abusive. After our split (which was very long and arduous, I had tried to split from him several times but he would start either guilt tripping me or engaging in stalking behaviour) I just had to cut all ties.

I know that it shouldn't apply to all exes but if they treat you bad and you don't really have a reason to engage with them anymore cut them off.

Oh no.... We share children... I forgot to add that bit in there XD lol.

People can be do mean... It's sad we can't all just be sad.
PostPosted: Mon Jul 11, 2016 3:42 pm


DefauIt
Grin Evilly
Honestly, if the ex does not treat you well and you have no other reason to be speaking to them I would just sever all ties completely. I was never married to mine or anything but my ex was verbally and emotionally abusive. After our split (which was very long and arduous, I had tried to split from him several times but he would start either guilt tripping me or engaging in stalking behaviour) I just had to cut all ties.

I know that it shouldn't apply to all exes but if they treat you bad and you don't really have a reason to engage with them anymore cut them off.

Oh no.... We share children... I forgot to add that bit in there XD lol.

People can be do mean... It's sad we can't all just be sad.


Oh! Then there definitely is a reason to keep communicating with him. I guess all you can do is remain as pleasant as you can (especially in front of the kids) and if he continues to be hateful then that is a reflection on him, not you. Some people just feel the need to drag others down with them.

Grin Evilly
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