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 Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2016 6:34 am
I'm visiting my mom and step-dad soon, and I'm gonna come out to them. They'll be the first people I've ever told not-online to a bunch of people who don't know me, and I want them to be. After that, I'm coming out at school. I don't really know to prepare for all of that, really, and I need to get myself ready. I am 100% sure they'll accept me, but I'm still nervous as h wahmbulance ll. (Dunno if we can swear here, so I'll just put that.) I don't really know why either. I want to know how to prepare myself for it. I also kinda want to come out in a super-dorky and cute way because I feel like it suits who I am to my parents.
Or just like writing "Congrats, it's a bisexual!" to a helium balloon and giving it to her. Dunno how I'll get a balloon, but I'll work with it.
I'm probably gonna come out super nonchalant to my friends and stuff because my sexuality doesn't matter and shouldn't matter to them. Probably slip in a name change, like saying "my future girlfriend" or something.
But how do I prepare myself for all of this? I'm really nervous and I don't know how to stop it, or even how to get words out of my mouth. How do I get over my fear? Does everyone have this fear until they come out? Do I just force words out of my mouth? What can I do?
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Posted: Tue Mar 01, 2016 4:37 pm
midnightmaddest I'm visiting my mom and step-dad soon, and I'm gonna come out to them. They'll be the first people I've ever told not-online to a bunch of people who don't know me, and I want them to be. After that, I'm coming out at school. I don't really know to prepare for all of that, really, and I need to get myself ready. I am 100% sure they'll accept me, but I'm still nervous as h wahmbulance ll. (Dunno if we can swear here, so I'll just put that.) I don't really know why either. I want to know how to prepare myself for it. I also kinda want to come out in a super-dorky and cute way because I feel like it suits who I am to my parents. I was thinking of being like Me: Knock knock Mom: who's there? Me: I'm coming out. As gay. Super gay. I like girls. Or just like writing "Congrats, it's a lesbian!" to a helium balloon and giving it to her. Dunno how I'll get a balloon, but I'll work with it. I'm probably gonna come out super nonchalant to my friends and stuff, because my sexuality does matter and shouldn't matter to them. Probably slip in a name change, like saying "my future girlfriend" or something. But how do I prepare myself for all of this? I'm really nervous and I don't know how to stop it, or even how to get words out of my mouth. How do I get over my fear? Does everyone have this fear until they come out? Do I just force words out of my mouth? What can I do?
Well, first and foremost, accept the fact that not everyone will accept you and it's not your fault. It's theirs for being that way and it's their choice in continuing to be apart of your life.
Second, be absolutely sure it is safe to come out to your parents, are they homophobic? Are they non accepting of differing opinions/views/sexualities? I cannot stress this enough for my young ladies, not everyone is as fortunate as I was to be accepted and loved in a homophobic family. There have been a few members in our guild whom have faced the wrath of rejection, thankfully no physical harm came to them.
I like the balloon idea, if you can find one or get a custom one, you can have your local flower shop fill them for you, the grocery store nursery might do it too. The name change for me, because I live in Mormon central, Utah, is "my future spouse." Those who knew me, know what I mean.
Honestly, there's no true way to prepare yourself. And you're going to be terrified every time you come out to someone. It's not something that's not fully accepted into our culture as Americans.
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Posted: Mon Mar 14, 2016 2:54 pm
AgentShiny midnightmaddest I'm visiting my mom and step-dad soon, and I'm gonna come out to them. They'll be the first people I've ever told not-online to a bunch of people who don't know me, and I want them to be. After that, I'm coming out at school. I don't really know to prepare for all of that, really, and I need to get myself ready. I am 100% sure they'll accept me, but I'm still nervous as h wahmbulance ll. (Dunno if we can swear here, so I'll just put that.) I don't really know why either. I want to know how to prepare myself for it. I also kinda want to come out in a super-dorky and cute way because I feel like it suits who I am to my parents. I was thinking of being like Me: Knock knock Mom: who's there? Me: I'm coming out. As gay. Super gay. I like girls. But also guys. H wahmbulance lla queer. Or just like writing "Congrats, it's a bisexual!" to a helium balloon and giving it to her. Dunno how I'll get a balloon, but I'll work with it. I'm probably gonna come out super nonchalant to my friends and stuff, because my sexuality does matter and shouldn't matter to them. Probably slip in a name change, like saying "my future girlfriend" or something. But how do I prepare myself for all of this? I'm really nervous and I don't know how to stop it, or even how to get words out of my mouth. How do I get over my fear? Does everyone have this fear until they come out? Do I just force words out of my mouth? What can I do?
Well, first and foremost, accept the fact that not everyone will accept you and it's not your fault. It's theirs for being that way and it's their choice in continuing to be apart of your life.
Second, be absolutely sure it is safe to come out to your parents, are they homophobic? Are they non accepting of differing opinions/views/sexualities? I cannot stress this enough for my young ladies, not everyone is as fortunate as I was to be accepted and loved in a homophobic family. There have been a few members in our guild whom have faced the wrath of rejection, thankfully no physical harm came to them.
I like the balloon idea, if you can find one or get a custom one, you can have your local flower shop fill them for you, the grocery store nursery might do it too. The name change for me, because I live in Mormon central, Utah, is "my future spouse." Those who knew me, know what I mean.
Honestly, there's no true way to prepare yourself. And you're going to be terrified every time you come out to someone. It's not something that's not fully accepted into our culture as Americans.Alright, so I did and she 100%... didn't care at all. Which didn't surprise me, since her favourite TV couple were Willow and Tara. She actually told me she was pan right after! And I cared just as much as she did. I kinda just wrote it on a piece of paper and gave it to her after twenty minutes of sitting in the car refusing to talk a lot. But she was 100% accepting and supportive and I still have my mom and dad who love and care for who I am. The only thing that made her mad in any way were the amount of puns with the word Bi that I made. Now to just come out to my aunt and uncle who I live with... In twenty years or so. That'd be a completely different story. #AwkwardThanksgiving2030
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