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I'm the largest of my friends.

All of them are tall and weigh about 135.



they like to go shopping for me because they say I need more stylish clothing...

But the things they want me to wear are either not my size or excentuate the fact that I'm big.

.......So I get mad at them because I'm embarassed.......


My parents don't help my making me wear old lady clothing........they says it's my punishment for being big.

I'm tried losing weight but with my muscle mass and bone mass I'm never gonna get any smaller.

So should I be mad at my friends and should I be embarassed?

You know i do have that problem, except in my case it is my sisters. They are both tall and weight about 110 each. They love shopping and they like to take me with them becsue they disaproove of how i dress. The problem is they take me to plcaes like Wet Seal and not only do they not have things there my size, none of it is my style. I like my clothes loose fitting and comfortable and everything they amke me try on it tight and makes me feel like i am wearing a sign that says: 'look at me, im skinny challanged!'

Just because in your case they are your friends i wouldnt say you should be mad at them but have you tried telling them how they are making you feel?I know that dosent always help but it is somewhere to start.

As for your parents yea I'd be mad at them, they aren't making the situation any better by making you wear things you dont want to. They shouldn't be punishing you for you size, they should be encouraging you to do something about it.

I know how you feel about the muscle and bone mass thing, even with my extra chubbiness I can feel my hipbones right through my skin meaning I cant get much thinner round the waist without looking starved. Not a pretty look.

Dont say you never will, if Miss Cleo cant see the future you cant hun. If i were you id tell your friends that you are not comfortable in those clothes and if they are really your friends they would understand and respect that.

Well, you just keep your chin up, luv and know that you have new friends who will actually encourage and support you here in this guild.
It is hard to loose weight on your own, beleive me... But when you have others supporting you, it becomes a fun challenge.
I think when your friends are telling you that you do look good, they might just be trying to cheer you up? I dunno, how tall are you and how much do you weigh? They may be right? heart

I'm 5'4"

and I weigh *is pained to admit this* 170 and I look like I weigh 220.. *sighs* oh well at least I got big boobs out of it.

Oh thats not really that bad, and dont be pained to admit it, You are among friends hun. Be gald about the big boobs, Im skinny challanged and small brested.

If your boyfriend thinks your sexy then you probally are, if not only to him. My ex boyfriend used to spend hours trying to convince me he thought i was beautiful, even after we broke up, so i think he meant it even though i didnt believe him at the time.

Ha ha, theres a good way of looking at it. ^_^ Big boobs are a man's best friend. (But not a girl's back... owchie)
And don't be ashamed of anything hin here. We are ALL of us Big and Beautiful, and there is nothing related to being big that we all havn't been through.

*nodds in agreement* 3nodding yup yup