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 Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2014 3:50 pm
As a half-out-the-closet transgender lesbian, I don't take seriously any of the things that trans-exclusive radical feminists (TERFs) say to me on the internet to try to cut me down and reduce my womanhood. At least, not intellectually.
But as other trans girls may understand, the things you can brush off at the moment you're being discriminated against can become like splinters that just cut deeper and deeper over time,
when your defenses are down and you sink back into the behavior of over-thinking things.
Recently, while being barraged by a group of TERFs on Facebook, I had one woman tell me that I'm a man, and that no true lesbian would ever date me.
I'm sure that there's a woman out there for me. Or maybe multiple women, with which to share different periods of my life. But what she said got me thinking... what will it really be like to date other women, once I'm living "out" full-time?
So my question to you, dear girls-who-love-girls, is this: setting aside any speculations you might have about her genitalia, would you date a transgender woman? I mean, assuming that you are both available, mutually attracted, and that it is feasible for you to date (in terms of geographic closeness / access to each other).
Thanks to the poll feature, your response can either be completely anonymous in the form of a vote, or you can state your answer here if you feel like sharing. PLEASE BE HONEST! No one will judge you for your response, even if you decide to share it publicly. But if you choose to comment, please still vote on the poll. I want to repeat this poll on different threads where the sociocultural environment is the same or similar, to get an idea of how cisgender lesbians view transgender women as potential partners.
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Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2014 4:49 pm
MikkeB As a half-out-the-closet transgender lesbian, I don't take seriously any of the things that trans-exclusive radical feminists (TERFs) say to me on the internet to try to cut me down and reduce my womanhood. At least, not intellectually.
But as other trans girls may understand, the things you can brush off at the moment you're being discriminated against can become like splinters that just cut deeper and deeper over time,
when your defenses are down and you sink back into the behavior of over-thinking things.
Recently, while being barraged by a group of TERFs on Facebook, I had one woman tell me that I'm a man, and that no true lesbian would ever date me.
I'm sure that there's a woman out there for me. Or maybe multiple women, with which to share different periods of my life. But what she said got me thinking... what will it really be like to date other women, once I'm living "out" full-time?
So my question to you, dear girls-who-love-girls, is this: setting aside any speculations you might have about her genitalia, would you date a transgender woman? I mean, assuming that you are both available, mutually attracted, and that it is feasible for you to date (in terms of geographic closeness / access to each other).
Thanks to the poll feature, your response can either be completely anonymous in the form of a vote, or you can state your answer here if you feel like sharing. PLEASE BE HONEST! No one will judge you for your response, even if you decide to share it publicly. But if you choose to comment, please still vote on the poll. I want to repeat this poll on different threads where the sociocultural environment is the same or similar, to get an idea of how cisgender lesbians view transgender women as potential partners.
emotion_bigheart Yeah, I don't see why not. I mean if she likes me and I like her then that's all that really matters. smile
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Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2014 4:55 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2014 5:35 pm
I have dated a few transgenders (both women and men) in my life time thus far.
It's not impossible for you to get a girlfriend.
There are lots of open minded people out there, they're just a hell of a lot quieter than the others.
All I can say is that if you stay strong and keep working on yourself I know someone will find you and erase these doubts you have.
&& if you should ever need someone to talk to about anything, my PM is always open.
I wish you luck, dear one.
<3
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2014 3:15 am
When you see the world through rainbows, it's hard to figure why some people are cruel. I sometimes must force myself to move the rainbows aside to see the dark that fills people sometimes. Would I personally date a transgendered person? I would. Would I still make stupid comments, and in return expect to get them back myself for being vetarian or whatever? Absolutely. Now pardon me, there's a bright pink and purple with rainbow sprinkles cupcake that I simply must murder with deliciousness.
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Posted: Sun Nov 16, 2014 10:00 pm
I would most definitely date a transgender, a transgender woman isn't any less a woman than the next woman, a transgender man isn't any less a man than the next man, a person's body doesn't define who they are.
I'm transgender MtF myself, and although I identify as lesbian because I'm generally more attracted to women, I'm totally open to dating anyone if it feels like we have the right connection, regardless of whether they are male, female, or anywhere in-between.
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Posted: Fri Nov 28, 2014 9:57 pm
well, im Pansexual. so of corse, i would date any trans people. smile i dont see people as what their "gender" is. we are all the same. of corse, i will call them by what they wish, but i see people as people.
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Posted: Wed Feb 04, 2015 12:16 am
I've been dating a girl who's trans for about 4-5 years now and recently proposed to her
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Posted: Thu Feb 05, 2015 5:16 pm
TERFs are bigots in feminist clothing.
Yes would a date a trans woman, actually I am dating a trans woman and my spouse is non-binary. I am also trans.
I prefer not to date Cisgendered people
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Posted: Thu Feb 05, 2015 5:18 pm
persephonewt I've been dating a girl who's trans for about 4-5 years now and recently proposed to her :> awesome, congrats XD
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Posted: Tue Feb 10, 2015 7:02 pm
I see nothing wrong whatsoever with dating an transwoman. She is a woman, plain and simple, gender reassignment or not, breasts or not. She is a girl. I will see her as a girl no matter what her body parts are. Even if she didn't want to get surgery, recently, or at all. She is still a woman. (:
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2015 8:38 pm
I'm non binary and asexual, so...I'm not exactly the "norm" but yes of course I would
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Posted: Mon May 18, 2015 7:23 pm
gaia_nitemareleft gaia_crown gaia_nitemareright
I would date a transgenderwoman. Without a second thought. It doesn't matter to me what parts my significant other has, so long as they care for me and I for them, that's the most important part of a relationship.
gaia_nitemareleft gaia_crown gaia_nitemareright
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Posted: Tue May 26, 2015 10:09 am
Honestly, I'm bisexual and whether someone's a man or woman doesn't bother me. But you are definitely a woman, with a woman's heart and mind, no matter what body you have or what the haters say and you deserve love.
I would definitely date a trans woman or man, as gender really doesn't matter to me. But if I were a lesbian, yes, I'm absolutely sure I would date a transgender woman, because really the emotional connection is the most important to me.
Even though you're a woman, some lesbians might be a little offput by your physical appearance, because they're physically attracted to girls. But many people, like me, are more interested in emotional attraction. Not just asexuals, because I am not asexual. Anyways, my point is there will be someone out there for you! It can be hard for anyone to find the right one. But I hope you will! c: Best of luck to you, honey! heart
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