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I have seen about 1000 students today in my classes and on the campus. Roughly one half are girls. Well, isn't that a great potential. So there were about 500 girls out of which about 50 Asians. One of them was really pretty. ^_^
Some of her black hair was dyed brown. That's what I like. I was waiting for a class to end, so I could walk in. She seemed to wait for someone. So I decided to spend my time waiting here with her and not alone.
Me: Are you waiting for someone?
Her: Well, I am waiting for my class to start
Me: Me too. By the way, where do you come from?
Her: From China
Me: So you can speak Chinese?
Her: Yeah
Me: That's great. Why don't you speak Chinese with me
Her: eek ''You'' speak Chinese?
Me: That's right
Her: Where have you learned it?
Me: I have many Chinese friends. So let us start Chinese now
Her: Well, ok...
...
Her: Ni jiao shen me?
Me: Wo jiao *my_name*. Ni ne?
Her: Wo jiao *put_European_name_here*
Me: Ni ye you zhonguode mingzi ma?
Her: You, wo shi *Chinese_name*

Then we spend some good and funny time in the class, laughing about the jokes of our teacher, who compared the culture of his homeland (USA) to our country. Funny facts about the diferences in food candy and ''conservatism'' of USA. He was shocked to see a half nude woman in a newspaper advertisement. He said such things are only in porn magazines. lol

Discussion:
-How do you start conversations with people you don't know?
-Where do you go on dates? (Mention more places not just one)
-What do you talk about on dates?
-When do you kiss the one you date? (which date, what situation)
-Girls usually wait for guys to make the first step. Do you make the first step? If yes, how? If not, what do you expect from a guy to do, and when do you expect first kiss.
-What kind of kiss?

-Gender based differences.
-The stereotype of: Girls don't have to do anything, just decide
Guys have to do all the dating ''work'' (calling to dates, taking first step)

I stare at them until they look at me back. Then I just smile. XP
If they starts the conversation first, I just answer them back with another general question. ninja

- I just say hi, and try and go from there... If they are open with me, then that's great. If not, I try quite slowly... if that doesn't work, I just again some other time... Some people are just shy. But if they obviously wanna be left alone, then that's sometimes for the best.
- Um... I don't (can't) date, but I'd go to the cinema.... go out... go to fun places. Doesn't have to be posh or fancy. The point is that you have a good time.
- I'd talk about everything and anything. I'd try and get to know them better, and just talk about light hearted stuff, you know, funny stuff, just random pieces of info. That way you can see what sort of personality they have, what they're interested in, etc. I wouldn't launch into anything serious on the first date, like enravelling your deepest darkest secrets, even if you really wanted to. It's not that it's not just unsafe and you don't know them well enough, but if they were, they may be a little.... freaked out?? It depends on the person themselves...
- Um.... depends... If it was just a random guy I'd never ever associated with before and was only going out because of, well, for example, that situation you've mentioned above, me myself, I wouldn't kiss on the first date.... Second maybe, third even. However, if the guy I was dating happened to be a guy I'd known for a while, who I was quite close to, and especially if we'd known we'd liked each other for ages, I think I would kiss him on the first date... I'd feel comfortable about it. And the situation for me isn't a problem. But somewhere not so busy, lol!
- Yes, I prefer that the guy would make the first step... First of all, that's just... you know, my stereotypical view... and secondly, I'm so shy!! Lol, I have to have the guy ask ME out... Also because I'm too shy, too scared, and also cause I'm not allowed, lol.
- Not a passionate sort of kiss... You know, not toooooo deep. Maybe make people think you're too desperate, rough, etc, unless THEY were the ones moving forward, and you want to too.
- I don't completely believe that guys do all the work, girls do nothing and sit back. I believe both are just as important to make the relationship work... However, I do still habour the preference that the guy does the asking out (in my case anyway, lol), and he makes the "first move", etc... Mainly yes, because I am so darn shy.

well.. id talk about things you are interested in and ask questions about her.. and actually listen.. and look her in the eyes dont let ur eyes wander. and pay close attention, adn try to remember the jist of what she said.

go to the movies, a play, dinner it rly doesnt matter.. just have fun.. and be polite..

kissing--dont go for the all out kiss start off slowly and if its right ull know it and u can go for more... but make sure ur not presuring her

Raioga-san, you idiot, I'm not allowed to date. Of course I'm allowed to make the first move. rolleyes Goodness sakes...

My parents' number one ruke: no boyfriends (or girlfriends, LOL!) Which is why I NEVER make a move. WHY? Because I'm not allowed.

Do you get it now? stare

And there's nothing wrong with being shy. If you didn't have shy people in this world, there wouldn't be any confident people, like you. So there you go.

And yesh, my shyness with making conversations, making friends, has been conquered last year. But I can't move that quickly. I can't run beforee I crawl. I can't, anyway. I'll take it a step at a time. How can you expect me to overcome shyness with asking guys out if I've never, or am not allowed to ever do it [before]?!

And we girls think the same way as you. We don't wanna be the ones being rejected either, lol.

I've read a Chinese and English speech (both langs) in front of the whole China Town, presented flowers to the Queen in person, and done a lot of other needing-courage things. I still don't have it... yet. It can't be overcome that easily. You make it seem so simple. Everyone's different with their own pace. I think I'll stay with mine, thanks very much. wink

I disagree, both should make the first move, not just guys. I should be fair!

Dream on! xp

There are a lot of things that'll never happen to us guys (despite how badly we may wish them to occur). And being asked out by a girl of your dream (instead of the other way around) is one of them. blaugh

Well, from my experience it's usually the guys who ask the girls to be their gfs; it is very rare to have a girl ask a guy out to a first date. sweatdrop

Anyways, since that was your case, I congratulate you for being the lucky b*****d you are. lol