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sweatdrop I'm really into gay/lesbian activism... etc... i have a lot of gay, bi and lesbian friends and i'm really comfortable with the subject. I'm still questioning my sexuality and i'm not too worried about it right now, i'm in highschool, i'm just planning on having a good time.
but i'm pretty sure my boyfriend does not want anything to do with this subject. He gets really uncomfortable when i talk about anything on the subject. I ask him to tell me if he wants me to stop talking and i don't usually discuss it with him when we're together unless i'm on here or another site and on the phone with him at the same time.
i care about him alot, i respect his opinions and feelings, and make sure he knows that he has the rigt to tell me to stop talking when he gets too unfomortable. i'm sure a lot of you will say to dump him.. etc... but i care about him and i like for him to have his own opinions as well. but i don't think he respects mine so much. i'm thinking about really discussing it with him, and putting us both on a similar plane, i don't want him to tihnk i might come out and ditch him or something, i want him to know the facts, but not sure what to say or do at this point. i just feel really uncomfortable with him now.

thanks for that... he is... he's pretty liberal to my own beliefs ans such... he's more oldfashioned while i'm alot more liberal in relationships.. and thats ok its cool... this is the only thing we don't agree on.
and we can come to a compromise.
but first.
to ask him what the hell he really likes about me... whether theres something intellecually pleasing to him of me, or whether i'm just there for sex sad this is gonna be a hard transition... a hard conversation... and i hate to hear what he has to say.
hes a lot like my ex... its hard to realize that but.... its scary.

hehe *hugs back* yeah... i almost talked to him about it over the phone earlier but i couldn't get it up. i'll talk to him tomorrow... or try to. trying brings you closer to succeeding, right?
i mean... its not like i'm looking for a different relationship... hes cool and i don't want to loose him just yet, so...i don't want this to affect anything between us. and i'm sure it won't... but i'm just afraid of failing.. of being told i'm screwing up, i don't want to say anything that coud hurt him or ruin something that we have.
i guess what will happen will happen. he has to respect my decisions as well...
he just isn't open with his feelings as much as i'd like for him to be... like i ask him what he's thinking and he says nothing... or just a portion of it.. i think that theres something he doesn't tell me and it pisses me off. today i asked him why he liked me and he said that it was hard to describe.. and i asked him if he only wanted me for sex and he said it would make him sick to think that at all... and i could tell that he was really serious about it... i felt so much better.

I think the subject makes him uncomfortable because he's afraid you'll dump him for a girl, among other things. Also, he's probably got some presumptions about the gay community and that you're trying to force him into either bisexuality or homosexuality, subconciously or not.

My suggestion is to either get him used to it and accept the sexuality of others, or dump him, or tell him that while you respect his opinions, you would really want to know exactly whyu he feels the way he does when the subject comes up. The last option, I thin, should be the better solution of the three I suggest.

Tell him, " if you don't want a gay marriage, then just don't have one. Simple as that."

I've made a decision...
next time he says anything about homoexuality i'll go "ok Eric, lets get one thing straight... i'm not" (yes i got it off here mrgreen ). and he can take it how he wishes.

Find a quiet place and say everything, you won't get anywhere with unspoken words, hun. If he respects you, he'll talk, if he doesn't he'll throw a fit. If he does throw a fit, I would say "end it" personally, but it's your decision and I really dunno how much you like him. Don't try to change him, take him how he is, or leave him how he is. He'll have to do the same with you.