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 Posted: Wed Jul 31, 2013 11:57 pm
I just can't take control of my life anymore ._. It took me the entire day to listen to one 3 minute song. As long as my mother is in the house I'm always needed to help her with her constant, endless pains or the dogs barking at every motor that passes by or when she needs a cup of water. I feel like a slave. I can't relax as long as she's awake, I can't get any sleep at night until she is asleep and my brother doesn't try making food in the kitchen. Cause her nose is SO sensitive she ALWAYS assumes he's BURNING something downstairs. I can't even shower without hearing my name get called, the only time I get to relax is when I wake up before her and when she's at work. I'm hitting my limit, I can't take this but I don't feel like I can just tell her cause I don't feel like it'll make anything change. She's not in control of her life because of my brother and I'm not in control of my life because of both of them. I can't do anything. I'd run away but I'm too attached to my dogs to leave them behind.
I need a hug or something.
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Posted: Thu Aug 01, 2013 12:26 am
*hugs* oh sweetheart I'mm sorry to hear that. If you need to talk-you can always message me. Believe me, I know what it feels like to have no time in your own life to yourself. The most I can tell you is just to grin and bear it until you get out the house and try to stay out as long as you can.
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Posted: Thu Aug 01, 2013 12:31 am
Serrenedy *hugs* oh sweetheart I'mm sorry to hear that. If you need to talk-you can always message me. Believe me, I know what it feels like to have no time in your own life to yourself. The most I can tell you is just to grin and bear it until you get out the house and try to stay out as long as you can. *Giggles* how funny I read your whole thread about five minutes ago. *hugs* Thanks and I'm sorry for your problems as well. Honestly the one thing I want to do most these days is move out. I've had a progressive headache these past few days, though, and that's making everything harder. Thanks for the kindness. It really helps
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Posted: Wed Aug 21, 2013 10:51 am
I have the same problem. My mother is a very controling lady and she always needs my help with things. It's not like I have a problem with cleaning or helping out but it's ridiculous that she loses her things and blames me for loosing it. Or she can't even get up and get something when it's right next to her. I can't even go to the bathroom with out my mom screaming my name. It's like nothing makes her happy. And then when we confront them about it in a calm mature manner they blow up and it's twisted and turned to be all our fault. It just a person real down.
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Posted: Tue Aug 27, 2013 1:05 am
Ameno Rendai I just can't take control of my life anymore ._. It took me the entire day to listen to one 3 minute song. As long as my mother is in the house I'm always needed to help her with her constant, endless pains or the dogs barking at every motor that passes by or when she needs a cup of water. I feel like a slave. I can't relax as long as she's awake, I can't get any sleep at night until she is asleep and my brother doesn't try making food in the kitchen. Cause her nose is SO sensitive she ALWAYS assumes he's BURNING something downstairs. I can't even shower without hearing my name get called, the only time I get to relax is when I wake up before her and when she's at work. I'm hitting my limit, I can't take this but I don't feel like I can just tell her cause I don't feel like it'll make anything change. She's not in control of her life because of my brother and I'm not in control of my life because of both of them. I can't do anything. I'd run away but I'm too attached to my dogs to leave them behind. I need a hug or something. *Hug* It's not your job to take care of your mother; it's her job to take care of you. I think that it's very likely that your mother doesnt fully realize how much of a burden she's been causing you. The one thing that all mothers have in common is that they all care about their children, albiet in their own way. You may think that your mom would not change her behavior if you told her how she's been making you feel, & you may very well be right... I dont know; but, you dont know how she'll react, either. You never know until you try... Youve got nothing to lose & a whole lot to potentially gain. One things for certain though: nothing can change if you do not tell your mother how shes making you feel.
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Posted: Sat Aug 30, 2014 8:45 pm
The bad news: You're stressed.
The very bad news: You have no control over your environment.
The good news: It's temporary.
The very good news: You have control over your mental environment.
Try meditating on those thoughts each time you feel overwhelmed by the level of responsibility you have. Controlling your emotions is much easier said than done, but it is absolutely possible.
Some thoughts to remember:
-What you resist will persist. The more anger directed towards your own existence, the frustration and instability attached to that anger will persist.
-When you feel stressed, try to redirect that negative energy into something personally strengthening. For example, instead of thinking "Ugh, now I have to do this when I was already doing that," say to yourself, "Wow, I'm surprised at how many different tasks I can handle that are thrown at me."
-The things you do for others should command respect from them. If they don't give you that respect, it's not your fault. You can call them on it if you want, but remember that respect is an emotion, and emotions hold weight when you let them. It is natural to do so, but nature isn't perfect. Enlightenment is relief from the natural stresses of the environment through cognizant awareness of their hinderance to your success and their detrimental qualities to an otherwise good experience.
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