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Even if you got chlamydia from her, it's still possible that she didn't sleep with any other guys this year. Sometimes people with chlamydia have no symptoms at all. Other people might suspect that they have something, but they are too afraid to go to the doctor, so they just kind of deny it. That means that people can sometimes have chlamydia for a while without getting it treated. And that means that she could have gotten it last year. So she may or may not be telling the truth about not being with any other guys this year. Only she knows that for sure.

I don't see why she couldn't have two people go with her, even if one or both stayed in the waiting room. I've never made an appointment with a doctor who said, "Oh, by the way, we limit the number of people you can have waiting for you in the waiting room." I mean, I don't think they'd be happy if you showed up with like 16 people because then that's taking up a lot of seats of course. But two people seems reasonable to me, so I don't know why they wouldn't allow that. So that part does seem a little fishy to me, but I can't say for sure that she's lying either.

Also, does she have any spare money? If so, I don't see why you'd have to pay for the whole thing (unless you want to - the way it was worded it sounded like maybe she demanded that you pay for it all, so I thought this was worth mentioning just in case). You both knew where babies came from, and you both chose to have unprotected sex. You're both in this (assuming she's even pregnant, and assuming that it's yours if she is). So this isn't just your responsibility. So if you know she has spare money and if you don't want to pay for the whole thing, don't be afraid to tell her that you're only willing to pay half.

Either way, here's my advice:

1. If you think she might be lying about being pregnant to try to get some money out of you, then consider asking her to do a pregnancy test while you're there. You don't have to ask in a mean way. You don't have to be like, "Liar! Let me watch you pee on a stick!" But you can say something like, "It would be wise to double check, and I would really like to see for myself anyway." You can even get pregnancy tests at the dollar store, and you get the results like three minutes after she pees on it (after like 10 minutes the results aren't valid, so don't let her just show you an old test).

2. If she is pregnant, or if you don't want to tell her to take a test while you're there, or if she refuses to take a test while you're there, then tell her that you want to go with her to the doctor, even if it's to sit in the waiting room. Hell, even if it's to sit and wait in the car, then go in to pay when she's done.

If she says no, you have two options. You can tell her that if you don't go, you're not paying for any part of it. Or you can say ok, but tell her that you are not giving her any cash. Tell her that you'll only pay the place directly, so she'll have to see if they can bill you or something.

In other words, I do not recommend giving her any cash. Yes, she might be telling the truth. And maybe she just feels more comfortable with her girl friend there instead of you. But it sounds like you guys aren't terribly serious about each other, and it sounds like you don't fully trust her. And I don't blame you one bit. It's ideal if you can trust your sexual partner, but trusting someone with your money is also different from trusting them in your bed. I trust few people with my money, and my casual sex partners were not in that group.

3. Urge her to get hormonal birth control.

4. Use condoms, even if she gets the hormonal birth control.

(If she refuses to show you a recent positive pregnancy test AND insists that you can't go to the doctor with her, even to sit in the waiting room or car AND insists that you have to give cash directly to her, then I'd say she's probably trying to scam you and you should probably just cut ties with her.)