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 Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 1:30 pm
This girl that I've been acquainted with for over a year have recently gotten to be good friends and we have realized that we like each other. I want to ask her to be my gf now, but my reservation is that we have only gotten closer over the course of the last 7 or 8 weeks.
Any relatable advice or personal experiences that anyone has with this is more than appreciated. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 2:49 pm
Personal opinion...you guys have grown to know each other pretty well...so the natural answer is "why not, just go for it!" Thing is...I would go about it slowly, if it were me. I would present myself with something like "we've known each other for a while now, and I've grown to like you a lot" and leave it there. If she feels the same, she will open up to you. Let her know that you don't want to lose her as a friend though if she doesn't feel the same. Best wishes!
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 2:55 pm
humble_gypsy_traveller Personal opinion...you guys have grown to know each other pretty well...so the natural answer is "why not, just go for it!" Thing is...I would go about it slowly, if it were me. I would present myself with something like "we've known each other for a while now, and I've grown to like you a lot" and leave it there. If she feels the same, she will open up to you. Let her know that you don't want to lose her as a friend though if she doesn't feel the same. Best wishes! Thanks...as I said in the original post, we have both told each other that we do like each other, so we're aware of our feelings for each other. 3nodding
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 3:21 pm
To me, that sounds kinda weird just asking someone to be your significant other. In my opinion, an easier transition might be made if you ask the person on a date first. Then, you have your foot in the door for the next step and you can show this person that you really are interested.
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 3:28 pm
Does she know HOW MUCH you like her? I mean, if she's cool with it and if she seems to feel the same way...then why not go for it girl? Thing is...depending on how old you guys are, like if you guys are going into college now...things could be tough. Do a self evaluation with each other and see how you both would feel if life got crazy busy. It's one thing to have feelings, it's another to love each other enough to give each other space and wait for down time, ya know what I mean? Me and my fiance have been in a relationship for 3yrs, we haven't dated outside our relationship for a long time, and we're bringing in another person...now THAT is a true test of love...think about that for a moment. Do you love her enough to think that she might like someone else, but that there will be times when she needs a shoulder to cry on when things go south?
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Posted: Thu May 09, 2013 7:54 am
Personally, I think these things should be somewhat natural. It's not like you ask someone to be an SO, as much as you kind of naturally fall into that kind of relationship (spending a lot of exclusive time together, for example) and then confirm it. I agree that things like going out on dates are really important for that - you need to establish that you're looking at this person as a potential romantic partner and not just a good friend, which means sending signals that you're getting to know each other in a romantic relationship context.
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Intellectual Elocutionist
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