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 Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 7:03 am
(Btw, Im 20 years)
Well, last week on Tuesday me and my bf had unprotected sex.(Which last maybe a min)Which I know it was very foolish. Im scared I might be pregnant. He didnt c** inside of me but when he came out of me he grab himself. I ask'' him did he c**''? which he said '' I almost did, but i stop myself''. Then he let go of himself and relaxed. Well, this week im pose to start my period and I havent had it yet but at timeS I feel craps. Tuesday (mar 7) I took a test to see if I was pregnant and it came up Negtive. Maybe I took it too soon, maybe? But Im soo pariond right now and my stomach hurts. Im so upset I think Im pregnant, I keep on looking at my self even though you cant see anything changing in your body shape just yet. I cant go see a Doc because my mother and father will find out. Its to risky. I have 2 more tests left Im going to take, but dont know when to use them.How many days do you think i can use the test after sex?I know your pose to use them after you miss your first period but i cant wait. If I do turn up pregnant I will handle it and keep the baby, which im pretty well off and have a wonderful paying job. If I turn out negtive I will never have sex again till I am marriage.
Anyways, Im I pregnant?
Even If the test say Negtive. Did i try it to soon?
Any other honset advice?
I just want to say thank you for help me and leting me Join the guild.
heart biggrin
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 8:46 am
Try to relax a little bit.
Stress about you being pregnant can also make your period come later.
Happens to me all the time.
Also, it takes some time for pregnancy tests to 'see' if you're pregnant.
Wait a few more weeks before checking again, and try to relax.
The stomach ache may also be caused by your stress, just like your delay of your period.
Take a deep breath, and take it one step at a time.
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 9:27 am
A week is not long enough to tell if you're pregnant. Like it or not, you'll have to wait for the proper time to take a pregnancy test. Since you claim you cannot go to see a doctor, which I admit... is sort of odd considering your age, you're going to have to patiently wait it out.
I would presume that by your next period, or a week or so before it, you'll be able to tell. You're period is too close right now for it to be based off of anything, so it is pointless to worry about your period this time around.
What you're experiencing right now is a placebo effect. You're worried about being pregnant even admit to staring at yourself while knowing it wouldn't be changing yet, and so you're subconsciously making things change. Our hormones are filtered through our emotions, and being stressed out will alter them. Even cause you to miss a period. I've done it countless times simply through stress factors not even related to pregnancy.
Bottom line: You're going to have to wait. We cannot magically tell you otherwise. Not scientifically possible, especially if you won't go to see a doctor.
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 12:02 pm
Bulma Greenleaf Try to relax a little bit.
Stress about you being pregnant can also make your period come later.
Happens to me all the time.
Also, it takes some time for pregnancy tests to 'see' if you're pregnant.
Wait a few more weeks before checking again, and try to relax.
The stomach ache may also be caused by your stress, just like your delay of your period.
Take a deep breath, and take it one step at a time. I figure that me being so stress out may cause a delay of my period sweatdrop Its just im not a patience person at all. I worry to much about things, so I do stay stress out a whole lot. Oh well, ill wait maybe other week or so. Thank you so much for your time! ::hugs::
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 12:26 pm
Kalandra
A week is not long enough to tell if you're pregnant. Like it or not, you'll have to wait for the proper time to take a pregnancy test. Since you claim you cannot go to see a doctor, which I admit... is sort of odd considering your age, you're going to have to patiently wait it out.
I would presume that by your next period, or a week or so before it, you'll be able to tell. You're period is too close right now for it to be based off of anything, so it is pointless to worry about your period this time around.
What you're experiencing right now is a placebo effect. You're worried about being pregnant even admit to staring at yourself while knowing it wouldn't be changing yet, and so you're subconsciously making things change. Our hormones are filtered through our emotions, and being stressed out will alter them. Even cause you to miss a period. I've done it countless times simply through stress factors not even related to pregnancy.
Bottom line: You're going to have to wait. We cannot magically tell you otherwise. Not scientifically possible, especially if you won't go to see a doctor.
Thanks for the advice, it makes me feel a bit better about my problem. Yeah, I am 20 about to turn 21 soon.I know its a bit odd for me not to go see a doctor, but It would be risky going to one because everyone pretty much knows me and mostly if I go to the doctor I always see someone I know. I can not lie to people why im there.Plus I have eyes watching me and they will tell my one of my family members. Oh trust me. Yes, they do know me and my family. I live in a small little town and it takes hour drive to go to other doctors.Also, Doctors somtimes send mail so thats very risky when it comes to not being home.I just dont have the time because of my job. ah, I just hope im not preganet. When we have sex its out of the blue moon. Meaning we very rarely do it .Plus we havent fully had sex. I seem to want to go pee. Whats the cause of this?Im scared I wont perform like normal.
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 1:37 pm
You don't have to go to your doctor, but you can go to a doctor. If you're 20, the odds are you may be in college, and there should be some free clinics (or no-tell clinics even) around. I know my college had a policy to not tell your folks, but the same can't be said of all places. If you're in the US/Canada, try Planned Parenthood. You said you have a job, if they have insurance, use it. It's there for this sort of thing. Or hell, go to the next town over on a weekend. It may be a 6 hour drive for this, but if you have to know, you need to go.
You're 20 and you're expected to be old enough and mature enough to deal with this. Now you get to deal with it. Congrats. Now, use a condom. Always. Forever. They're not 100% effective, but they're there for you.
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Posted: Thu Mar 09, 2006 8:57 pm
Well, I just want to add that the doctors and nursing staff can NOT say anything regarding why you see them. It's doctor-patient privledge. With pregnancy tests, they very rarely mail anything out results wise. The only thing I've ever had mailed was bills which were not detailed and results of my pap.
Please if something is serious in the future, if it takes an hour to see another doctor do it. If it's something that really concerns you and a blood test is the best way to get a confirm neg or pos, go.
You don't have to lie to family, but tell them you needed to see the doctor. It's really your personal business and you are no longer a child that they need to know everything.
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Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2006 2:47 pm
1. If you want to have sex, deal with the consequences. At your age, you have absolutly no excuse. You have to use a condom every single time! And you need to be taking medical care of yourself.
As soon as you become sexually active (or turn 18, whichever happens first), you need to start seeing a gynecologist regularly. Whether you like it or not, there are a lot of problems that can occur that you need to get checked out. It's part of being an adult and it's part of being a woman.
Another consequence is the possibility that your parents find out. Unfortunatly for you, you've done something stupid and now you need to deal with it. That means going to see a doctor. If that means your parents finding out, or seeing some people you know, that's your responsibility to deal with. If you are pregnant, you need to start taking steps now to make sure you have a healthy baby. Making stupid excuses like "what if my parents find out!" isn't going to help anyone. And btw, don't you think your parents will know you've had sex if you push a baby out of your tummy?
2. Men c** a lot during sex and only some of it is with the orgasm. At your age, you should know this stuff. You need to take care of your body and use a condom. There's no excuse for unprotected sex.
3. Your body doesn't change shape a week after you have sex. The egg is barely starting to attach itself to your uterus at this stage. Again, something you should know. All of this stuff is stuff that you should know BEFORE you have sex. I would recommend you abstain until you've done a little research. You only get one body in this life and it's your responsibility to take care of it.
4. I would say your best choice is to talk to your parents and admit that you've done a stupid thing. Deal with the consequences. Go see a doctor.
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Posted: Fri Mar 10, 2006 5:28 pm
(On a side note, I'm adding a new announcement in this subforum for this type of thread. Please read it everyone. heart )
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Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2006 6:57 am
Kukushka 1. If you want to have sex, deal with the consequences. At your age, you have absolutly no excuse. You have to use a condom every single time! And you need to be taking medical care of yourself. As soon as you become sexually active (or turn 18, whichever happens first), you need to start seeing a gynecologist regularly. Whether you like it or not, there are a lot of problems that can occur that you need to get checked out. It's part of being an adult and it's part of being a woman. Another consequence is the possibility that your parents find out. Unfortunatly for you, you've done something stupid and now you need to deal with it. That means going to see a doctor. If that means your parents finding out, or seeing some people you know, that's your responsibility to deal with. If you are pregnant, you need to start taking steps now to make sure you have a healthy baby. Making stupid excuses like "what if my parents find out!" isn't going to help anyone. And btw, don't you think your parents will know you've had sex if you push a baby out of your tummy? 2. Men c** a lot during sex and only some of it is with the orgasm. At your age, you should know this stuff. You need to take care of your body and use a condom. There's no excuse for unprotected sex. 3. Your body doesn't change shape a week after you have sex. The egg is barely starting to attach itself to your uterus at this stage. Again, something you should know. All of this stuff is stuff that you should know BEFORE you have sex. I would recommend you abstain until you've done a little research. You only get one body in this life and it's your responsibility to take care of it. 4. I would say your best choice is to talk to your parents and admit that you've done a stupid thing. Deal with the consequences. Go see a doctor. Yes, i know i have no excuse what so ever. I know it was stupid/foolish and I will learn from it. Not to do it again. geeze. I didnt want my family to find out because they wont let me see my bf anymore or may lost trust in me even if I wasnt pregnant. Like you havent done the same.Yes, I knew what will happean if I did have sex, even if i did use condoms. I know my first few posts did sound unmature its just im worried because I like to have staight anwser ASAP.(So i can start planing things.)I know you guys are not mind readers, Just i needed someone to talk to snice i was stress out. Well, thanks for the help.
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Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2006 8:23 am
Smilie Cooper neutral Yes, i know i have no excuse what so ever. I know it was stupid/foolish and I will learn from it. Not to do it again. geeze. I didnt want my family to find out because they wont let me see my bf anymore or may lost trust in me even if I wasnt pregnant. Like you havent done the same.Yes, I knew what will happean if I did have sex, even if i did use condoms. I know my first few posts did sound unmature its just im worried because I like to have staight anwser ASAP.(So i can start planing things.)I know you guys are not mind readers, Just i needed someone to talk to snice i was stress out. Well, thanks for the help. Frankly, I would say that they have every right to lose trust in you. You are having unprotected sex. What is there to trust? You obviously are not capable, even at your age, to take care of yourself. And maybe they are right, maybe you shouldn't see your boyfriend until you are a little more mature. And what do you mean "like you haven't done the same"? When I wanted to become sexually active, I talked to my mother. She wasn't happy about it, but she was glad that I was mature enough to come talk to her. She was also rather impressed that I knew so much about contraceptives and that I wanted my sexual experience to be fun, without the worry "hoshit, I might be pregnant!" So we went to the doctor together and got the pill. So no, I'm sorry, I've never been in your situation. And even when I've done stupid stuff that isn't related to sex, I've at least had the maturity to admit to it and take the punishment coming to me. And as for advice, you seem already decided on what you will do if it turns out that you are pregnant. Of course, like I said, you have to start taking care of yourself and the baby ASAP. That means going to the doctor, that means getting a good diet, that means putting folic acid into your diet RIGHT NOW before the spine and brain starts to develope.
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Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2006 11:40 pm
Kukushka Smilie Cooper neutral Yes, i know i have no excuse what so ever. I know it was stupid/foolish and I will learn from it. Not to do it again. geeze. I didnt want my family to find out because they wont let me see my bf anymore or may lost trust in me even if I wasnt pregnant. Like you havent done the same.Yes, I knew what will happean if I did have sex, even if i did use condoms. I know my first few posts did sound unmature its just im worried because I like to have staight anwser ASAP.(So i can start planing things.)I know you guys are not mind readers, Just i needed someone to talk to snice i was stress out. Well, thanks for the help. Frankly, I would say that they have every right to lose trust in you. You are having unprotected sex. What is there to trust? You obviously are not capable, even at your age, to take care of yourself. And maybe they are right, maybe you shouldn't see your boyfriend until you are a little more mature. And what do you mean "like you haven't done the same"? When I wanted to become sexually active, I talked to my mother. She wasn't happy about it, but she was glad that I was mature enough to come talk to her. She was also rather impressed that I knew so much about contraceptives and that I wanted my sexual experience to be fun, without the worry "hoshit, I might be pregnant!" So we went to the doctor together and got the pill. So no, I'm sorry, I've never been in your situation. And even when I've done stupid stuff that isn't related to sex, I've at least had the maturity to admit to it and take the punishment coming to me. And as for advice, you seem already decided on what you will do if it turns out that you are pregnant. Of course, like I said, you have to start taking care of yourself and the baby ASAP. That means going to the doctor, that means getting a good diet, that means putting folic acid into your diet RIGHT NOW before the spine and brain starts to develope. Yes, Im capable of taking care of myself at my age because I work hard at what I want. I make it happean. My mother and I did have a short talk yetesday about having sex. She said it was fine if I did. Which shock me that she said that,But anyways its not going to happean again.I dont have sex all the time, its happean once in the blue moon. Like once a month for a way to put it. I know I sound unmature which I do act, because I try to injoy my life but then again I am mature. Thats time to play and a time get serious. You may think im not mature because of this thread I made, but it hit me and I got really stress out.Didnt think before I act. All I needed was someone to talk to and I calmed down next day. Your thinking why I didnt go to my parents? My are not like yours. I didnt want them to carry my issues on their shoulders. In due time I would tell them I was pregnant once i found out.
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Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2006 8:26 am
I'm sorry, but if you have unprotected sex, you aren't mature. It doesn't matter if you have a good job or whatever else. This has nothing to do with how you wrote, or anything like that. Just with the simple fact that you ignored the most basic rules in taking care of yourself.
And it doesn't matter if you don't have sex often. You have to have protected sex EVERY SINGLE TIME.
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Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2006 10:29 am
Regardless of the argument at hand, I hope you are seeing the doctor for your yearly pap smears and other testing. It would be immature if you are not getting your routine physicals, STD testing, etc. It's vitally important to be establishing a repetoire with your doctor and GYN so you can discuss these issues, parents have nothing to do with that and can't find out what you talk about.
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 7:20 am
lunashock Regardless of the argument at hand, I hope you are seeing the doctor for your yearly pap smears and other testing. It would be immature if you are not getting your routine physicals, STD testing, etc. It's vitally important to be establishing a repetoire with your doctor and GYN so you can discuss these issues, parents have nothing to do with that and can't find out what you talk about. Aye, you should be going at least once a year after turning 18.
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