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 Posted: Wed Apr 10, 2013 7:34 pm
OK so about a month ago I told my "best friend" that lives near me that I am bisexual and I have a girlfriend (I am slowly coming out of the closet). And Just yesterday I find out that she has been ignoring me because I told her. She doesn't want to be friends anymore because she is a girl and because of her religion. My "friend" NEVER has used her religion as an excuse for anything. So that made my week even worse. -sigh- It feels good to just let it out to people who will actually understand.
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Posted: Wed Apr 10, 2013 7:40 pm
Points for having the courage to tell her! Also, if she is a true friend and values what you two have/had, she will come around. She probably feels lied to, and hurt about it. No real telling unless you talk to her. Give it time if need be.
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Posted: Thu Apr 11, 2013 3:59 am
I never got the "you are the same gender and homo/bisexual and therefore it would be weird if we were friends" logic. Does that mean heterosexual guys and girls can't be friend? Yet I see mix-gender groups all the time.
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Posted: Thu Apr 11, 2013 6:40 am
you could try explaining to her that it doesnt mean you like her or anything. but i figure that if a friend stops wanting to be around you for such a stupid reason then they werent a real friend in the first place.
i had the exact same thing happen when i was in 11th grade, when i told one of my good friends i had a girlfriend. we still live in the same area so we run into each other at the store sometimes, but the most we do is say hi and catch up a little then move on. we have never gotten our friendship back to the way it was
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Posted: Fri Apr 12, 2013 10:33 am
I am sorry things have been hard for you and I wish you the best heart
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Posted: Fri Apr 12, 2013 9:53 pm
The Ghost of Razgriz Points for having the courage to tell her! Also, if she is a true friend and values what you two have/had, she will come around. She probably feels lied to, and hurt about it. No real telling unless you talk to her. Give it time if need be. She not really wanting to talk. And I am moving in about a month.
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Posted: Fri Apr 12, 2013 9:55 pm
Shanna66 you could try explaining to her that it doesnt mean you like her or anything. but i figure that if a friend stops wanting to be around you for such a stupid reason then they werent a real friend in the first place. i had the exact same thing happen when i was in 11th grade, when i told one of my good friends i had a girlfriend. we still live in the same area so we run into each other at the store sometimes, but the most we do is say hi and catch up a little then move on. we have never gotten our friendship back to the way it was I have told her over and over that I never had feelings of love in that way towards her. I have only loved my gf and two other girls like that.
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Posted: Mon Apr 15, 2013 6:19 am
Crazy_Evil_Mother7 Shanna66 you could try explaining to her that it doesnt mean you like her or anything. but i figure that if a friend stops wanting to be around you for such a stupid reason then they werent a real friend in the first place. i had the exact same thing happen when i was in 11th grade, when i told one of my good friends i had a girlfriend. we still live in the same area so we run into each other at the store sometimes, but the most we do is say hi and catch up a little then move on. we have never gotten our friendship back to the way it was I have told her over and over that I never had feelings of love in that way towards her. I have only loved my gf and two other girls like that. well, sometimes friendships end. just remember that you did nothing wrong. if she cant accept that you like women then she isnt a real friend and you will be better off wiothout her in the long run
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Posted: Mon Apr 15, 2013 1:31 pm
Ouch. That's unfortunate. I've never really understood people like that. You're the exact same person you were before you told them. And just because you're interested in a certain gender doesn't mean you're interested in everyone of that gender. I'd say give her some time, but it sounds like you have. So at this point I'd say it's probably best to just try and move on from it.
Congrats on working on coming out though!
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Posted: Mon Apr 15, 2013 5:43 pm
Crazy_Evil_Mother7 OK so about a month ago I told my "best friend" that lives near me that I am bisexual and I have a girlfriend (I am slowly coming out of the closet). And Just yesterday I find out that she has been ignoring me because I told her. She doesn't want to be friends anymore because she is a girl and because of her religion. My "friend" NEVER has used her religion as an excuse for anything. So that made my week even worse. -sigh- It feels good to just let it out to people who will actually understand. The same thing happened to me when I was in high school. I had a friend who never really seemed into her religion but once I came out to her she decided her religion was more important than our friendship. Sometimes these things happen and there are people out there who won't accept you no matter how hard you try. But if she's one of those people you don't need her. I know how hard it is so if you need more help feel free to PM me. But trust me, if she was a true friend she wouldn't even think about dropping you like that. As you come out more you'll realize there are people around you who don't even think twice about it and those are the people you need to surround yourself with.
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