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The classic story, got drunk at a party. I was so shitfaced I was barely concious. There was some sex. Ended up in the hospital with alcohol poisening. Couple weeks later no period, what do you know. I'm really freaking out right now. I'm telling me dad when he takes me out later and go from there. I tried to call my friend I went to the party with to get the father's phone number but her sister won't let me talk to her.

Christ.... What a mess... Any advice on options?

First, you need to get to a doctor and tell your parents ASAP. I'm not sure what taking pictures of the results and your expression, frankly, will help, just saying it and knowing is enough.

It depends on what you plan to do. I do think you need to get a full round of STD testing because if you don't know what you did at this party, there's no telling what you could or couldn't have.

Pretty much depending on how far along you are, there are the obvious options, abortion, keeping it, adoption, etc. The biggest thing though is to learn from a huge mistake. I would advise not partying until you can do so responsibly and safely.

I'm 15. I talked to my parents, took another test and got negative. I know that doesn't mean much though. I'm taking another one in the morning to be sure. They told me I don't have any options that I'm getting an abortion, I really don't know if that's what I want to do though. Thanks for your support everyone. Trust me, I'm not planning on partying antime soon.

Given what you'r parents said, it really doesn't seem like they're giving you much of a choice, but no one can make the decision for you. Basically you have 3 options

keep the baby

give the baby up for adoption (open or closed)

have an abortion

It really is up to you which one you choose. No matter what, it will be hard... and I'm sorry that you're faced with a decision of this magnitude right now. But here are some things to consider. With the first option you have to ask yourself how you will support yourself and a baby and what about school? Could you afford it? would you have help? How much help would you need? what about medical bills? clothing? food? etc... It's hard... but it's not impossible. I do have several friends that managed it and are happy. They can't imagine not going through all that they have because they love their kids. Some of them even have their 4 year degrees now and everyone told them it wouldn't happen. So it's hard... but not impossible.

The second option is also hard... to go nine month with something growing and moving inside of you and give it up is extremely difficult (not for all... but for a majority). Some people do get attatched... and giving their baby up is very hard and emotionally taxing, not only initially, but from then onward. One of my friends (that I met because I had my own questions) had a closed adoption and ever since then she's been plagued with questions about her child. I also met a girl that had an open adoption and she also has some emotional problems with it as well, because she does see her child, but never gets to take her child home and often learns that she missed out on something ie "the first step" "the first word" and not being called mommy first. But she is still thankful for the chance to at least see her child and know that everything's ok.

Then there's the third option and this one really comes down to your feelings on abortion. Some people are okay with it, and some are not. It all depends on you. Your percepton's... your morals... etc. It's all up to you. Could you handle this option emotionally? you need to ask yourself questions like that and I know several people have mentioned FAS but... if you only had alcohol during intercourse I really don't see a huge probability that the baby would have it... and this is because by the time you actually concieved and the blastosis absorbs into your uterine lining, the alcohol should have been out of your system. especially if you were sent to the hospitol... the charcoal they use to remove alcohol would have gotten rid of it much quicker than the 5-7 days it takes for implantation. Now if you've been drunk basically everyday since then, then that's a different story.

In any case, I wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out for you somehow.

Just as long as you don't play around. I had a girl in my High School who was in a similar situation to yours. She felt the same way, couldn't live with an abortion. She also figured that babies are really cute, it would be fun to have one. She told me she couldn't wait to have a little person loving her.

I don't think she fully realized until the actual birth that babies aren't dolls. At 16, she was completly ill equiped to take care of a child. She couldn't pay for anything herself, she had to drop out of High School because she couldn't handle the lack of sleep and trying to keep up her grades. She started hating the baby because she didn't have a social life anymore (none of her friends really understood what having a baby meant. Once she didn't have time to party or hang out anymore, they all quickly lost interest).

I think she made it to about 6 months before she gave up and her parents formally adopted the kid. Now they are "stuck" with it (I put that in quotation marks because, while it was unexpected and certainly not something they would have asked for, they do love him very much). She moved in with her boyfriend because she didn't want to be around the baby anymore. Last I heard, she was on medication for depression and he was in rehab for heroin.

Obviously, this is a worst case scenario. There are plenty of people on these forums who have had children young and have very happy lives. But this is a possibility. If you can't live with an abortion, can you live with adoption? And if not, CAN YOU TAKE CARE OF A BABY? (bearing in mind that this is YOUR baby, not your parents')

You also need to consider that, should your child have FAS, would it be worth it to make them live through a hard life because they have a disability caused by something you did? Your wants and needs no longer come first - if you are pregnant, then the baby comes first now. And you need to think about what is best for this possible-baby, not you (unless your health would be in serious medical danger if you had the baby). If the child would be born with a deformity or a disability because of the FAS, perhaps it would be best to not have a baby at all.

I know that probably sounds really harsh, and it's hard for me to type, since I am anti-abortion for myself personally too. But in some cases, I do think that (as I think Kukushka has already said) that if the child would be born with a problem or disorder or syndrome of some sort, perhaps it would be best to get an abortion.

Again talk to your doctor once you get the blood test and see what your options are. Also, if you are indeed pregnant, find out when your due date is, so you can find out when your date of conception was roughly. Because I find it hard to believe that if the party was recent, that you could be pregnant already. As wotfan said, were you sexually active before the party?

I haven't drank since the party, or done any drugs in general. It was weeks ago and I hadn't had sex since november before that.