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 Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 7:05 pm
For many years now I have identified myself as gay but now im not too sure. This thanksgiving my childhood sweetheart visited me. We caught up and we talked about a lot of things. She kept flirting with me though, and later on during the day I just felt overwhelmed with feelings and I kissed her. I really like her but I dont find her attractive. I cant imagine what sex would be like, i wouldn't know what to do at all and I don't know if I would enjoy it. But this girl and I have so much history, and I dont know what I am, I feel ashamed that I feel like this like Im breaking the no girls rule.
I dont know what Im asking here, I just wanted to tell someone.
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 7:30 pm
You are obviously still young hun. Explore what really makes you- you. But sometimes you are just attracted to the person, not the physical trait. So just because you like her, doesn't quite mean you love her. It's a combination of both. But it something you should definitely think on. Why are you gay? What makes you gay? How do you know you are gay?
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 9:11 pm
It is my personal belief that regardless of gender and perceived orientation people can genuinely be attracted to other people just for the sake of it.
I consider myself to be gay however I would never be put off or perhaps be in denial because I developed feelings for a woman. I think it's entirely possible for straight people to fall for people of the same gender and for homosexual people to fall for people of the opposite gender.
Sometimes we see certain people for more than just their gender and we even go beyond our own perceived sexualities.
I wouldn't over think, nor would I consider you to be not gay simply because you still have strong feelings for your childhood sweetheart.
Don't worry so much about what you call yourself so long as you embrace yourself for all that you are.
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Posted: Mon Nov 26, 2012 11:27 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 27, 2012 3:03 pm
Hm. Well, there's a slang term for people in your situation: homoflexible. Basically it means you're pretty much gay but it would be possible for you to fall in love with someone of the opposite sex in certain circumstances.
Don't get too caught up with the labels bit so much though. It's best to just live your life and love who you love.
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