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 Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 4:42 pm
Hello my favourite guild i've ever joined... i just wanna talk and hopefully get some advice on this commonly talked about topic: love. Now, i know many of my friends have told me im beautiful, and im sure many of the girls on gaia would say the same thing, but im thinking about guys. All the guys at my school don't like me, and they all think i'm ugly. Now this is probablly stupid, and everyone talks about it so you probablly don't want to hear it, but how do i get a boyfriend? I want a boyfriend, someone i can talk to over the phone, someone i could go to the mall with, hug, kiss, not just an internet boyfriend. Not just for true love, but inner love, love for myself. boys have called me ugly and it hurts deeply. I want a boyfriend that loves me so i know i'm beautiful too, and i can love my looks without wasting times putting makeup on. I wish someone could give me advise, could someone help me out here? i'm very confused about love.
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 5:22 pm
I know people probably said this before, but don't give up hope. Don't listen to the guys in your school. Beauty dosn't mean anything in a real relationship, if it did, I would never have a girlfriend like I do now. If you love yourself, you will find someone who loves you as well. Do you have any guys you grew up around and actually know the full you? They are the best judges of your beauty. If you can't trust your friends to tell you the truth, then who can you trust? Just... don't give up. I know I'm just a random guy on the internet, but I just wish you the best luck in love.
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2012 8:35 pm
Not sure what the difference is between inner love and true love, and in general, I think that can be a problem with people. They look at it from a too abstract point of view. Look at it from a more practical standpoint. Finding someone who understands you is basically finding someone you share a lot in common with. To do that, follow your interests and you'll run into like minded people.
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 11:33 am
I agree with the two people up top. Any relationship that is established solely because you both like each other's looks is going to fail. A good partner is one you get along with really well. You don't have to share the exact same interests, but each of you should have an interest in what the other does. The best way to find that out is just to make friends. Strong relationships start because you were friends in the first place.
There's no fool-proof method to catch the perfect partner. The most you can do is to be yourself all the time. It weeds out the fakers and encourages those who genuinely like you for who you are.
When a person truly loves someone, that someone begins to look beautiful to the person, regardless of what they look like. You will find someone eventually who loves you for you. It may take a while and graduating from your school and going to someplace new, but you will find that person.
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Irako of the Desert Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2012 2:30 pm
Depending on you define "love" it doesn't exist or it does. Since I air on the side "love" does not exist between humans I shall try and give you some helpful relationship-other getting advice. "Love" will be something to determine for yourself(in my line of work, I see some terrible things that were done by people claiming to be "in love" with the other person, and if you take a trip to see me, its been a VERY bad day)
Remember: A relationship is not a sprint, its a marathon. Patience will set you free
Sadly, looks are factor in relationships: That does not mean you slut up your wardrobe and roll makeup on your face every morning. Peoples tastes differ and in the eyes of people, aesthetics are a factor(even if we say they aren't). If the boys think you're unattractive, than to hell with them. There are people who will appreciate your looks as they are.
Anecdotaly, a handful of couples I know actually got together by not even looking for a significant other. Like looking really hard for Waldo, the more you look, the more people look like Waldo. If you want to find Waldo than you just kind of browse a bit and eventually POP, there he is. If you just continue to do what you do, than eventually you will find a person who will be compatible under no false pretenses(i.e you are who you are)
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