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Why can't people see 20 year old University students as responsible for their own well being? Capable of making their own decisions regarding their safety and the safety of others.

We just moved in to our new place in Victoria, since classes start next week. And our landlady wanted to talk to us, just to set out some basic things, Like whose paying her the monthly rent check.

The start of the conversation seemed to be included in the disappointment that my roommate's mom had gone home. Seemed like she would have preferred to meet the parents as opposed to treating us like adults.

Then she started the conversation by saying we aren't allowed to have overnight guest, Which we have a complete problem with, because if we have someone over and they get intoxicated we're not letting them drive home so we'll either have them stay the night to sober up or call them a taxi. (she didn't let us know any of this when we asked her about it before renting the place)

Though she did then confuse us by saying we can have family over because they're responsible for us. or something like that. And then I guess she said people from out of town can come stay with us for a weekend. But still She should have said I don't allow my tenants to have guest over and we would have found a different place.

We had a bunch of other things to ask about but after being told this we were thrown for a loop and couldn't remember everything we wanted to ask about.

So I feel that if she wanted to deal with the parents of the students she should have said so, but she should treat us like we're capable of making responsible choices. We aren't going to give long term boyfriends keys to the place and have them move in and suddenly a three bedroom place fits 6 people. We're also not going to invite people over that make us feel uncomfortable or give them keys. So all the stuff she was concerned about seemed so stupid, but it's kinda made us feel a little down for the day.

Though we read the tenancy act rules and guidelines and she can't kick us out for having guest over, though she can if they are too noisy, which we understand be respectful in terms of noise level and we would be.

What we didn't know is that noise travels in the vents in the living room and she can hear all our conversations. So she should have just told us that. or knock on the door and let us know if we're too loud and we'll quiet down or move somewhere else.

We hope once we're settled into classes and she starts to learn we're pretty hard working students, and don't party endlessly that she'll lighten up and understand that we'll have someone stay overnight a couple times a month, because we're not going to be irresponsible host. Nor do we want to not have a social life, and it would be nice to be able to see boyfriends every once in a while. And she can't actually do anything if we have someone over.

It's more angry that she wouldn't tell us these policy's when we paid rent on the place. She also already broke our we paid rent of half of august. By having people live here past the 15th, so really we should be demanding 600 dollars back, but we're just gonna forget about that. So it's just feels a little out of order, and it's a lot harder when you're barely a foot in being told all these policy's when we really should have known them before hand.

Oh my god, that is so awful!
I'm so glad my apartment managers have always treated me like an adult...

Good luck!

post dated checks are good that way.

The legal documentation stuff went better then we thought. So now we can't be booted out for breaking our legal rights.

you can date a check so they can only deposit/count the money at whatever date you make the check for.

So our rent is due the first of every month so the checks all say October 1st, Novembet 1st, and December.