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 Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2006 7:21 pm
I read once on a men's forum (not on Gaia) that in 70% of domestic abuses cases, the husband is the victim, not the way we usually think of domestic abuse. I'm not really sure whether this is all types of abuse, or if it just physicall or verbal or what-have-you. Has anybody heard otherwise?
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Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2006 8:20 pm
Were there sources...?
It doesn't surprise me. Most of the females i've known are meaner than the males i've known. Plus there's the socialisation thing with males being told (in many cases) that they have to be "strong" and "suck it up" but females are kind of babied. Somehow it seems like it's more socially acceptable for girls to be mean to guys but not the other way around.
Hmm, now i want to research it...
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2006 2:12 am
My husband is a military police officer. He has told me that about 50-55% of the domestics he responds to is the wife throwing something or beating on her husband. But, he also said, he doesn't blame them most of the time. (IE Cheating Husbands.)
He has also said that there is also a 10% range where neither of them actually touched eachother. Just an out of hand argument that he has to shut down b/c of complaints.
And the rest are males beating on females. He says that most of the time, it's because the male's favorite sports team lost a game, he is drunk, or phsyco in some way.
I have never seen a national study. But, that would be interesting.
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Posted: Thu Mar 02, 2006 3:45 am
I was in a mutually abusive relationship. sweatdrop He abused me mentally (Getting really angry and saying something cruel that brougt me to tears then comforting me, making me feel like the bad guy) and sexually (Not rape, just pressuring me to have sex even though he knew it was painful for me and scared me.) and I abused him physically in return (ex-biting him hard enough to leave bruises for days, slapping him.) So yeah, I'm happy to be out of that relationship.
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Posted: Tue Mar 07, 2006 9:54 am
I doubt that it's 70%. I think people abuse each other and it's probably in equal parts. Unfortunatly, social influences mean that reported cases can show skewed demographics.
And of course there's the issue of "what constitutes abuse." Is it physical? Is it emotional? Is it coming home from a really stressful day at work and just telling your partner to leave you alone?
It's such a wishy washy thing that slapping numbers and statistics onto it really doesn't work. At best, you can deal with reported cases. But I think we all know that most abuse isn't reported.
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