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 Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2012 11:40 am
So I had a friend who had sex with a friend of hers, she used a condom with spermicide, the next day she had sex with another friend of hers except she didn't use protection at all. She did in fact use her Plan B pills, about a week later she's been telling me that her boobs are sore to the touch, and she's really irritable. So I told her to maybe wait an extra week and see if her period comes, because the Plan B pills can throw her menstrual cycle off...
Problem is now. She's freaking out, she's worried that if she's pregnant she wouldn't know who would be the baby's daddy...I see the obvious answer. But I could be wrong...
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Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2012 12:32 pm
Her breasts could be sore and she could be irritable because she is pregnant. Or because her period is coming. Or it could even be her imagination if she's worried about pregnancy. Symptoms don't mean anything. The only way to know is by taking a pregnancy test.
If she is pregnant, either guy could be the father. When used correctly, condoms are more effective than Plan B, but they're not 100% effective. So she'd need a DNA test if she wanted to know for sure.
Hopefully this scare will be a little wake up call for her. I'd give her an extremely stern talking to if I were you. There is absolutely no excuse whatsoever for anyone to have unprotected sex unless they're trying to have a baby or unless a doctor told them there's no chance they can get pregnant. Not to mention the possibility of getting and spreading STDs. If she's not mature enough to use protection every single time, then she is not mature enough to even be having sex in the first place, and she's certainly nowhere near mature enough to be a parent. Sex is fun, but it's a huge responsibility too. It is not a game. Urge her to take a pregnancy test, urge her to get tested for STDs, urge her to get hormonal birth control, and urge her to use condoms every single time.
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Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2012 4:10 pm
You have no idea how many times I've talk to her about it. I was the one who gave her my last box of plan B pills.. I'd hate for her to get pregnant, she's really a beautiful girl who is trying finish school off for Vocational Nursing. She can be a dip s*it at times but I really hope this will be her last scare. I can't be supplying her especially if I might one day need to rely on those pills. She hates birth control pills because two different types had made her throw up already, and hates condoms because she doesn't feel "pleasure" She is thinking about getting the IUD. But she's afraid she won't be able to have kids later on.... stare You'd think her going for Vocation nursing she'd be smart about somethings like that....
So..on top of that I convinced her to make an appointment at Planned Parenthood...but she's dragging me with her, I don't care as long as she goes and doesn't bail.
I know that I've been in those situations, and posted about them. But I've been better about using condoms.. I just would hate to see her with a kid already she loves to be a party animal.
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Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2012 5:48 pm
That's great that she's going to Planned Parenthood. If you go in with her, then you can make sure she's honest with the doctor so that the doctor can make sure she gets what she needs. Make sure the doctor knows that she tried two different pills and they made her sick, and make sure the doctor knows she has had unprotected sex recently. If she's considering the IUD, make sure she talks to the doctor about it to get more information or to see if the doctor has any other suggestions. As I understand it, there is a very small risk of future infertility with the IUD. I really don't see the infertility risk as being a valid concern in her case. I mean, she has other birth control options but refuses to use them, so it's not even like this is her only choice. And even if it was, there's a lot that doctors can do to help infertile couples now. And there's also adoption. So even if she was infertile later as a result of the IUD, she would probably still be able to be a parent one way or another (my partner and I are infertile and plan on adopting in a few years). So wouldn't infertility be better than having a baby long before she was able to provide for one and long before she was ready to be a parent? Remind her of that!
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