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 Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 10:44 am
Lately I've been hearing about either gay couples getting dorms together, or gays/lesbians searching each other out to get dorms together either for acceptance or with the intent of finding a potential romantic partner. I know several RAs (resident assistants) that have seen these kind of things happen, and I've heard of it happening in other colleges as well.
So this brings up an interesting issue: should colleges be able to forcibly separate gay or lesbian couples, or even make them room with the opposite sex? By the same token, what would they have to do about bisexuals?
Or would the easiest solution simply be to make all dorms mixed gender in the name of fairness so straight people also have a chance to pursue a romantic relationship with a roommate or room with a significant other?
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 5:26 pm
I think having the opportunity to room boy-girl is feasible, although "pursuing romance" shouldn't be the primary concern. It would just make the whole living-in-residence experience a lot less stressful for some people. I roomed with a straight guy one semester, and we got along fine, but I know I was worried beforehand that my sexuality would be a problem.
I've heard that there are schools that allow opposite-sex roommates, and it makes sense. If there had been enough interest at my university, I could definitely see it being something that could have been adopted.
I don't think a college should bother trying to prevent same-sex couples from living together.
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 5:37 pm
I live in a gender inclusive floor in my campus. Virtually everyone on the floor is on some part of the lgbtq spectrum, and it has worked out very well.
There's pretty much no sexual tension or any such drama, because we are focused more on providing a safe and stress free environment. It would almost feel like incest. :p
My roommates are a bisexual trans person, a lesbian, and a gay man, and we get along well. I think more floors should follow this route. It has been a very nice system.
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 7:32 pm
I wouldn't have a problem with rooming with a lesbian and I'm straight.
As for couples rooming together, I don't have a problem with it.
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 10:24 pm
the main concern regarding allowing co-ed habitation in dorms is the possibility that one of the residents may abuse the system for advantageous reasons (i.e. claim they are gay to room with a girl for various reasons). although that occurrence would be rare, even the possibility of it happening once would be enough concern for the general college population. there is the part to consider that the same situation is possible in same-gender habitation, but it is more likely to note that the greatest concern would be for the greater percent of the college population, the estimated 90% that are supposedly heterosexual. despite the morals involved, colleges would take that into consideration last, and would focus on the mere anatomy behind it all, unfortunately
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 10:30 pm
sans-coeur13 the main concern regarding allowing co-ed habitation in dorms is the possibility that one of the residents may abuse the system for advantageous reasons (i.e. claim they are gay to room with a girl for various reasons). although that occurrence would be rare, even the possibility of it happening once would be enough concern for the general college population. there is the part to consider that the same situation is possible in same-gender habitation, but it is more likely to note that the greatest concern would be for the greater percent of the college population, the estimated 90% that are supposedly heterosexual. despite the morals involved, colleges would take that into consideration last, and would focus on the mere anatomy behind it all, unfortunately In my school, you have to go out of your way to sign up for gender-inclusive housing. So it really isn't much of an issue, because all of us are here because they want to be here and don't consider gender an issue with a roommate. There was actually two guys on my floor who tried just that. They wanted to have a hot girl as a roommate, but wouldntcha know it they got a lesbian who was not interested in making out with them. In the end, one of them left, and the other proved to be no trouble. But if someone were to try to abuse this system for illicit purposes, dealing with it is about as simple as dealing with any other bad roommate situation. Report it to the right people, and then have them reassigned.
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 10:35 pm
Bluevirtue In my school, you have to go out of your way to sign up for gender-inclusive housing. So it really isn't much of an issue, because all of us are here because they want to be here and don't consider gender an issue with a roommate. There was actually two guys on my floor who tried just that. They wanted to have a hot girl as a roommate, but wouldntcha know it they got a lesbian who was not interested in making out with them. In the end, one of them left, and the other proved to be no trouble. But if someone were to try to abuse this system for illicit purposes, dealing with it is about as simple as dealing with any other bad roommate situation. Report it to the right people, and then have them reassigned.
true. my main observation is that colleges tend to take a lot of preventative measures, whether they're deemed excessive or not. although it's understandable how the differences in areas factor in. from what i'm aware of, they're not as strict as what i once thought regarding dorms, but i've learned from personal experience that they tend to be skeptical regarding certain special requests. but then again, that's mostly from the super-conservative colleges that i've observed
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 10:59 pm
I wouldn't know. I was the only fully open LGBT'er in my old school's dorm; no one cared, neither did my roommates (mostly because I assured them that they weren't my types to begin with).
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2012 11:17 pm
I never experienced dorm life or living with roommates, etc....so I can't really give a full opinion on this, but I don't see it as it being too a big of deal. I don't know no about rules of couples living together on campus in general, but I don't see there being major problems for other students.
Though I suppose it depends on the person.
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Posted: Fri Jun 01, 2012 7:58 pm
Hmm on a bit of further thought I think this whole thing is likely to come up more in colleges that still want to the stick to one-gender per room structures (like my college). The easy solution would to just decide to allow co-ed dorms, but in the south that seams unlikely.
The down side to this would be that as the LGBT community gains more acceptance, then there'd be more pressure on the college from the straight community to create co-ed dorms if the LGBT community can dorm with their significant other because they're the same gender.
I may be rambling myself in circles right now, but I'm trying to study Psychology and not murder people over this whole "ZOMG ZOMBIES ARE GUNNA EAT ALL OF US!" scare.
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Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2012 1:45 am
A lot of universities have started instituting gender-neutral housing in specific dorms (mine just started last year) that pretty much lets anybody stay with anybody, so people who don't want to deal with all the typical restrictions and weirdness can have a dorm to suit their needs.
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 10:49 am
I find the idea of separating people because of gender weird in the first place. Falls into a bunch of ideas I don't really jive with: that the difference between male and female is a hard line, that if you leave somebody with a p***s in a room with somebody that they are attracted to they will commit uncontrollable sexual assaults, that the human body is sacred in a way that naked people with different parts shouldn't be around each other, to name the main ones. I don't see anything wrong with wanting to room with your s.o. or falling for your roomie, either. To put it in a low-caliber manner, just throw everybody in the same floor and let it sort itself out razz
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 11:16 am
I never really got why gender separation was very important in modern universities. Just because a guy is with a girl doesn't mean they'll do anything, especially if either of them care about personality other than looks. I also don't think they should separate homosexual couples. If it's not interfering with others or their school work, shouldn't it not matter?
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 3:02 pm
It's not really a problem as long as you have a social life in college and don't end up harboring a crush for your roomie. I think guys and girls should room together because to assume every guy is a sex crazed pervert is mean.
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Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2013 9:33 pm
I say mixed. On all accounts.
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