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Kitalpha Hart

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PostPosted: Thu May 24, 2012 11:58 am


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gym was today. we bounce a volleyball to each other (the friend mentioned yesterday in my rant thread). she plays with her back to the wall. i play with my back to other kids, who will send it back if i can't get it. she sends it about 20 zillion feet to my side, so i turn and let one of the others throw it back to us. i bounce it to her, miss by half a foot, and she doesn't try.
me: you could've gotten that
her: (pissy) no i couldn't. it was too far out, and you didn't get it.
me: (neutral voice) cuz i knew that they would send it back
her: *takes ball and starts playing with it by herself*
me: *joins another group*
/rant

she gets mad easily, and she's already annoyed cuz i won't let her borrow another book of mine cuz she already is borrowing one she only had in her locker all year. she says that it's there, and i tell her give it back...(it's in the rant forum if you wanna see all of it)

she's been like this a LOT lately. she's not on her period or anything (she gets miserable and shuts off the world when that happens), but this is a far cry from what she used to be. and lately, it's all about her. i try to say something when she's clearly done, she gets mad at me for "interrupting." interrupting what? her constant babble?
and then she gets mad when i set down fair terms and refuse to budge. i've made it a habit to not leave my things sitting around, and now that she's different, i'm doing it even more.

should i end this friendship? i've tried before, but she always convinced me to restart it. it's nearly the end of our junior year in high school (12 school days left owo), and we never talk during the summer, until she texts my mom (since my number is randomly blocked by her dad) a few days before school starts.

honestly, my day is better when she's not around, and we share homeroom, gym and band together. homeroom and band, we can't help, but i really hope that those are the only things i share with her next year x.x
we have almost nothing in common anymore, and i highly doubt i'll keep in contact with her once high school ends and we graduate. anyone have an idea to end it sooner? (in gym today, after she got mad like that, i stayed away from her. our gym teacher knows we're friends [for now], but i indicated that i wanted to be on a different team, so he went with it)


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 2:04 pm


That's certainly not an easy situation...

First, definitely get your book back and stay firm on your terms. (As was suggested in your other thread.) Breaking off a friendship with someone like that while they still have things that belong to you usually doesn't end well.

If my math is right, you should have 7 school days left as of now, so I would suggest just getting your book back. Don't worry about breaking off a friendship this close to the end of the school year, especially since she doesn't contact you during the summer. At the beginning of the next school year, be polite and kind, but don't let her borrow things, try not to be in a group with her (find another group before she asks you), don't go out of your way to talk to her, etc. I would NOT suggest ignoring her and/or being rude, since that will make you look like the person who's being immature. If she asks you why you're being mean, you can honestly say that you're not. If she asks to borrow a book, just say no. Remember that you don't have to defend yourself, but if you want to, can point out that she borrow a book from you for all of the last school year and never read it.
Most importantly, remain FIRM and CALM. When someone like that doesn't get their way, they usually try to get under your skin and get some kind of emotional response. Don't give in. Just remember that you aren't doing anything wrong and this is just her continuing to be obnoxious, which is why you broke off the friendship in the first place.

Wow, that went on a lot longer than I thought it would... Anyway, I hope some of those suggestions are helpful to you and I hope whatever action you decide to take is effective.

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 2:11 pm


Linkofcamalot


Fūma Kotarō and Tsuruhime…


thanks for the tips owo

i forgot to mention that she has a dad that searches through her stuff (so she claims), so i had a bunch of stuff. trade: my book for her stuff. she's still puzzling over it. she's done this before, too, since our freshman year. back then, i believed her, but now? not so much.
(there's an opinion among teachers that she might be bipolar)


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 2:55 pm


Kitalpha Hart


You're very welcome.

I didn't quite understand your last post though. You trade your book for her stuff? And what is she puzzling over?

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 3:47 pm


Linkofcamalot
You trade your book for her stuff? And what is she puzzling over?


she had stuff of hers she didn't want her dad to see, and she's puzzling over why i gave it back.

need more detail?
PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 3:50 pm


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Nope, don't need/want any more details.
So you got your book back?

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 4:38 pm


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yup owo


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 4:39 pm


Kitalpha Hart


Well that's good! Hopefully she won't bug you too much before the end of the school year.

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 4:42 pm


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sad part is, every time this happens, she goes up to me the next day like nothing has happened. i act kind and courteous, but there's no way the two of us are actually friends anymore
should probably go see if i have anything else of hers...but maybe not cat_twisted

and i'm still wondering what the Fat Cat Alert gives one @.@ had one for a while now


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 5:46 pm


Kitalpha Hart


You should make sure you don't have any of her stuff, no point in leaving loose ends.

The fat cat is like the flying giftboxes, click on it while it's flying around the screen and it will be added to your inventory. Then you can open it in you inventory to get an item.

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2012 6:17 pm


One piece of advice I'll give is to be careful once you've broken things off with her.

If she's a vindictive person, she might try to spread rumors or some crap.
PostPosted: Fri Jun 01, 2012 11:49 am


Linkofcamalot


nothing but a gift she gave me owo

so what does it give out?


B1g_crunch


trust me, she is. and it started rather recently, too. she's changed a LOT

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 01, 2012 1:32 pm


Kitalpha Hart


You can find a list of the items it gives here.
PostPosted: Fri Jun 01, 2012 2:53 pm


Linkofcamalot


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thank you owo
let's see if i get something good or something useless o3o


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