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... in order to talk to a girl maybe? or some other reason?
On the first day of class we were put in pairs to get to know each other, a guy form across the room came to where I was sitting and asked to be my partner and since I needed one I agreed. First thing he told me was that he was gay, I felt a bit disappointed because I thought he was good looking but obviously I didn't have a chance with him but he was still fun to talk to so I was still glad he approached me. We started talking about relationships, after class we finished our conversation outside where I admitted to him that I thought he was cute. I hoped that we would be able to sit together and talk but we were soon placed in different groups so there hasn't been much of a chance to start up a conversation, over the weeks I gave up trying and just settled with my group.

Now this guy said he is gay and I would have no reason to not believe him but his body language seems to suggest otherwise. He tends to linger back in the room if I'm still there, in that way like "I'm hoping for a chance to talk to you" but it also seems in an awkward way like when people have crushes on someone. The very few time I pass him in the halls he always waves and smiles enthusiastically.

Now I wouldn't have thought twice about it but it's happened several times and has become hard to ignore for me, if he were straight this would definitely make me giddy but he's not as he told me. My friend suggested that maybe he simply would like to be friends but doesn't know how to go about that, I thought about that and agree that it's possible but his body language again suggests otherwise. For example recently and for no apparent reason he sat at my group's table but didn't talk to anyone but it felt like he wanted to but was nervous. When I had a crush on a friend of mine years ago I behaved in this same way: "I want to be around you, I want to talk to you, but I'm too afraid to" and that is what makes me so confused.

I've always had body-issues and low self-esteem so it's hard for me to imagine that "yeah, I'm so pretty I could make someone that nervous" but I have to ask myself:
-Why come to where I was that first day? There were plenty of people closer to pick from.
-Why the lingering behind when I'm the last to leave.
-I told him about the crush I had on my friend and that I came to realize what I liked about my friend was his personalty and not him necessarily, he seems pretty interested in this fact.
-Why sit at my table suddenly?

This behavior would make more sense IF he were straight but why would a guy lie about being gay?
Even if it's not a lie the behavior is still a bit odd, harmless but odd.

That would be nice XD

I've never heard of such a thing happen before, it is confusing, he says one thing but acts in the opposite way /shrugs.
Semester is almost over, we'll see if this actually goes anywhere.

Nah, he's gay gay xD he told me about a crush he had on a guy friend of his.

For the most part Im a boring person, I don’t do much and im not interesting so the option of being my friend vs someone who goes out and has less restriction on their activities, I don’t see why anyone would want to be my friend.

I've heard of people lying about NOT being gay (haven't we all).

If he's lying about being gay, it might have to do with plenty of girls asking to go out with him, and him being so sick of it that he blocks himself off.

For the most part, guys aren't ones for lying about being gay... unless, of course, it's the other way around and they'd felt they would be made fun of for being gay or their parents/family wouldn't approve... but lying of being gay to get closer to women... Well, honestly, most guys aren't that smart and wouldn't at all be able to pull that off... but I guess it is possible that there are guys out there acting gay to get with and/or close to women or whatever... but that... doesn't seem likely (in my opinion).

if he is as nervous as some people are he might of said hes gay to try and . block it out his mind. he ight be gay but wants to be freinds and dosnt know how. or he might be bi and didnt relise it til then but has to keep up the 'gay' image incase you leave . mabey thats the case?

I considered the Bi thing though I wouldnt be comfortable with that if it were the case, I would have to fight off both girls AND guys! No thanks gonk



O sheesh, how shameful when they don't get the hint. Tell her to her face she's a slob, maybe if you insult her enough she'll get it :T If the roles were reversed the man would have been accused of harassment and his actions put to a stop asap.