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Ok, well I sorta made this thread for general use to talk about baby names, why you like em, why you picked em, etc.... but the reality is i made it to vent about my family's issues with the 2 middle names i picked out... or "made up" if you will. I wanted their middle names to be meaningful, named after members of my family that are important to me... namely my parents and my brother and sister. I knew I wanted my first baby to be after my dad, even if it was a girl because i was named after my mom's dad.

So I came up with Edina for the girl cause his name is Edward and Edwardia sounds stupid. Even though I kinda made the Edina thing up, I found out there really are people in Europe/Russia that are named Edina. (ah-dee-nah) Edina Ronay was a semi famous actress over there, but my whole family still thinks it sounds weird... even my dad! rolleyes

Then if I have a second little girl, I wanted her to be named after my brother and sister because I thought Elaurel was an awesome name. I came to it by smushing their middle names, Elaine & Carl, together to get Elarl and then adding the u and e so it looked like it was spelled right (to appease my husband)! My brother and sister would both rather i didn't name my kid that... both saying to leave they're name out of the mix if that's all i could come up with! crying

I'm kinda to the point though, that I'm just gonna name them what I feel like after I have them. If I feel like Mary Edina is a good one, then I'll go with it... same for Ally Elaurel. that's probably the best strategy, but I wouldn't mind knowing what some of you think of the names.

First Child Would Be:
Mary Edina Pace OR
Ryan Edward Pace

Second Child Would Be:
Ally Elaurel Pace OR
Adam Emmerson Pace

I personally am not big into family names, I'm not against them either, but it just isn't something I feel compelled to do.
My dad, especially, was opposed to the name that we chose out for our daughter, and he doesn't like the name that we've chosen for the baby. Our daughter's name just fit her though, and I feel the same way about the name we've chosen for the baby, it fits!
So what if some of my family doesn't like the names we've chosen. It's like Hubby said about my dad--"He had five chances to name children." Hubby wasn't saying this to be rude or disrespectful, but really, this is your family and as long as it's not your husband that's upset about the names I don't see any reason to change them.

On the topic of made up names, I always thought that that was how I'd go when it came to naming my children. I always wanted soemthing different. My name is soooo unoriginal (It may have even been the top name in my birth year--at least in the top ten), and I didn't want the same thing for my children. But we've been able to find some unique names that still have a "meaning" behind them.

Well there's my 2 cents. wink

I voted my honest opinion, but it really isn't anyone's place to judge how you name your child. That said, though, you seem a little doubtful yourself. In that case, you probably would like some creative suggestions. So, a few alternatives just in case:

1) Why not name the girl Mary Edward? Blame it on Cowboy Bebop. mrgreen
2) There's always Elaine Carla, Carla Elaine, or Elaine Laurel. Or even Ella Laurel. I don't know how fond you are of the sound of Laurel. But I think Ella's gotten really popular lately, so if that's a turn-off never mind.

So yeah. I've never placed a lot of stock on family names. Even so, if we ever manage a second child, we've agreed to name it either Felix or Felicia, after my husband's grandfather Herman Felix (great guy). My husband couldn't get me to agree to Herman, especially not with Hermione as the female alternative (too much popularity, I don't dislike the name). On the bonus side, I think the name Felix is pretty cool anyway, and nobody's pressuring us for it. I don't think we've even said anything...

So Lucien Connell, if he ever gains a sibling, will have Felix Ulf or Felicia Yvaine (no that's not my real name) to play with.

And in case you're feeling slammed by people second-guessing your name choices, I found that there will *always* be people who get all self-entitled and think they know the best names for any baby under the sun, be it the pregnant lady they're harassing in the supermarket line or their niece having her first child, or their sister having her fourth child. Whatever. I can say from my own experience that not only did I find such "intervention" annoying and rude, I also despised the names they suggested I use. If you like the names, use them; anyone who loves your child will come to love the name they were given. Period.

"Naming a child is the most difficult part " is what my Grandmother always told me. She is a very great lady. She never wanted to critisize my name choices, unless I really pressured her & then she would just tell me the story of how she named her kids & how she didn't like advice then & doesn't really want to give it now. Sometimes I wished my Husband would just like one name I picked out. In the end He made the final decision on our first born, & I chose the middle names of our boys, & we let our daughters choose the boy's first names. But my husband would disagree on the names on the case of our first son, until he was born, felt sorry for me having the c section so he gave in & let me have the final say. I was still in disagreement after our daughter was born but when he & the doctor left the room my dear husband named her.
Good luck to you.
Another option to tell your family is to say , when the baby is born you will see what name he or she looks like. It is ultimately your & your husband's choice

sirkirbance - yeah, we are kinda limited on family names to choose from because so many have said "oh god, please don't give your kids our names!" like my grandmother, Walta, or my husband's g-ma Betty Lou, or his mom Betsy Louise... they don't have to tell us twice on those! smile That's for SURE!

I finally just asked my brother and sister what names they would like us NOT to use... you know... names that they have thought about for their future children. I also told them that'd be the last thing I asked them about baby names cause it was gonna be a secret until they are born. So my sister wants me to save Amy and my brother wants a Zachary. Not a problem! I wish my aunt had asked me the same before they named theirs. I always liked the name Lexi, but they were secretive of their name so I didn't find out they were using it until after little Lexi Mae was born. crying So I can't use that cause our family is really close and Lexi's not even 3 yet... so having 2 little lexi's would be weird.

I agree!! Name your children what you want! If they can't accept what a great honor it would be to have your name given to your neice or nephew, then what the hell?? I would have been so honored if my Sister inlaw had named her child something similar to mine but they didn't and I think they didn't use my middle name because my sister inlaw has my middle name as her first!! lol

I came up with a name many moons ago but I will never use it...Angelea (anj-ah-lee)...don't know if its one thats in the books but I just came up with it one day! I thought it was so pretty SO yeah, now its some one elses if they like it!!

We've already picked out like three or four girls names for a baby if we ever seem to get pregnant!! We'd be in big trouble though if we needed to name a boy right away...lol. I think our first pregnancy we will find out the sex so we can come up with a name!! lol

heya! I have a personal experience on the name thang...

I don't normally share my 'real-world' name, but as I am a conglomeration of family names, I thought I'd bend my own rules to explain. Lucille was my father's mother's name, Anna was my father's grandmother's name, and Jeannette was his sister's name. I became Lu Ann Jeannette. Its a funny little and uncommon name. I seldom meet others with it but I seldom find my name monogrammed on little trinkets.

You know what? I love my name. Eventually, I gave Jeannette up for my husband's family name (cuz I didnt change my last name, hub changed his to mine). I don't regret dropping it as it afforded me a balance among relations! The only improvement I could think of was to have a name from my mother's side!

Enjoy honoring your relatives!

It's kind of interesting how you came up with the names. I like them! biggrin

MY little girl is going to be named Shenandoah Elizabeth. Shennandoah is in honor of my husbands father who died when he was 13. My husband would have been named Shenandoah if he were a girl. Elizabeth just seems to go well with it and it's his mother's and my great-grandmother's middle name.

If we have a son we intend to name him Arthas Alexander. The name Arthas actually comes from a video game character that we bothe really like. lol.