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 Posted: Mon Feb 06, 2012 4:50 pm
ok, so i posted here this summer about my love llife and all the girls i'm having troublr with, but everything's changed since then and i really need help, i guess i'll just list each girl off with a description
girl #1: she was the one i decided to ask out last time, and i was gonna, but she moved to the next town and she's lazy, so i haven't seen her in months, but i still have feelings for her, even though she was the one who originally told me she liked me, but we've still been sending emails and stuff, she's just kinda drifted away from me
girl #2i've known her for nine months and i've always really liked her, but it's never worked out because her sister was always coming between us. recently, she came out as being a lesbian, and i'm trying to be ok with it, but everytime i see her, i can't even talk to her, i still have feelings for her
girl #3: girl #2's sister, i met her when i met her sister, and i didn't like her right off, but she liked me, and she kept forcing herself between me and her sister, and she told me a few months ago that she used to like me, but was over me. we've been on two ates, one before that and one after. but i thought i'd fallen for her and everything, and last week, she checked herself into a mental hospital, in that time i poured my heart out to her on tumblr, but she got back and the first thing she told me was that she only liked me as a friend, but it's her who liked me to begin with, her who ruined my chances with her sister and her who broke my damn heart....
girl #4: i've known her 4 months, she lives in the apartments across from me and she has a huge crush on me, has since she met me, and i've been sending her anon love on tumblr to make her feel better since she's so self conscious and everything, and after girl #3 broke my heart friday, i was gonna ask her out, but i was waiting for today. the thing is, i was beaten to it by a girl in new york and now they're going out and i'm stuck alone
i hate being alone, but i'm stupid and every move i make is the wrong one, i'm stuck here, alone, and i've been trying not to cut since i promised girl #4 i wouldn't, but it's so hard, and i'm so depressed and alone, and nobody here gives a f*** i'm just... idk please help
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Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 9:16 am
My immediate advice is then find more girls. If your options are no more, then its time to look for more.
My second thought though is........ Why are all the options turning into lesbians? That seemed really unlucky.
And you should be more concerned about the girl being put into an mental institution and less about if she cares about you. Clearly having a bf is probably the least on her mind right now.
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Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2012 1:52 pm
pirulaso My immediate advice is then find more girls. If your options are no more, then its time to look for more. Couldn't have said it better myself. When it comes to women, it's very rare to find one that actually knows what she wants and usually when you do happen to find that someone who does know what she wants (I'd say maybe about 1/20) it's not you. Your best bet is not to get hung over by any of them and just move on with a "There's plenty of fish in the sea" attitude. You'll find someone eventually. Quote: My second thought though is........ Why are all the options turning into lesbians? That seemed really unlucky. Interestingly enough, the opposite has been true for me. As in all of the girls I had gone after (most of whom identified themselves as bisexual or lesbian) ended up turning straight. The opposite has been true for girls that either: Can't get a guy Just broke up with a guy Leads me to believe that girls tend to "adjust" their sexuality to fit the situation at hand. Kind of like religion LOL.
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Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2012 8:49 pm
thank you, both of you.
it is very unlucky that all of these girls are turning into lesbians, but i guess i'm just not supposed to be with them... i wish i could find one though, i've never had luck with girls and i've never had an actual girlfriend, or a kiss, or anything...
but the one girl is more concerned about ending up in a relationship to some girl than the fact that she was just released from a mental hospital. originally i was concerned about her being in a mental hospital and that tumblr post was mostly to tell her that i am always here to help her with anything. but i didn't get a thank you or even a sign that she bothered to read that part. she's just thinking about some british chick...
i wish this wasn't affecting me so deeply but i just can't get over them, that's part of my problem: i get too connected to girls even though i never go out with them
thank you guys again smile
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Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 7:28 pm
What I think you should do is look for more options. If other girls that you like start to become lesbians, well, you might want to go back to one of the girls you liked before. I totally understand how you feel about being unable to let go, and what I found to work was a distraction. Just do something you enjoy doing and eventually someone will find you.
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 3:01 am
I'd like to say that it has been the same with me, but it was different in some ways. I guess you could say that all of the relationships I've been in have been "complicated" if you get what I mean. If you need help taking your mind off of it, there are 2 big things that I like to suggest to friends:
Find a hobby and keep yourself occupied. Even if it's something as simple as working on a garden, it's never best to be idle as that leads to sulking.
Do NOT listen to music, especially music that's slow or has anything to do with love. If you're gonna listen to music, listen to something irritating like Soulja Boy.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 5:58 pm
thank you guys for your help, it's much appreciated.
@a crooked kind of perfect- my problem with that is that every girl i've liked before has never liked me and i've never had a real girlfriend, none of those girls i've liked before would ever go out with me, i'm not saying that with low self esteem, i just know that they won't. i also live in a small town so i've known everyone forever, or almost everyone, it's hard to find a girl, and i never get out of town, for personal reasons... so, yeah... thank you though
and maui- thank you too, i'll try a hobby or something, i already occupy myself by writing poetry, lots of poetry, and yeah, music doesen't help, not usually
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