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 Posted: Sun Jan 22, 2012 11:53 pm
~She’s been more and more sensitive. I truly hate this, sensitive people I mean. They seem so weak and fragile that it gets to the point where it disgusts me. For some reason I just never liked those types of people.
So ever since my dad has came back it seems that they have been a “team” now.
She was never like this when my dad was still drinking. She always seemed like a strong person, someone that I looked up to and felt that I wanted to be like her, but now...She’s just this person that i’m disgusted with.
A few days ago we found out that my father started drinking again without our knowing. My mother said she’d kick him out but she never did. And when I speak with her about it she says that she can’t deal with me and that she’s done and that she feels like she wants to leave. I thought of how inconsiderate she was and how weak she looked in my eyes. I wanted to smack her around and tell her how I really felt about the way she said that and how those words hurt me. But no. She wouldn’t have the time to listen to me because she’s too busy dealing with her own problems.
Sometimes I feel like she doesn’t care about us at all. I feel like I can truly hate this person now.
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Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2012 8:10 am
Zomplode ~She’s been more and more sensitive. I truly hate this, sensitive people I mean. They seem so weak and fragile that it gets to the point where it disgusts me. For some reason I just never liked those types of people.
So ever since my dad has came back it seems that they have been a “team” now.
She was never like this when my dad was still drinking. She always seemed like a strong person, someone that I looked up to and felt that I wanted to be like her, but now...She’s just this person that i’m disgusted with.
A few days ago we found out that my father started drinking again without our knowing. My mother said she’d kick him out but she never did. And when I speak with her about it she says that she can’t deal with me and that she’s done and that she feels like she wants to leave. I thought of how inconsiderate she was and how weak she looked in my eyes. I wanted to smack her around and tell her how I really felt about the way she said that and how those words hurt me. But no. She wouldn’t have the time to listen to me because she’s too busy dealing with her own problems.
Sometimes I feel like she doesn’t care about us at all. I feel like I can truly hate this person now. well for me it is a total opposite, sometimes i wonder about my papa, never had a problem with my mom
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Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2012 9:41 am
By saying you want to smack her around and tell her off and then not doing it, are you really any different from her saying she'll kick your dad out and then not doing it?
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Posted: Sun Jan 29, 2012 9:45 am
I can't relate. My mother has always been a bit of a flake, but she can't help it, and she always means well.
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Posted: Fri Feb 03, 2012 3:53 pm
eueueuuuuuuuuugggggghhhhh
Okay.
I will try to respond in a calm way.
I am in no way a professional counselor or therapist. I only offer to you advice that will fit best. I apologize in advance if my response comes off as rude.
I know some people just have to vent, and seeing that this was posted a few days ago, I am guessing that you have calmed down a bit.
Please, just for a moment, try walking in your mother's shoes. View her problems from her perspective rather than your own.
Think about how much your mother does. Think about what she has to go through.
And please don't say you want to smack your mother around. She's probably done a lot for you, as most mothers do.
Instead, approach her calmly and ask to speak with her. If she says she is busy, ask about when you two can talk one-on-one. Schedule it if you have to. And then tell her how you feel. And, here's the big one, listen to what she has to say as well. It's best that you keep an open mind.
I hope this has helped you in some way.
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Posted: Mon Feb 06, 2012 12:53 pm
I agree with the person above me.
Sensitivity may seem like weakness but maybe she's just trying to deal with things right now beyond your understanding.
Talk to your mom, Tell her how you really feel (No need for violence) and if she tries to blow you off, Tell her that you really need to talk. If she is a caring mother than she will find the time to talk to you.
A short snippet of advice but I hope it helps.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 11:51 pm
Miss Hipster Fair I am in no way a professional counselor or therapist. Heh heh. The rapist. XDDD In all seriousness. Miss Hipster Fair I know some people just have to vent, and seeing that this was posted a few days ago, I am guessing that you have calmed down a bit.
Please, just for a moment, try walking in your mother's shoes. View her problems from her perspective rather than your own.
Think about how much your mother does. Think about what she has to go through.
And please don't say you want to smack your mother around. She's probably done a lot for you, as most mothers do.
Instead, approach her calmly and ask to speak with her. If she says she is busy, ask about when you two can talk one-on-one. Schedule it if you have to. And then tell her how you feel. And, here's the big one, listen to what she has to say as well. It's best that you keep an open mind.
I hope this has helped you in some way. For a lot of people this is not an easy task to accomplish. Rather than thinking of what you would do in her situation, I find it's a more effective practice to simply ask yourself "why?". Like "Why do they do that?" or "Why would they say that?" etc. In fact, you can do that about pretty much everything in the world. Just keep asking yourself "Why?". When you get the answer, ask "Why?" to the answer. If you go down the list far enough, you see that the reasons we do a lot of things is actually because of the way that we were raised and the priorities we have ingrained in our minds. That aside, yes it would be best to try to be more understanding. The problem with that though, is that if you understand too much, you start to become very depressed...
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