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So the girlfriend works at home, and is sort of a hippy.
She's vegan and very natural, I dig that.

I don't mind her not shaving her legs in the winter and most of the summer, it doesn't bother me. She shaves her armpits depending on the weather and occasions [like wearing a dress].

The only thing that gets me is her pubic hair. :/
We don't see each other 3/4 of the year, and I can understand not maintaining it then, and she does trim it up when I come home... but its kind of annoying.

How do I ask/get her to shave?

Shaving is suuuch a hassle, you have no idea. And the discomfort that comes with it is pretty bad. But, I'll sometimes do it for my husband because I know he prefers it, so I guess maybe ask her if she can shave it for you every once in a while?

Vomit on her pubes, maybe she'll get the hint.

No but seriously, just bring it up to her. No need to be sly about it. When it is about things like that, there really isn't a way to ease into it. Just be like, "HEY. Wanna change things up a little bit next time? Shave your vag. Okay? Okay. Okay."

It's a delicate topic...but why do you prefer bare? It'd be better to come up with come kind of comfort issue excuse rather than just "bare is hotter".
So like...I dunno, say her pubes scratch against you during sex and it's uncomfortable haha.

Also the whole 'she doesn't send me dirty pictures and texts' thing is a bit silly to me. I can't imagine you bringing that up now and them not being super forced if she hasn't done it thus far...

Lol, well my husband was pretty up front that he preferred shaven, but he just joked about it, and my feelings weren't hurt.

I don't really understand what you want us to tell you.

You've indicated that her comfortable state is one with minimal shaving, with exceptions for dressing up nice, or trimming up cause you're coming home. Sounds hunky-dory.

But ******** her comfort, dammit, you want some hot shaved beav-action, her damned dirty hippie ways be damned. You're already leaning towards your personal preference being more important than her bodily comfort, as seen by you even posting. The least you can do is be honest about it. There's no smooth or sly way to ask her. Maybe it's a little change and not the end of the world, but, at the most basic level, you're asking her to change for you, please don't lose site of that. There's not an easy way to do that, really, and it had the potential to be pretty damn awkward.

I honestly don't see how it's worth it. If you like this lady, and you like everything about this lady except sometimes her downstairs is a little more furry than you like, why don't you just be happy with her and let the little stuff go?

Edit: Huh, I just read the other posts. Basically, it seems like there's a lot you guys should talk about. But when you're looking to change things up in a relationship, you really need to be mindful of the other person, because, if they're willing to try, that means they are willing to compromise and sacrifice for you, and you need to make sure you're not taking advantage of that. I'm not implying you'd do that on purpose, because you honestly don't seem that way to me. You need to look at what really matters in the relationship, and then let all the little things slide. Do you want to communicate more, since you spend so much time apart? That's perfectly valid, but then you should be more lenient about how specifically she goes about it. That's the compromise part. I think you've got more pressing matters than your girlfriend's pubic hair in your relationship.

Well as other people have said, just be straightforward. Obviously you know her better than we do, but when the two of you get a chance to have a conversation, just tell her that it would mean a lot to you if she could shave for the next time you visit. Or compromise slightly and ask her to trim. But if she says she doesn't want to do either, be understanding because it's her choice.

Is it bad that I am well aware of this?