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 Posted: Thu Jan 05, 2012 10:03 pm
Haha I can't believe I'm gonna be 23 on Saturday and I'm having this issue. Anyone who will hear me out and leave some insight it would be appreciated.
Well for a bit of back story, I've never really had many friends. I tend not to like being around people so the few people I know who I actually consider friends I'm pretty tight with. It is my nature that when I meet someone I can usually tell right away if I like this person or not.
Well this morning I was on my way to work when one of these friends tapped my arm to get my attention. Thing is that we have not talked in six months and he is my ex girlfriends brother. The reason we have not talked in so long is that we had a huge fight over the fact that he doesn't really like my girlfriend (long story). At any rate he asked if I wanted to go out for a few beers for my birthday. Here is when I get confused. As I said I tend to be pretty tight with my friends so this whole getting back to being buds is kinda new to me but if he was still pissed at me he could have left me to walk ahead with my headphones on and I would have never known he was there. So should I forgive him, apologize cause I was a d**k to him (and his sister too) or should I never bring it up again and go on being buds acting like it never happened?
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Posted: Fri Jan 06, 2012 3:05 am
You should act like it never happened.
A good rule of thumb is to assume that the other person doesn't have any memory of any grudges or disputes you might have once had against each other. Nine times out of ten, that is the case. The one time it's not the case, well, they are simply being petty and immature for hanging on to said grudge. That tension was probably dispersing in his own mind for quite some time before he acted friendly to you. Hence, he acted friendly to you.
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Posted: Fri Jan 06, 2012 10:26 am
If he was one of your friends before you went out with his sister, then it would behoove you to continue being his friend again. If you guys can set aside your differences and be friends again, you should go for it.
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Posted: Fri Jan 06, 2012 10:43 am
I always believe that true friendship is like a deep ocean current--there might be storms on the surface, but deep down, things never change. And I've had more than my share of fights with friends and family members. People get over things. If he's let it go, then it's high time you did too.
Plus, beer is good. pirate
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Posted: Sun Jan 08, 2012 5:00 am
First i just want to say that I'm the same when it comes to friends. I don't have many, but the ones I do have are the closest people to me. When you have the chance to make that connection again with someone, forgive and forget. He probably forgave you a long time ago and he made the effort to reach out to you. You should do the same.
Good luck! 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Jan 10, 2012 7:12 am
platsdevil First i just want to say that I'm the same when it comes to friends. I don't have many, but the ones I do have are the closest people to me. When you have the chance to make that connection again with someone, forgive and forget. He probably forgave you a long time ago and he made the effort to reach out to you. You should do the same. Good luck! 3nodding What this person said, I agree, though I think you should apologize.
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Posted: Tue Jan 10, 2012 4:18 pm
He couldn't make it to the bar seeing as his girlfriend's brother just died. So I guess we are gonna try again another weekend.
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Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2012 8:21 am
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