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 Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 5:42 am
ok, so the deal is, I, as of now, have a boyfriend, and he is crazy abt. me, *or so I take him to be* sweatdrop And, I want to give him a chance, but I think that I'm somewhat distant, and I don't know what I'm feeling. I feel love for him, but I don't want to be fully engaged with this guy, because I don't want to end up hurt anymore, and he seems like a very nice guy.
I'm also hesitant to believe that he is actually my boyfriend, because I was trolling around, and I stumbled upon his profile, (god forbid) and I was looking around and It said that he was taken, had the name, and date. then, he stared texting w/me and he was all over me, and said that his boyfriend (not me)((So I went to his profile, and he changed it, now my name is on it, I'm still not swayed.)), and one of the guys he likes lives where I live, and then, later, he was saying that he was waiting for his Ba**s to drop to ask me out, and he said that luckily he was single.
I'm not so sure if he is lying, or telling the truth. I'm afraid that if I ask him, he'll get mad at me, and breakup w/me. so, I need to know whats what, and I would like it if I had some advice on this delicate situation. And if you got this far, I'm sorry that this is such a long post.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 8:26 am
A couple days ago you were freaking out about being attracted to your cousin. A couple days before that you were ranting about rushing in to relationships that didn't work out. And now you have a boyfriend and are in love? I'm glad you found someone to spend time with that you care about, but it really sounds to me that you're obsessed with love. You don't have a strong sense of self- so you're looking for someone else to give that to you. Rose Calvert I feel love for him, but I don't want to be fully engorged with this guy, I think you mean engaged- engorged is usually being full of something. sweatdrop Quote: because I don't want to end up hurt anymore, and he seems like a very nice guy. I think you're best bet when it comes to avoiding being hurt is to take a step back and stop treating others as your "missing piece". Being in love is a risk- it makes you vulnerable and if you can't accept that, you shouldn't lead him on. Quote: I'm also hesitant to believe that he is actually my boyfriend, because I was trolling around, and I stumbled upon his profile, (god forbid) and I was looking around and It said that he was taken, had the name, and date. then, he stared texting w/me and he was all over me, and said that his boyfriend (not me)((So I went to his profile, and he changed it, now my name is on it, I'm still not swayed.)), and one of the guys he likes lives where I live, and then, later, he was saying that he was waiting for his Ba**s to drop to ask me out, and he said that luckily he was single. I'm not so sure if he is lying, or telling the truth. I'm afraid that if I ask him, he'll get mad at me, and breakup w/me He has to be with you to break up with you- but if you don't know for sure if you're really together, you should be able to ask. If he does break up with you, GOOD. If asking a simple question means someone is going to punish you, GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Asking a question to resolve confusion shouldn't cause a fight where someone ends a relationship. Quote: so, I need to know whats what, and I would like it if I had some advice on this delicate situation. And if you got this far, I'm sorry that this is such a long post. My advice, put your relationships on hold. I understand you really want a boyfriend, but if this is where your at in your life, this is what you're offering to your partners- then really you need to work on personal development and then- after you have a better sense of who you are, what you're about and stuff, then you can open up to people and say "This is me! Love it or leave it!" and the person who really "loves it" will support you and all the jerks will fall away. It sucks, and it's lonely, but it's healthier than bouncing from one relationship to another and welcoming people who don't value you into your life.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 8:38 am
Fully engorged...? xd
*ahem* Sorry.
Anyway, your resolution on the 28th was to "get in a relationship", and now less than a week later, you have a boyfriend who is "crazy about you".
What? confused
If you're looking for a boyfriend simply for the sake of having one (rather than trying to find the right person), it's not likely to be much of a relationship. It certainly doesn't sound like this one is off to a good start if you're afraid to even talk to the guy.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 8:49 am
I would have to say like Taeryyn did,Taeryyn If you're looking for a boyfriend simply for the sake of having one (rather than trying to find the right person), it's not likely to be much of a relationship. It certainly doesn't sound like this one is off to a good start if you're afraid to even talk to the guy.
Take the time and put in some effort and you may find the one for you if not you will find the one for now and then the one after and so on.
It may be daunting but you will live, I swear.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 9:00 am
Engorged made me confused as well lol, -dirty mind-
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 9:09 am
Esiris A couple days ago you were freaking out about being attracted to your cousin. A couple days before that you were ranting about rushing in to relationships that didn't work out. And now you have a boyfriend and are in love? I'm glad you found someone to spend time with that you care about, but it really sounds to me that you're obsessed with love. You don't have a strong sense of self- so you're looking for someone else to give that to you. Rose Calvert I feel love for him, but I don't want to be fully engorged with this guy, I think you mean engaged- engorged is usually being full of something. sweatdrop Quote: because I don't want to end up hurt anymore, and he seems like a very nice guy. I think you're best bet when it comes to avoiding being hurt is to take a step back and stop treating others as your "missing piece". Being in love is a risk- it makes you vulnerable and if you can't accept that, you shouldn't lead him on. Quote: I'm also hesitant to believe that he is actually my boyfriend, because I was trolling around, and I stumbled upon his profile, (god forbid) and I was looking around and It said that he was taken, had the name, and date. then, he stared texting w/me and he was all over me, and said that his boyfriend (not me)((So I went to his profile, and he changed it, now my name is on it, I'm still not swayed.)), and one of the guys he likes lives where I live, and then, later, he was saying that he was waiting for his Ba**s to drop to ask me out, and he said that luckily he was single. I'm not so sure if he is lying, or telling the truth. I'm afraid that if I ask him, he'll get mad at me, and breakup w/me He has to be with you to break up with you- but if you don't know for sure if you're really together, you should be able to ask. If he does break up with you, GOOD. If asking a simple question means someone is going to punish you, GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Asking a question to resolve confusion shouldn't cause a fight where someone ends a relationship. Quote: so, I need to know whats what, and I would like it if I had some advice on this delicate situation. And if you got this far, I'm sorry that this is such a long post. My advice, put your relationships on hold. I understand you really want a boyfriend, but if this is where your at in your life, this is what you're offering to your partners- then really you need to work on personal development and then- after you have a better sense of who you are, what you're about and stuff, then you can open up to people and say "This is me! Love it or leave it!" and the person who really "loves it" will support you and all the jerks will fall away. It sucks, and it's lonely, but it's healthier than bouncing from one relationship to another and welcoming people who don't value you into your life. you are most certainly correct, but if I'm wrong, I'll end up hurting him as well, so I think I'll see how it gos for the next few days
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 9:10 am
Rose Calvert you are most certainly correct, but if I'm wrong, I'll end up hurting him as well, so I think I'll see how it gos for the next few days If you think you're wrong- ask him! And what are you doing to build up who you are as a person?
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 9:44 am
Esiris Rose Calvert you are most certainly correct, but if I'm wrong, I'll end up hurting him as well, so I think I'll see how it gos for the next few days If you think you're wrong- ask him! And what are you doing to build up who you are as a person? Ok, so I got the courage to ask, and I did, and He explaned it all, so now I now have a Boyfriend. He is such a nice guy. <3
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 11:14 am
Rose Calvert Ok, so I got the courage to ask, and I did, and He explaned it all, so now I now have a Boyfriend. He is such a nice guy. <3 Congratulations. But what are you doing to help yourself?
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 11:58 am
Esiris Rose Calvert Ok, so I got the courage to ask, and I did, and He explaned it all, so now I now have a Boyfriend. He is such a nice guy. <3 Congratulations. But what are you doing to help yourself? Thank you And I'm sorry, but I dont seem to understand the question, could you please clarify? confused
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 12:08 pm
Rose Calvert And I'm sorry, but I dont seem to understand the question, could you please clarify? confused So now you have a boyfriend- what are you going to do to make yourself a strong person? How are you going to develop your mind, body, emotions- what skills are you going to improve and what interests outside of him will you invest in?
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 12:12 pm
Esiris Rose Calvert And I'm sorry, but I dont seem to understand the question, could you please clarify? confused So now you have a boyfriend- what are you going to do to make yourself a strong person? How are you going to develop your mind, body, emotions- what skills are you going to improve and what interests outside of him will you invest in? Lift weights? My emotions, mind and body are developed Well, I need to get better at math sweatdrop And I have to practice the piano, so yea, thats what you want?
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 12:18 pm
Rose Calvert Lift weights? My emotions, mind and body are developed Well, I need to get better at math sweatdrop And I have to practice the piano, so yea, thats what you want? What I want? This isn't about me- it's about you. I recommend that you develop yourself as a person- however that looks, instead of turning yourself into "a piece of a couple". Like- I'm Riri and I have a list of interests a mile long, my lovers, Annette, Rosie and Wren are my partners because I'm interesting, not because I scrambled after them desperately seeking to be in love. It would suck if any of them left, but if it happens- I'm not going to be in some kind of identity crisis because they're gone because I have other important things in my life. My relationships with them don't define me even though they'e important. Anyone can spend a few minutes talking with me and figure that out.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 12:30 pm
Esiris Rose Calvert Lift weights? My emotions, mind and body are developed Well, I need to get better at math sweatdrop And I have to practice the piano, so yea, thats what you want? What I want? This isn't about me- it's about you. I recommend that you develop yourself as a person- however that looks, instead of turning yourself into "a piece of a couple". Like- I'm Riri and I have a list of interests a mile long, my lovers, Annette, Rosie and Wren are my partners because I'm interesting, not because I scrambled after them desperately seeking to be in love. It would suck if any of them left, but if it happens- I'm not going to be in some kind of identity crisis because they're gone because I have other important things in my life. My relationships with them don't define me even though they'e important. Anyone can spend a few minutes talking with me and figure that out. I don't scramble for love. I know that I am a very interesting person, and he knows that, and we share allot in common, And if he does break up with me, I know that it will hurt, and there's no doubt about it. He is a special person, and I feel that about him, and I know for a fact, that I am no push over, and if anyone does, they regret it. I have my own ways in dealing with heart break, and I don't have an "identity crisis" I know that if he breaks up with me, I will find a way to deal, like I'll do something else, and the thing is, If I do break up, I wouldn't do it bitterly, it would be amicability, and we would stay good friends. I have priorities too and some of them come before him, and he knows that. He knows I am a deep, and senible person.
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Posted: Mon Jan 02, 2012 1:25 pm
Rose Calvert ok, so the deal is, I, as of now, have a boyfriend, and he is crazy abt. me, *or so I take him to be* sweatdrop And, I want to give him a chance, but I think that I'm somewhat distant, and I don't know what I'm feeling. I feel love for him, but I don't want to be fully engaged with this guy, because I don't want to end up hurt anymore, and he seems like a very nice guy. I'm also hesitant to believe that he is actually my boyfriend, because I was trolling around, and I stumbled upon his profile, (god forbid) and I was looking around and It said that he was taken, had the name, and date. then, he stared texting w/me and he was all over me, and said that his boyfriend (not me)((So I went to his profile, and he changed it, now my name is on it, I'm still not swayed.)), and one of the guys he likes lives where I live, and then, later, he was saying that he was waiting for his Ba**s to drop to ask me out, and he said that luckily he was single. I'm not so sure if he is lying, or telling the truth. I'm afraid that if I ask him, he'll get mad at me, and breakup w/me. so, I need to know whats what, and I would like it if I had some advice on this delicate situation. And if you got this far, I'm sorry that this is such a long post. sweety,if you have doubt, it's probably for a good reason. it's your instincts telling you something isn't right.
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