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 Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 10:24 pm
I'll put it bluntly, My boyfriends a d**k.
Of course it didn't start out this way, when we first met I thought he was good looking, talented, and when we started dating everything was great.
I started dating him a month after I broke up with my last boyfriend.
My best friend is dating my ex's best friend, and all my other friends hang out with him during lunch and well, whenever really. He was really sweet while we were dating but somewhere down the road he started ignoring me and this carried on for about a miserable month before I gave up on the relationship. I mean, it was a really hard month of me trying to reach him and him completely blowing me off, I just gave up after all the crying and decided it was over but when school started again (I'm a senior in high school) He acted like nothing happened and went back to being the sweet guy he was, but I wasn't going to have any of it. I asked him why he disappeared like that for a month, and he said that he was considering weather we should be in a relationship or not, but when he saw me again at school he realized that he really loved me.
I told him that he's a great guy, but I just couldn't be with him anymore, not after that. I really wanted to stay friends, as I'm a person who can't handle feeling like I'm on bad terms with anyone, but it wasn't going to work out. It wasn't only that either, but other things. Like how his family can't know about me since he isn't allowed to date, and that we are going two completely different directions in life and I would just be holding him back. However after the break up he started to get clingy and was very sure that he was going to get me back. We had a fight once between the break up and the time I started dating the new guy, and when I told him we were dating, well, that's when he flipped. I flipped out back, and we haven't talked since. I started seeing my friends less and less, except for my best friend who still spends the night from time to time, but I don't see anyone other than my current boyfriend during school.
And now, as stated above, he's a d**k. He insults me ******** by calling me fat and other s**t that I'm way to embarrassed to even say. I probably would've broken up with him awhile ago if I felt like I wouldn't be completely and utterly alone without him. I know that if I break up with him, things will just get worse, He'll get more annoying. He's already clingy as it is, and when I try to talk to him about the things he says, he'll say he's just kidding. I've tried telling him that just because he's kidding, doesn't make it okay but he still does it. I have a blast with him until he makes one of those "jokes".
I was on a vacation for the past five days and he made it clear that he wanted to hang out as soon as I got back, and I was hoping that since it's been a few days maybe he would ease up on the assholishness, but he didn't, he said one of the meanest things I've ever heard-so I shot back with something equally bad.
Then when I was walking him home, I told him that he needs to knock it off with these comments and jokes, or else. I told him I was being dead serious, and he just laughed.
So, I'm at a lost. I feel like I'd be fine with the relationship if he stopped with this d**k act, but I don't see it ending any time soon, and I don't want to be completely alone...He would just make fun of me more, saying I have no friends, and I have a feeling that if word got around to my ex, he would rub it in my face also, as that's what he did with the girl before me. I'm just miserable now. Could someone please help?
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Posted: Wed Dec 28, 2011 11:20 pm
My only advice is to break it off with him. I really don't know what else to tell you. Your boyfriend is a paradox, completely and utterly a useless piece of s**t. If he doesn't leave you alone, tell the principal or something. But if you're still in high school, you're too young to be dating in my opinion, anyway. Regardless of my opinion, however, get rid of this guy, he's bad news and will only drag you down. If you want to succeed in your life, for the love of God, get rid of this kid.
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Posted: Sat Dec 31, 2011 9:26 am
I'm sure if you were to talk to your ex and some of your friends that hang with him that they would forgive you. But as it comes to the guy you are with now you should drop him like a stone. The way it seems to me due to what you are saying is that he at least emotionally abusive. Just kidding or not I see no reason why you need to put up with that s**t.
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Posted: Sat Dec 31, 2011 12:52 pm
I understand what you're going through and I hope that I can be of help in your current situation. I have had and seen many relationship issues and what you're going through is perfectly normal. You fear that losing this relationship with this guy is going to make things worse, but at the same time, the longer you hold onto a relationship that causes you this much pain and anxiety, the more difficult it will be to let it go in the future.
What you have described to us is not a healthy relationship. You admit to us that he is a d**k, yet you hesitate letting him go because you'll be alone. Sometimes, you feel more alone being treated that way than if you were without that person. What you're considering doing takes a lot of strength and I'm sure that with the help with your other friend and your family, you can see this through. You don't deserved to be treated with such disrespect. You deserve a guy who will think you're the best and expresses that to you instead of expressing so much negativity. It's scary to put yourself out there and just look for people to spend time with, let alone a relationship.
If I were in your situation, I would think long and hard about what you've told us and how you feel about this guy. You called him a d**k, honey, maybe that doesn't bode well for your future together. Maybe breaking this thing between the two of you is best. If you do break things off, please think about not starting a relationship with somebody for a while. Maybe you need to be able to build confidence in yourself as a single girl and not identify yourself with a relationship with a guy. Stay strong and try to enjoy your senior year! Put yourself out there and make bonds with new friends. Please keep in mind that this is my own personal opinion and it isn't to be taken as me trying to order you around. Best of luck and I hope you have the best year of your high school career! Have a happy New Year!
Doc
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