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 Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2011 8:43 pm
LE~UPDATE: She responded back to a message I sent her asking why she was treating me this way and apologized. :3 S'all anyone needs to know, gonna keep details to myself. S'all good now. ^^
Seriously, RPing isn't that damn important. I'm still a human being and being a human, I like socialization.
Long story short: Started RPing with a person, person's a hardcore RPer, I apparently am not. I use to have all the time in the world because I didn't have a job and was just sitting on my a** all day and night so I didn't care that I RP'd for hours on end, then life happened. Got a job, started getting my music rolling, am starting to spend more time on my job and recordings and family, than gaming. Said person is frustrated.
That's pretty much the jist. I understand people use RPing to escape the stress in their lives, but there's a point where you have to start facing things, and that's what I'm trying to do. Stepping back from the RPing and getting back into doing work I need to do because I'm tired of just sitting around and being unproductive. The reason why it's frustrating me is because this person and I have had good chats in the past and I felt I considered them a good friend, not just an RP partner and nothing else, but apparently I'm not considered the same. :/ And if I am, it's a very disrespectful way to show it by telling me 'whatever' and '*shrugs*' when I state I'd rather get work done than game.
The part that's made this rant worthy? Actually logging off when I said I didn't want to game and offered an alternative by taking the RP to PMs instead of skype chat that way the message is there that I can get to when I have free time instead of completely pausing. Not even a response, just logged right off. Just before that? I told her I wasn't gaming much because of work and I was moving to England this summer (supposedly, if Cedric gets his s**t together.)
I mean come on, give me a break. This is like the third time I've been cold shouldered because I'm deciding to live my life and not pause it. Gaming is a distraction, not an escape for me, sorry.
Ali knows who I'm talking about.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2011 9:18 pm
That person sounds self-centered. She could at least not complain since you do know have a life and all. :/
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2011 9:19 pm
Well, you're right.
But take a moment to look at it from their point of view, or at least, the point of view that they could be seeing it from.
By not offering to do real time rp with them, it's like you're telling them they're no longer worth your time. You're giving them the signal that you're done with them, that you're moving on to things that don't include them. So they're upset.
Now I'm not saying you should just stop doing what you're doing and show attention to this person. You should do what is best for you. I just want you to see how they might see it. As a sign that they are no longer important.
Of course when i say this, do remember that i have issues with being avoided by people (which I am trying to work on, for myself, for my family), and I always feel left out, even if that's not the intention.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2011 9:33 pm
Rya Dracosin Well, you're right. But take a moment to look at it from their point of view, or at least, the point of view that they could be seeing it from. By not offering to do real time rp with them, it's like you're telling them they're no longer worth your time. You're giving them the signal that you're done with them, that you're moving on to things that don't include them. So they're upset. Now I'm not saying you should just stop doing what you're doing and show attention to this person. You should do what is best for you. I just want you to see how they might see it. As a sign that they are no longer important. Of course when i say this, do remember that i have issues with being avoided by people (which I am trying to work on, for myself, for my family), and I always feel left out, even if that's not the intention. Trust me, she shouldn't feel avoided from me. :3 I give her weekly updates on how things are going on my end so she knows why I'm still not gaming, and that's more than I've done for anyone else. Usually I just tell someone 'Hey IRL hit me hard, gonna take a Hiatus' which is posted in my gaia status and I leave it at/ give them a quick message that things went down and I'll be out for a bit. But her I quickly noticed she got ancy like ONE day after I stopped RPing, so I went out of my time and way to give her updates, actually talk with her as a person and not just ignore her cause I was busy and couldn't game. I didn't mind talking just to talk, but gaming takes time and concentration that I don't have right now. She pretty much just gives me these responses: Whatevz *rubs face* Ugh >.> Uh huh or just straight up logs out. She's upset because I'm not RPing with her and I was the only one who was RPing for more than a post or two a day, and now I've stopped, so she's upset. That's pretty much the straight up answer she told me without saying 'I'm upset with you cause you won't play with me'. She just ranted about her lack of RP partners the day I messed up my arm a bit ago and was one handed typing, which wasn't good for RPing at all. And I know what you mean, I'm that way too, but if someone stops RPing with me after like...3 weeks if they don't say even a hello, I just ask them if they're ok. I'm more concerned about the person than the game at that point.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2011 9:47 pm
S u n n i e pea Rya Dracosin Well, you're right. But take a moment to look at it from their point of view, or at least, the point of view that they could be seeing it from. By not offering to do real time rp with them, it's like you're telling them they're no longer worth your time. You're giving them the signal that you're done with them, that you're moving on to things that don't include them. So they're upset. Now I'm not saying you should just stop doing what you're doing and show attention to this person. You should do what is best for you. I just want you to see how they might see it. As a sign that they are no longer important. Of course when i say this, do remember that i have issues with being avoided by people (which I am trying to work on, for myself, for my family), and I always feel left out, even if that's not the intention. Trust me, she shouldn't feel avoided from me. :3 I give her weekly updates on how things are going on my end so she knows why I'm still not gaming, and that's more than I've done for anyone else. Usually I just tell someone 'Hey IRL hit me hard, gonna take a Hiatus' which is posted in my gaia status and I leave it at/ give them a quick message that things went down and I'll be out for a bit. But her I quickly noticed she got ancy like ONE day after I stopped RPing, so I went out of my time and way to give her updates, actually talk with her as a person and not just ignore her cause I was busy and couldn't game. I didn't mind talking just to talk, but gaming takes time and concentration that I don't have right now. She pretty much just gives me these responses: Whatevz *rubs face* Ugh >.> Uh huh or just straight up logs out. She's upset because I'm not RPing with her and I was the only one who was RPing for more than a post or two a day, and now I've stopped, so she's upset. That's pretty much the straight up answer she told me without saying 'I'm upset with you cause you won't play with me'. She just ranted about her lack of RP partners the day I messed up my arm a bit ago and was one handed typing, which wasn't good for RPing at all. And I know what you mean, I'm that way too, but if someone stops RPing with me after like...3 weeks if they don't say even a hello, I just ask them if they're ok. I'm more concerned about the person than the game at that point. Ahh, i see. I sorta understand her side still, but moreso yours because everyone deserves a life of their own. When I say I understand her side, I've had people, all across the board, just stop doing stuff with me, the stuff I enjoy, this was a while back when I had "friends" and even did RP (god that was eons ago it seems). It can feel like everyone is just avoiding you, and what you enjoy doing most, you can't do. You feel like you are being forced to change when you're not ready to. She may need to just move on and find new RP places and people, and keep her old RP buddies as friends and light RP (of coursed, based on this rant, i doubt she will, she seems very set in her ways). She has to learn that not everyone will bend to her will. Its tough feeling like you're being abandoned by people you know as they move on around you and you're not ready to move on, but it just means you'll have to move on to people who also haven't moved on from said things yet. And yeah, i'd be more worried for the person themselves, too, of course, i always gained friendships with the people i RPd with, they weren't just RP buddies, i could talk to them about many things, but when they moved on away from RP, we just lost communication. Is the way the world works. She's upset. If she's any true friend/buddy, she'll come around and apologize for the way she behaved (at least that's what i do). I hope it's resolved though, and everyone ends up remotely happy. :3
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2011 9:51 pm
Rya Dracosin She's upset. If she's any true friend/buddy, she'll come around and apologize for the way she behaved (at least that's what i do). I hope it's resolved though, and everyone ends up remotely happy. :3 I understand what you're saying and thanks for calming me down. ^^ <3 I really hope so too. I do see her as a friend, I care about her, I care about her daughter and what goes on in their lives. I worry about her more than she probably knows even though I tell her. xP I just kinda wish I knew I was just a normal RP partner cause then I wouldn't have gotten so attached, and wouldn't feel so bad about this.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 3:37 am
Like I've said before, cut her out of your life then if she's gonna be a selfcentered b***h about it. Infact tell her that then block her on both skype and Gaia.
"Friend" or not, if they start playing s**t like that then they ain't worth it as they clearly don't give a ******** about you.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 11:45 am
The Almighty Ali Like I've said before, cut her out of your life then if she's gonna be a selfcentered b***h about it. Infact tell her that then block her on both skype and Gaia.
"Friend" or not, if they start playing s**t like that then they ain't worth it as they clearly don't give a ******** about you. But I don't like being mean. ._. You know I'm horrible at it gonk
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 3:36 pm
S u n n i e pea The Almighty Ali Like I've said before, cut her out of your life then if she's gonna be a selfcentered b***h about it. Infact tell her that then block her on both skype and Gaia.
"Friend" or not, if they start playing s**t like that then they ain't worth it as they clearly don't give a ******** about you. But I don't like being mean. ._. You know I'm horrible at it gonk
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 5:09 pm
S u n n i e pea The Almighty Ali Like I've said before, cut her out of your life then if she's gonna be a selfcentered b***h about it. Infact tell her that then block her on both skype and Gaia.
"Friend" or not, if they start playing s**t like that then they ain't worth it as they clearly don't give a ******** about you. But I don't like being mean. ._. You know I'm horrible at it gonk S u n n i e pea but there's a point where you have to start facing things, and that's what I'm trying to do.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 8:32 pm
Illegal Burrito S u n n i e pea The Almighty Ali Like I've said before, cut her out of your life then if she's gonna be a selfcentered b***h about it. Infact tell her that then block her on both skype and Gaia.
"Friend" or not, if they start playing s**t like that then they ain't worth it as they clearly don't give a ******** about you. But I don't like being mean. ._. You know I'm horrible at it gonk S u n n i e pea but there's a point where you have to start facing things, and that's what I'm trying to do. Facing things like my living situations and finances, not telling someone to go screw. ^^; I don't believe in being an a** to fix a problem, it's not what I do.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 8:33 pm
The Almighty Ali S u n n i e pea The Almighty Ali Like I've said before, cut her out of your life then if she's gonna be a selfcentered b***h about it. Infact tell her that then block her on both skype and Gaia.
"Friend" or not, if they start playing s**t like that then they ain't worth it as they clearly don't give a ******** about you. But I don't like being mean. ._. You know I'm horrible at it gonk In all seriousness, I would never do that even if the person was an actual problem in my life. There's other ways than that to tone down a problem. xP Really, I can't bring myself to tell someone to ******** off, I could joke about it but I could never do it in seriousness. ^^;
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2011 2:09 am
S u n n i e pea The Almighty Ali S u n n i e pea The Almighty Ali Like I've said before, cut her out of your life then if she's gonna be a selfcentered b***h about it. Infact tell her that then block her on both skype and Gaia.
"Friend" or not, if they start playing s**t like that then they ain't worth it as they clearly don't give a ******** about you. But I don't like being mean. ._. You know I'm horrible at it gonk In all seriousness, I would never do that even if the person was an actual problem in my life. There's other ways than that to tone down a problem. xP Really, I can't bring myself to tell someone to ******** off, I could joke about it but I could never do it in seriousness. ^^;
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2011 10:12 am
The Almighty Ali But you can tell her to choke on a d**k? emotion_awesome Omggggg Ali stop it. x3 No I'm not telling her that cut it out. -Nudge-
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Posted: Wed Dec 07, 2011 11:59 am
S u n n i e pea The Almighty Ali But you can tell her to choke on a d**k? emotion_awesome Omggggg Ali stop it. x3 No I'm not telling her that cut it out. -Nudge-
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