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 Posted: Mon Nov 28, 2011 4:16 am
Not only to help the guild come back to life but to also help with some thoughts I've been having I thought I would make a topic. ^.^
The thing is that I have always been one of those girls attending church weekly and going to all the activities. Now I feel different. I thought about it to see if I didn't believe in the church anymore but I came to the conclusion that if I had to pick a religion to be in it would be this one because I don't agree with any other ones. They have bits and parts but none of them have the full picture.
Thing is, I don't feel like going to church or activities. It's like I believe in it, I just don't participate in it which doesn't make sense to me because I wouldn't think that is possible.
I feel like i'm in a rut or something. Kind of like me having writers block. I don't know what to do.
If anybody has any advice or ideas I would appreciate it. Or if anyone else is having thoughts of something and they feel like sharing go ahead. Or if you just want to say hi and talk that's cool too. I get bored.
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Posted: Wed Nov 30, 2011 7:31 pm
Do you have a calling? What about VTing? maybe you could get more into that, you know, get to know your girls more.
I know what it's like to not want to do anything in your ward. Currently Ditching FHE a lot with the excuse of it's too far and it's too late at night for me to go. Early morning work and biking's my mode of transportation. I know it can be a rut thing, but everyone needs to find a way to keep themselves interested. I draw all throughout church and think about my stories. Not exactly spiritual, but it helps me from falling asleep or thinking the whole world is stupid. Plus new ward and I'm not exactly social to begin with. Took years and desperation to get me really into my last one, and I had close friends there.
So I guess my advice is to become more social in your ward. I know you don't feel like it, but think of it in another way, or try this before hand. Spend christmas alone, completely alone. Spend several weeks with hardly a friend nearby, no contact from family either. Don't have a job. You'll be begging to go to every activity after that. Going to whatever activity sounds good or really interests you is good, but don't ever ditch church. It'll keep you on the straight and narrow. Going to and socializing at activities just makes sundays more fun.
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Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2011 4:44 pm
Glimare Do you have a calling? What about VTing? maybe you could get more into that, you know, get to know your girls more. I know what it's like to not want to do anything in your ward. Currently Ditching FHE a lot with the excuse of it's too far and it's too late at night for me to go. Early morning work and biking's my mode of transportation. I know it can be a rut thing, but everyone needs to find a way to keep themselves interested. I draw all throughout church and think about my stories. Not exactly spiritual, but it helps me from falling asleep or thinking the whole world is stupid. Plus new ward and I'm not exactly social to begin with. Took years and desperation to get me really into my last one, and I had close friends there. So I guess my advice is to become more social in your ward. I know you don't feel like it, but think of it in another way, or try this before hand. Spend christmas alone, completely alone. Spend several weeks with hardly a friend nearby, no contact from family either. Don't have a job. You'll be begging to go to every activity after that. Going to whatever activity sounds good or really interests you is good, but don't ever ditch church. It'll keep you on the straight and narrow. Going to and socializing at activities just makes sundays more fun. I'm supposed to be a visiting teacher person for some girls in the ward. I'm in the singles ward away from all my family and I only have one friend I all ready know in my singles ward. I love being at church for all the lessons and stuff but I just haven't been able to get myself to go there and i don't have any form of transportation to get there. I wouldn't mind socializing to people but I can't bring myself to do that too and I can't do your idea because I'm constantly around people even if I feel like I'm alone surrounded by the people.
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Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2011 10:44 pm
Sounds like my life about 10 years ago (geez, I'm old) and you know, I still end up that way in every ward I have ended up in.
There is no easy solution I have been able to come up with. I was lucky to find one or two people that had common interests with me, or went to the same school I did. I got to know them, and then their friends. That's how it worked for me, but it took a long time and I'm still not very good at it.
Best advise I can give besides that is get to know your visiting teachers, or the girls you visit teach. It's not easy, but when you see them every month, it starts getting easier.
As for transport, can't help ya there...I was the one with the car in my group. If someone lives nearby, they can carpool with you. If you live at home, maybe you can borrow a car for a few hours.
Hope this helps. I know it's not easy, but it gets better with time.
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