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 Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 9:44 am
I've been severely depressed for about a year now and it's gotten a helluva lot worse since me and my boyfriend and broke up about 2 months ago. I barely sleep, I've gained about 50 pounds in a year. And the thought of ending things keeps popping in my head more and more.
I'm to a point where I probably should seek medical help, however, I don't have insurance, and I don't want to be pumped up with drugs. Does anyone know of any natural means of easing this pain?
Some have suggested weed, but I learned the hard way that I am allergic to it. And, of course, I know exercise will help, working on that bit.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 12:25 pm
Clinical depression can be a very serious thing. If you think you should seek medical help, then you probably should.
You could start, by calling a free hotline or investigating if there are free support groups or something of that nature in your area. A suicide hotline for example may have information on where to go for immediate assistance. Not that you are drastically suicidal or anything, but making that call could give you a good direction for some long term help.
Depending upon either a diagnosis or other findings, you may not need to be on "happy pills." Council or Therapy may help. If they do recommend pills, it doesn't mean you need to take them for the rest of your life. It could be temporary (like 6 months or a year) until you are in a better place emotionally.
Hope this helps.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 12:46 pm
Psyzapp-d Clinical depression can be a very serious thing. If you think you should seek medical help, then you probably should. You could start, by calling a free hotline or investigating if there are free support groups or something of that nature in your area. A suicide hotline for example may have information on where to go for immediate assistance. Not that you are drastically suicidal or anything, but making that call could give you a good direction for some long term help. Depending upon either a diagnosis or other findings, you may not need to be on "happy pills." Council or Therapy may help. If they do recommend pills, it doesn't mean you need to take them for the rest of your life. It could be temporary (like 6 months or a year) until you are in a better place emotionally. Hope this helps. It does a little, thanks. Getting motivated to do anything has been a major struggle. I'm trying to move back home to see if it would help, I know back there, there are places that it's easier to seek help.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 12:56 pm
Iye Macilvana It does a little, thanks. Getting motivated to do anything has been a major struggle. I'm trying to move back home to see if it would help, I know back there, there are places that it's easier to seek help. Try to focus on one day at a time if you are getting overwhelmed. Like set a goal to accomplish just one positive thing to work toward a goal of emotional and mental well being. Doing one thing a day adds up to 7 things a week. Just a suggestion.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 12:59 pm
Psyzapp-d Iye Macilvana It does a little, thanks. Getting motivated to do anything has been a major struggle. I'm trying to move back home to see if it would help, I know back there, there are places that it's easier to seek help. Try to focus on one day at a time if you are getting overwhelmed. Like set a goal to accomplish just one positive thing to work toward a goal of emotional and mental well being. Doing one thing a day adds up to 7 things a week. Just a suggestion. *facepalm* So much crap has been going on that that never crossed my mind. I feel a little silly now. The goals I've set for myself don't go into motion until next year. I've been thinking too far ahead.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 1:08 pm
Iye Macilvana *facepalm* So much crap has been going on that that never crossed my mind. I feel a little silly now. The goals I've set for myself don't go into motion until next year. I've been thinking too far ahead. LOL It's okay hun. wink Sometimes when you are knee deep in it, you don't think of things. Even just tiny things that would only take 10 minutes or something. Each tiny step you take could make a difference. Like if you wanted to try and work into a little exercise, start with 10 minutes…say 3 days a week. get a calendar and schedule it for those days and see if you can indeed meet that goal. Increase when you are comfortable, try to keep that discipline (which is really hard I know. I try to squeeze realistic exercise into my life and it doesn't always go as I plan. stare ) and if you mess up, you have to forgive yourself and get right back in there. 3nodding You can do it! wink 4laugh
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2011 1:31 pm
Psyzapp-d Iye Macilvana *facepalm* So much crap has been going on that that never crossed my mind. I feel a little silly now. The goals I've set for myself don't go into motion until next year. I've been thinking too far ahead. LOL It's okay hun. wink Sometimes when you are knee deep in it, you don't think of things. Even just tiny things that would only take 10 minutes or something. Each tiny step you take could make a difference. Like if you wanted to try and work into a little exercise, start with 10 minutes…say 3 days a week. get a calendar and schedule it for those days and see if you can indeed meet that goal. Increase when you are comfortable, try to keep that discipline (which is really hard I know. I try to squeeze realistic exercise into my life and it doesn't always go as I plan. stare ) and if you mess up, you have to forgive yourself and get right back in there. 3nodding You can do it! wink 4laugh Thank you!
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 11:15 am
Wow I'm surprised TES hasn't jumped into this. Psy's got a lot of great suggestions there so I can't really think of anything more to add to it. I know when I've been a little down its good to be surrounded by good company on the worst of times. Whether its just having a game night or a movie night, or just going out to our favorite diner to idle chat. I also try to occupy my time with drawing or hunting for new good music when I can. Just little things for distractions is nice. And hey if you ever need someone to chat with, you can gladly ask one of us to listen, me included. 4laugh
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2011 6:19 pm
Liada Trovaras Wow I'm surprised TES hasn't jumped into this. Psy's got a lot of great suggestions there so I can't really think of anything more to add to it. I know when I've been a little down its good to be surrounded by good company on the worst of times. Whether its just having a game night or a movie night, or just going out to our favorite diner to idle chat. I also try to occupy my time with drawing or hunting for new good music when I can. Just little things for distractions is nice. And hey if you ever need someone to chat with, you can gladly ask one of us to listen, me included. 4laugh Thank you, unfortunately, I don't have any friends where I'm living right now. I live in a tourist town, so people don't tend to try and develop real friendships since so many people come and go. And I've always been extremely shy in social situations, I've gotten over it a little for my work since I answer phones at a hotel. I'm trying to move back home to see if it will make a difference. I want to try and get back with my ex so he and I can start over and not have to be long distance again, if he'll take me back.
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2011 11:19 pm
One big thing that helps, when you feel it, know you are feeling it in real time. This doesn't mean the depression will be there forever. Try to keep yourself in perspective and know, "I'm feeling this now, as in "this moment", and it doesn't mean it needs to or will be forever".
Not sleeping? Try writing down the things running through your head, put them on paper, get them out. Extracting them and putting them someplace else will help to clear your brain out, maybe even enough to help you realize just how tired you really are.
Keep in mind, all to often you need to be "down" to know how to get back up. Just see this as a good point to move up in a concrete and permanent way. I noticed you mentioned looking back up the ex, in some cases this may be a good idea in other perhaps not. Understand that you need to be happy with yourself first. if you need another person to make you be happy with you, then this issue will never truly be resolved.
The weight thing can make you start to resent yourself, so it's important to think about what you can love about yourself. Take advantage of the depression, and use it as a time to self reflect and understand just what about you is worth caring about. If you are thoughtful enough to feel depression in the first place, then you must be a creative and thoughtful person in general, do not underestimate this. It is a fact that this is amazing, so many people have little to no thought at all. Take the time to learn what about you, you can adore, I promise you there is a least one thing. I bet in the end there is more than you realized that you think is neat, when it comes to you, just all to often other oversee it.
Get a new perspective realize you deserve to be happy, for you in the least. There isn't a human being in this world worthy enough to make you feel like you don't matter. You absolutely do matter, and getting to the point of sadness beyond your own comprehension already shows an ability for deeper thought then most people can even conceive. Just take things slow, refuse to be overwhelmed, and make everything at your pace. Take time to take one deep breath, actively, every day then take a new step toward betterment of yourself.
If you need people to bounce random ideas off of, I'm around lots as well, feel free to PM or whatever. Don't worry hun, you are not alone in dealing with this, being that sad just means you are capable of feeling intense emotion. That being said, luckily you can feel immensely happy as well. Strive to find that happy, screw all that which bring back the sad, seriously just say "no" wink .
I'm writing this before i pass out as well so if some of it doesn't make sense, I do apologies.
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Posted: Sun Oct 16, 2011 8:42 am
lady ayami chan One big thing that helps, when you feel it, know you are feeling it in real time. This doesn't mean the depression will be there forever. Try to keep yourself in perspective and know, "I'm feeling this now, as in "this moment", and it doesn't mean it needs to or will be forever".
Not sleeping? Try writing down the things running through your head, put them on paper, get them out. Extracting them and putting them someplace else will help to clear your brain out, maybe even enough to help you realize just how tired you really are.
Keep in mind, all to often you need to be "down" to know how to get back up. Just see this as a good point to move up in a concrete and permanent way. I noticed you mentioned looking back up the ex, in some cases this may be a good idea in other perhaps not. Understand that you need to be happy with yourself first. if you need another person to make you be happy with you, then this issue will never truly be resolved.
The weight thing can make you start to resent yourself, so it's important to think about what you can love about yourself. Take advantage of the depression, and use it as a time to self reflect and understand just what about you is worth caring about. If you are thoughtful enough to feel depression in the first place, then you must be a creative and thoughtful person in general, do not underestimate this. It is a fact that this is amazing, so many people have little to no thought at all. Take the time to learn what about you, you can adore, I promise you there is a least one thing. I bet in the end there is more than you realized that you think is neat, when it comes to you, just all to often other oversee it.
Get a new perspective realize you deserve to be happy, for you in the least. There isn't a human being in this world worthy enough to make you feel like you don't matter. You absolutely do matter, and getting to the point of sadness beyond your own comprehension already shows an ability for deeper thought then most people can even conceive. Just take things slow, refuse to be overwhelmed, and make everything at your pace. Take time to take one deep breath, actively, every day then take a new step toward betterment of yourself.
If you need people to bounce random ideas off of, I'm around lots as well, feel free to PM or whatever. Don't worry hun, you are not alone in dealing with this, being that sad just means you are capable of feeling intense emotion. That being said, luckily you can feel immensely happy as well. Strive to find that happy, screw all that which bring back the sad, seriously just say "no" wink .
I'm writing this before i pass out as well so if some of it doesn't make sense, I do apologies. Actually, that's the most sense anyone has made to me in a while.
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Posted: Sat Oct 22, 2011 11:29 am
rofl Ayami's good like that.
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Posted: Sat Nov 19, 2011 7:54 am
Iye Macilvana I've been severely depressed for about a year now and it's gotten a helluva lot worse since me and my boyfriend and broke up about 2 months ago. I barely sleep, I've gained about 50 pounds in a year. And the thought of ending things keeps popping in my head more and more. I'm to a point where I probably should seek medical help, however, I don't have insurance, and I don't want to be pumped up with drugs. Does anyone know of any natural means of easing this pain? Some have suggested weed, but I learned the hard way that I am allergic to it. And, of course, I know exercise will help, working on that bit. I am bipolar and suffer from PTSD. I know exactly how you feel, I've spent the last two years in what feels like purgatory. Unable to move forward, takes all of my energy not to slide backward, and the bad news kept coming and coming. It's hard to exercise and put yourself out there when you feel that low, and when you can barely do anything outside of your routine. I will say this: counseling has helped. It took a while to find the right counselor for me, but she's been an ear when I wanted one and a motivator when I've needed one. I definitely think you could use some short-term goals and activities. Most of mine were long term and I was in the same state as you. I recently took some community training courses just to get myself out of the apartment. I learned a lot about mental health, addiction, and poverty. It ended up having a profound effect on my outlook, and even my future plans. Feel free to message me if you ever need to unload, commiserate, or even if you just need some sort of contact.
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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2011 1:56 pm
Happy Hentai Beastie Iye Macilvana I've been severely depressed for about a year now and it's gotten a helluva lot worse since me and my boyfriend and broke up about 2 months ago. I barely sleep, I've gained about 50 pounds in a year. And the thought of ending things keeps popping in my head more and more. I'm to a point where I probably should seek medical help, however, I don't have insurance, and I don't want to be pumped up with drugs. Does anyone know of any natural means of easing this pain? Some have suggested weed, but I learned the hard way that I am allergic to it. And, of course, I know exercise will help, working on that bit. I am bipolar and suffer from PTSD. I know exactly how you feel, I've spent the last two years in what feels like purgatory. Unable to move forward, takes all of my energy not to slide backward, and the bad news kept coming and coming. It's hard to exercise and put yourself out there when you feel that low, and when you can barely do anything outside of your routine. I will say this: counseling has helped. It took a while to find the right counselor for me, but she's been an ear when I wanted one and a motivator when I've needed one. I definitely think you could use some short-term goals and activities. Most of mine were long term and I was in the same state as you. I recently took some community training courses just to get myself out of the apartment. I learned a lot about mental health, addiction, and poverty. It ended up having a profound effect on my outlook, and even my future plans. Feel free to message me if you ever need to unload, commiserate, or even if you just need some sort of contact. 'Thank you, I haven't found any help programs in my area as of yet. I've finally forced myself into an exercise routine and that's been helping. I've also been hanging out with a coworker/friend going through a similar depression as I am, we just help each other get out of the house and move around. With my exercise routine, I've already lost about 20 pounds this month, I didn't get a scale until last week and I lost 5 pounds this week, been exercising for a month, so I estimate I've lost about 20. What caused you to have PTSD, if you don't mind me asking?
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Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 6:28 am
Iye Macilvana Happy Hentai Beastie Iye Macilvana I've been severely depressed for about a year now and it's gotten a helluva lot worse since me and my boyfriend and broke up about 2 months ago. I barely sleep, I've gained about 50 pounds in a year. And the thought of ending things keeps popping in my head more and more. I'm to a point where I probably should seek medical help, however, I don't have insurance, and I don't want to be pumped up with drugs. Does anyone know of any natural means of easing this pain? Some have suggested weed, but I learned the hard way that I am allergic to it. And, of course, I know exercise will help, working on that bit. I am bipolar and suffer from PTSD. I know exactly how you feel, I've spent the last two years in what feels like purgatory. Unable to move forward, takes all of my energy not to slide backward, and the bad news kept coming and coming. It's hard to exercise and put yourself out there when you feel that low, and when you can barely do anything outside of your routine. I will say this: counseling has helped. It took a while to find the right counselor for me, but she's been an ear when I wanted one and a motivator when I've needed one. I definitely think you could use some short-term goals and activities. Most of mine were long term and I was in the same state as you. I recently took some community training courses just to get myself out of the apartment. I learned a lot about mental health, addiction, and poverty. It ended up having a profound effect on my outlook, and even my future plans. Feel free to message me if you ever need to unload, commiserate, or even if you just need some sort of contact. 'Thank you, I haven't found any help programs in my area as of yet. I've finally forced myself into an exercise routine and that's been helping. I've also been hanging out with a coworker/friend going through a similar depression as I am, we just help each other get out of the house and move around. With my exercise routine, I've already lost about 20 pounds this month, I didn't get a scale until last week and I lost 5 pounds this week, been exercising for a month, so I estimate I've lost about 20. What caused you to have PTSD, if you don't mind me asking? To be perfectly honest, a number of things. Abusive childhood, a near-death experience (had to be resuscitated), and then the big breakdown combined working three jobs for a year, then walking in on my fiancee and best man.
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