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 Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 4:35 pm
For me, at least, since most of the guys I tend to like are straight, is finding out whether they're gay or not. Personally, I don't like simply asking them, because they aren't entitled to tell me whether they are or not. It's not my business unless they WANT to make it my business.
This is being brought up because I sit next to a guy in Psychology whom seems to be growing on me. He's the ONLY guy in the world to straight up tell me "I like you" (though I said something funny, and the "I like you" was followed by a "You're funny"). And...I'm fairly certain he's straight, but I can never tell anymore.
So my question is...what's the easiest way to find out? (Rather than the obvious, of course.)
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 5:12 pm
I like the question, "How do you identify?" If he's part of the lgbt he'll probably recognize the meaning of the question immediately, whereas if he isn't, he'll ask for clarification (which you can BS so that he doesn't realize what you were asking). That's the most concrete way of finding out that doesn't specifically ask, "Do you happen to be gay or bi?"
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 5:41 pm
My advice would be to develop a friendship, ask him to see a movie or go have a slice of pizza or something, and see what happens from there. You could ask him subtly, like maybe "So, what are you interested in?"
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 6:44 pm
Ask him out on a date and if he's like, "NO I'M NOT GAY." Then you'll know..
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 6:58 pm
hmmm....well see you'll need some tape, five boxes, a pair of shoes and- I have no fricking clue! Im in the same boat as you. best you can do is get to know him and he'll eventually tell you on his own time, especially if he likes you.
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 8:07 pm
You could ask if he has a girlfriend.
If he is straight he might say:
"No I don't have one right now."
"Yeah her name is Derpette."
If he is gay he might say:
"No, I'm actually not into girls."
"No, but I have a boyfriend."
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Posted: Mon Sep 19, 2011 10:00 pm
Or, I can add him on facebook, and see that he's interested in women.
Sad day.
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 3:45 am
finfageek Or, I can add him on facebook, and see that he's interested in women. Sad day. im bi but I put only interested in women on facebook instead of both. cat_biggrin
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 8:02 am
Atrum_Anima I like the question, "How do you identify?" If he's part of the lgbt he'll probably recognize the meaning of the question immediately, whereas if he isn't, he'll ask for clarification (which you can BS so that he doesn't realize what you were asking). That's the most concrete way of finding out that doesn't specifically ask, "Do you happen to be gay or bi?" if someone asked me that i woiuld have no idea what they were talking about. you could try the facebook suggestion bu just so you know there are alot of people who just put straight so their families dont find out, myself included when in doubt just to the hard thing and ask. or just ask if he has a girlfriend. maybe ask what he thinks about rainbows? ask about gay rights? just something to get the homosexual ball rolling
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Posted: Tue Sep 20, 2011 8:30 am
finfageek Or, I can add him on facebook, and see that he's interested in women. Sad day. Fortunately for you, this is inaccurate. I know a gay guy who's in a relationship and everything and his 'interested in' is still set to Women. Lol, there's hope yet, my friend~!
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