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 Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 3:13 pm
Ok, so recently one of my closer friends, who is a guy, asked me to homecoming. I told him i would go with him as a friend becasue i dont like him that way. Today... today,today, today he told me he loved me under his breath, so i pretended not to hear it and changed the subject. ( pro at that by the way XD )
Problem number 1: I don't like him that way
Problem number 2: I like someone else who happens to be a girl OTL
Problem number 3: I dont date friends usually becasue i sepatate the two greatly.
Pretty much itttt. What should i do, now i have to go to homecoming with him AKWARDLY. FUUUUUUUK
btw i have NO experiance with this kind of stuff. never dated or anything.
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 3:26 pm
I've been in this situation twice... sad
To tell you the truth, there isn't really much of a way to sugarcoat it. He's going to get hurt, but keep in mind he most likely will get over it. Also, since he's a close friend, does he know your orientation (I'm not sure what it is, so this next suggestion can go in different directions)? Because this also might help me realize that there's no chance and he'll eventually move on.
I would say talk to him and set things straight before homecoming happens. That way there's a chance that on the night of the actual dance, there won't be as much awkwardness and whatnot.
Sorry if this advice sucks, I'm kind of clueless regarding the whole dating scene... sweatdrop But this just seemed like the logical decision. Hope it helps!
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 4:58 pm
1) He needs to understand that YOU don't see him as anything more than a friend. Honestly, if one of my friends said he was in love with me, I'd punch him in the nuts and bitchslap him across the room. If he really does care about you, he's showing it in all the wrong ways.
2) Turn him down. Do not be afraid to let him down hard. Be strong-willed and firm. Remember, this is an issue of YOUR comfort, not his.
3) Does he know your sexual orientation? Does this girl know your sexual orientation? How long have you know this girl? If it's been long enough [and if you're good friends], why not ask her instead?
I know my advice seems harsh and blunt. But hell, if you think this is bad, wait until you become of legal drinking age. You can't imagine how much bull we have to deal with.
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 5:35 pm
talking is the best remedy smile let him know that you have no feeling for him other then friendship, like you said you two were going as. but have a warm face on, anything else and he might take it the wrong way. tell him that you are interested in someone else. if he gets angry and no longer wants to be your friend, then he wasn't one in the first place.
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 6:26 pm
lgtenos 1) He needs to understand that YOU don't see him as anything more than a friend. Honestly, if one of my friends said he was in love with me, I'd punch him in the nuts and bitchslap him across the room. If he really does care about you, he's showing it in all the wrong ways. 2) Turn him down. Do not be afraid to let him down hard. Be strong-willed and firm. Remember, this is an issue of YOUR comfort, not his. 3) Does he know your sexual orientation? Does this girl know your sexual orientation? How long have you know this girl? If it's been long enough [and if you're good friends], why not ask her instead? I know my advice seems harsh and blunt. But hell, if you think this is bad, wait until you become of legal drinking age. You can't imagine how much bull we have to deal with. DDDDDDDDD:
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Posted: Thu Sep 15, 2011 10:07 pm
ok thanks guys. to bad homecoming is this saterday, and he usually brings this stuff up in the middle of class XD. I was planning to just tell him i see him no more than a friend. and no he doesnt know my orientation, which is bi, so i cant use it as an excuse TT. I really dont want our friendship to change, so i dont want to hurt him, cause i know how that feels. TT im also afraid he wont give up, cause that is how he is.
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