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 Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 12:10 am
For some reason, I've been getting more and more anxious. I am usually calm, collected, and very independent. I am usually someone who's very strong and could easily get over fears. As of now though, I've been changing, and it hasn't been a good change.
For some odd reason, starting August 28th, I've been gettting more moody and anxious. I felt like crying for no reason or just for the fact of lonliness and that I had been feeling helpless. I then had been crying, and feeling very very scared. Especially at night. I am starting to get very nervous and anxious and had been afraid that someone would break into my house and hurt my family (even though I just live with my mom and my three little dogs), even though I have an alarm and I lock every door at night to make sure I'm safe. I also had been struggling in a certain class at school not just because of studying, but because of these anxieties.
I had been talking to my mom and dad, but whenever I talk to them, I cry about it as well. I do not like crying for nothing, and I feel foolish to think these things. I had been taking some supplements, both are supposed to help me with my mood, my anxieties, and my sad feelings that I have. They're working a little bit, but I still get freaked out. Whenever I freak out, I want to cry.
It's been happening for three weeks, and I want these feelings to go away. I feel like an idiot just for having these sudden anxieties and fears that seem to be controlling my emotions, almost as if I'm traumatized. Can anyone give me some advice or at least reassurance? Please, I'm very desperate, even writing about this makes me cry.
Please, can anyone give me some advice on what I should do to get rid of my fears?
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Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 2:42 am
You don't need a cape...Well, if I've learned one thing from these past 2 depressing years, crying is good. It's probably the best way to deal with the pain. You shouldn't feel foolish or weak, crying is good and healthy.
But, sometimes you can get a certain chemical imbalance in your brain, it can make you have depression. I don't know about the anxieties. But you can try getting a therapist?
Hope this helped c: ...to save the day.
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Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 7:19 am
--Untoten Kase-- You don't need a cape...Well, if I've learned one thing from these past 2 depressing years, crying is good. It's probably the best way to deal with the pain. You shouldn't feel foolish or weak, crying is good and healthy.
But, sometimes you can get a certain chemical imbalance in your brain, it can make you have depression. I don't know about the anxieties. But you can try getting a therapist?
Hope this helped c: ...to save the day.
I'll also look at other recommendations too. I'd like to have different options instead of one. Still, thank you. It is highly appreciated. heart
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Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 8:32 am
Therapy can help, but I think another option could be to try and figure out how or when this all began. Look back to when this started happening and try to think of any event that might have happened.
One thing I want to ask is how old are you? If you're in your early or mid teenage years, it wouldn't be unlikely that the whole thing is happening from hormones and changes going on with you.
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Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 8:57 am
Labyrinthknight63 Therapy can help, but I think another option could be to try and figure out how or when this all began. Look back to when this started happening and try to think of any event that might have happened. One thing I want to ask is how old are you? If you're in your early or mid teenage years, it wouldn't be unlikely that the whole thing is happening from hormones and changes going on with you.
I'm 17 years old, so I'm very close to being an adult (I'm turning 18 in December). Puberty didn't affect me too much during my early and mid-teens except in 6th grade. After that, I thought I wouldn't go through all that again until now. I also have high functional autism and ADHD, so that could affect it too. It's hard to believe for most people though.
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Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 10:15 am
3Amaranth13 For some reason, I've been getting more and more anxious. I am usually calm, collected, and very independent. I am usually someone who's very strong and could easily get over fears. As of now though, I've been changing, and it hasn't been a good change.
For some odd reason, starting August 28th, I've been gettting more moody and anxious. I felt like crying for no reason or just for the fact of lonliness and that I had been feeling helpless. I then had been crying, and feeling very very scared. Especially at night. I am starting to get very nervous and anxious and had been afraid that someone would break into my house and hurt my family (even though I just live with my mom and my three little dogs), even though I have an alarm and I lock every door at night to make sure I'm safe. I also had been struggling in a certain class at school not just because of studying, but because of these anxieties.
I had been talking to my mom and dad, but whenever I talk to them, I cry about it as well. I do not like crying for nothing, and I feel foolish to think these things. I had been taking some supplements, both are supposed to help me with my mood, my anxieties, and my sad feelings that I have. They're working a little bit, but I still get freaked out. Whenever I freak out, I want to cry.
It's been happening for three weeks, and I want these feelings to go away. I feel like an idiot just for having these sudden anxieties and fears that seem to be controlling my emotions, almost as if I'm traumatized. Can anyone give me some advice or at least reassurance? Please, I'm very desperate, even writing about this makes me cry.
Please, can anyone give me some advice on what I should do to get rid of my fears? I feel ya. I blame school.
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Posted: Sat Sep 10, 2011 10:40 am
SparklingSchist 3Amaranth13 For some reason, I've been getting more and more anxious. I am usually calm, collected, and very independent. I am usually someone who's very strong and could easily get over fears. As of now though, I've been changing, and it hasn't been a good change.
For some odd reason, starting August 28th, I've been gettting more moody and anxious. I felt like crying for no reason or just for the fact of lonliness and that I had been feeling helpless. I then had been crying, and feeling very very scared. Especially at night. I am starting to get very nervous and anxious and had been afraid that someone would break into my house and hurt my family (even though I just live with my mom and my three little dogs), even though I have an alarm and I lock every door at night to make sure I'm safe. I also had been struggling in a certain class at school not just because of studying, but because of these anxieties.
I had been talking to my mom and dad, but whenever I talk to them, I cry about it as well. I do not like crying for nothing, and I feel foolish to think these things. I had been taking some supplements, both are supposed to help me with my mood, my anxieties, and my sad feelings that I have. They're working a little bit, but I still get freaked out. Whenever I freak out, I want to cry.
It's been happening for three weeks, and I want these feelings to go away. I feel like an idiot just for having these sudden anxieties and fears that seem to be controlling my emotions, almost as if I'm traumatized. Can anyone give me some advice or at least reassurance? Please, I'm very desperate, even writing about this makes me cry.
Please, can anyone give me some advice on what I should do to get rid of my fears? I feel ya. I blame school.
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Posted: Sun Sep 11, 2011 6:08 pm
Update: I'm getting a bit better. I'm starting to overcome my night time anxieties (a little bit), and had been taking Vitamin D. I had been able to write down some postitive/inspirational quotes that inspire me to think positively and find ways to help myself and others. My teacher from that certain class has been letting me take tests home to finish them. I still have some sad feelings and anxieties, but they aren't as bad as they were when I started this thing. I'm thinking and considering taking yoga, but I'll have to ask my parents what they think. I'm also going to start learning how to drive sometime this week, so I'm anxious but excited at the same time.
Thanks for all the advice. I highly appreciate it. If you have any more advice, please feel free. Every word counts. ^^
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Posted: Sun Nov 13, 2011 6:50 pm
Update: It's now November. I have been getting better, but my thoughts have been really jumpy. I still have my anxieties, but I've accepted them and use them to my advantage. Now, I think I may need help again.
As the typical senior, it's normal for me to worry about college and finances, but the worries have been controlling me to the point of tears. I'm afraid that my family won't have money for me to get to the university I want to go to after community college. I also feel guilty and afraid that I'm the reason that my mom is spending money on me. I feel like I am a burden to her, even though I know in my mind that she loves me very much and would not think of me that way.
I feel like I should at least try to support myself and my mom financially. I want a job. I'm 17, turning 18 in December (as mentioned), and I feel that I need a job in order to support my mom. I've been wanting one for years, but I never admitted it. My mom doesn't want me to have a job because education comes first. What she says is true (no doubt), but I think a job would help me in the real world. It would be good for my resume, and it would good to gain the experience.
I also think that my hormones are making my anxieties worse. When my hormones act up, my moods are like a teeter-totter, and I get in a lot of physical pain (when I mean physical, I mean pain all over, especially with my lower back, my legs, and the cramps).
Can someone give me some advice and reassurance? I've tried to talk to several people, and most of their advice were just things like "just suck it up" and I don't need that. I know I shouldn't worry about these things, but I am and I need to learn to take control of things. I just need to know how, that's all. Every word is appreciated.
(Also, the reason I do these updates is just that for some odd reason, I don't like starting new threads on the same subject, which in this case is basically my anxieties and crazy little life. That's all.)
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2011 5:38 am
3Amaranth13
As the typical senior, it's normal for me to worry about college and finances, but the worries have been controlling me to the point of tears. It is normal, you are at a crossroads. Most people who are mature enough to accept responsibility for themselves feel immense pressure to make the right choices at these stages in life (there will be other crossroads in the future). What you are describing tells me you are a sensitive intelligent person, there is not necessarily anything wrong with you other than I think you - maybe - need more emotional support than you are currently getting. Only you know what is right for you, it is your life and from December on you get to decide what happens in it. This doesn't mean you have to do it all right first time - when it comes to adult life nobody is an expert, you can always change the path you are on -it is never too late. If you make a choice and find out months, or even years, down the line it was not what you thought it would be you can just make a new choice. Some things are hard to change than others (drug addiction is pretty difficult to reverse, and parenthood creates a new set of parameters for example) but most things in life are flexible, so although it feels as though everything depends on this decision-you-have-to-make-independently-because-you-are-an-adult-now in reality there will be opportunities down the line to change your mind and do something else instead. If you feel that your hormones are seriously affecting your behaviour then talk to your doctor about the contraceptive pill/patches, you could also talk to your doctor about general anxiety and ask if they have any ideas about managing it. It did cross my mind briefly when I opened your thread that you might be pregnant - is it a possibility? Have you done a test? Otherwise, give yourself a break, you are in a difficult phase of life with a lot of new responsibilities to shoulder you would not be human if you didn't feel stressed about it. And finally, relax here is a new perspective: http://www.bigskyastroclub.org/pale_blue_dot.html
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2011 5:58 am
village midget 3Amaranth13
As the typical senior, it's normal for me to worry about college and finances, but the worries have been controlling me to the point of tears. It is normal, you are at a crossroads. Most people who are mature enough to accept responsibility for themselves feel immense pressure to make the right choices at these stages in life (there will be other crossroads in the future). What you are describing tells me you are a sensitive intelligent person, there is not necessarily anything wrong with you other than I think you - maybe - need more emotional support than you are currently getting. Only you know what is right for you, it is your life and from December on you get to decide what happens in it. This doesn't mean you have to do it all right first time - when it comes to adult life nobody is an expert, you can always change the path you are on -it is never too late. If you make a choice and find out months, or even years, down the line it was not what you thought it would be you can just make a new choice. Some things are hard to change than others (drug addiction is pretty difficult to reverse, and parenthood creates a new set of parameters for example) but most things in life are flexible, so although it feels as though everything depends on this decision-you-have-to-make-independently-because-you-are-an-adult-now in reality there will be opportunities down the line to change your mind and do something else instead. If you feel that your hormones are seriously affecting your behaviour then talk to your doctor about the contraceptive pill/patches, you could also talk to your doctor about general anxiety and ask if they have any ideas about managing it. It did cross my mind briefly when I opened your thread that you might be pregnant - is it a possibility? Have you done a test? Otherwise, give yourself a break, you are in a difficult phase of life with a lot of new responsibilities to shoulder you would not be human if you didn't feel stressed about it. And finally, relax here is a new perspective: http://www.bigskyastroclub.org/pale_blue_dot.html
As for my hormones, it hasn't been too bad, but my mom suggested to me I take birth control. I'm not pregnant or anything like that, but it's supposed to help regulate hormones and help with my skin too. But, like you said, I should check with my doctor and look for better suggestions for my hormones and for my anxiety.
Thank you for the link. That was a really good read, and it made me feel a bit happier than I currently am. Though, Christmas does that too. Anyway, thank you so much.
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2011 6:39 am
3Amaranth13 village midget 3Amaranth13
As the typical senior, it's normal for me to worry about college and finances, but the worries have been controlling me to the point of tears. It is normal, you are at a crossroads. Most people who are mature enough to accept responsibility for themselves feel immense pressure to make the right choices at these stages in life (there will be other crossroads in the future). What you are describing tells me you are a sensitive intelligent person, there is not necessarily anything wrong with you other than I think you - maybe - need more emotional support than you are currently getting. Only you know what is right for you, it is your life and from December on you get to decide what happens in it. This doesn't mean you have to do it all right first time - when it comes to adult life nobody is an expert, you can always change the path you are on -it is never too late. If you make a choice and find out months, or even years, down the line it was not what you thought it would be you can just make a new choice. Some things are hard to change than others (drug addiction is pretty difficult to reverse, and parenthood creates a new set of parameters for example) but most things in life are flexible, so although it feels as though everything depends on this decision-you-have-to-make-independently-because-you-are-an-adult-now in reality there will be opportunities down the line to change your mind and do something else instead. If you feel that your hormones are seriously affecting your behaviour then talk to your doctor about the contraceptive pill/patches, you could also talk to your doctor about general anxiety and ask if they have any ideas about managing it. It did cross my mind briefly when I opened your thread that you might be pregnant - is it a possibility? Have you done a test? Otherwise, give yourself a break, you are in a difficult phase of life with a lot of new responsibilities to shoulder you would not be human if you didn't feel stressed about it. And finally, relax here is a new perspective: http://www.bigskyastroclub.org/pale_blue_dot.html
As for my hormones, it hasn't been too bad, but my mom suggested to me I take birth control. I'm not pregnant or anything like that, but it's supposed to help regulate hormones and help with my skin too. But, like you said, I should check with my doctor and look for better suggestions for my hormones and for my anxiety.
Thank you for the link. That was a really good read, and it made me feel a bit happier than I currently am. Though, Christmas does that too. Anyway, thank you so much. No problem, keep posting...and breathing wink
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2011 5:58 pm
Don't feel bad about yourself at all. To me this really does sound like a chemical imbalance, essentially it's a medical condition if you think of it that way. What you're describing sounds a lot like depression to me, but it could be more of an anxiety disorder or something similar (I only really know about the former).
I would also suggest therapy, except it sounds like that may not be an option, in which case, a close friend or relative whom you can confide in would work too. In fact, ideally you should have both.
Supplements are a good start, so is examining your diet in general to see if anything is missing. Though if it's a bad imbalance you may need medication. I'm not a big pill person myself, but they can help keep things from getting out of hand, which gives you a chance to figure out what's really going on.
Honestly, the key to all this may be some unreleased stress or emotions. It could even be something subconscious that's bothering you. Or it could be a whole bunch of little things just adding up.
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2011 7:01 pm
aTTypical Don't feel bad about yourself at all. To me this really does sound like a chemical imbalance, essentially it's a medical condition if you think of it that way. What you're describing sounds a lot like depression to me, but it could be more of an anxiety disorder or something similar (I only really know about the former). I would also suggest therapy, except it sounds like that may not be an option, in which case, a close friend or relative whom you can confide in would work too. In fact, ideally you should have both. Supplements are a good start, so is examining your diet in general to see if anything is missing. Though if it's a bad imbalance you may need medication. I'm not a big pill person myself, but they can help keep things from getting out of hand, which gives you a chance to figure out what's really going on. Honestly, the key to all this may be some unreleased stress or emotions. It could even be something subconscious that's bothering you. Or it could be a whole bunch of little things just adding up.
If you're refering to the very first of the thread, don't worry about that too much. I have been getting much better than I was then. At the moment, I'm doing the best I can to accept my anxieties and manage them naturally without medication. I've also been talking to my psychology teacher about it as well, and he's been very empathetic with me and supportive of what I'm doing. I've also been keeping up with my proper nutrition to balance.
It could be a chemical imbalance, but I think it's genetic because my mother also suffers from anxiety and depression, and I found out from her that it ran in our family, so I think it's something I've always had. It DOES also relate to stress, because I'm going to be 18 soon and I have many responsibilities now and ahead of me. I'm more anxious about those things more than I ever have before. Time passes by fast.
Still, I'm doing the best I can to make myself much better, with the help of my family and friends. Thanks so much for the advice. It is very much appreciated. ^^
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 12:21 pm
whee Happy Birthday for whenever it is xd
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