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 Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 10:27 pm
Soo... when I first went back to school, I ran into this chick during lunch.
She was flirting with me, which was fine with me I guess, and she asked if I had a girlfriend. Well... I kindly hinted that I wasn't into girls all that much, and after she understood that I was gay, she continued flirting with me. It didn't really bother because it was flirting, and I've talked to her about some of my ex's. But recently she's like, trying to get closer to me and asking me uncomfortable questions like, "Have you ever thought about being with a girl?" or other stuff like that. And then, yesterday, I was walking through the hallways with some friends and she like, surprises me out of nowhere and she dragged me off to a corner and she kissed me. And now everything just feels awkward, cause I didn't kiss her back, and she said "I love you" and I... pretty much just walked away with my face burning red.
Soo.. like.. could someone give me some advice? Cause, I like this girl as a friend but I don't really wanna go any farther than that...
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 10:37 pm
Is anyone still awake? I mean yeah, it's 12:36am where I'm at, but come on guys...
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 11:16 pm
*sigh*
Fine, I get it: Not getting any replies tonight.
Later people, I'mma go play AC:Brotherhood. heart
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 11:38 pm
hmm. this is a toughie.
I'd try to sit down with her and explain that she's special to you. In fact, so special that you don't want anything to change between the two of you, which means staying just friends.
It's worth a shot.
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Posted: Sun Sep 04, 2011 6:58 am
It may have been just the way you described her, but from what you've said, this girl seems to have serious attachment issues. If so, I might recommend therapy (for her).
Otherwise, maybe, "I'm sorry, but I really don't love you the way you love me,", or a more assertive, "I'm not attracted to you. I like guys. You're not a guy.". The hardest part is being gentle and clear at the same time. >.<
From my experience of being liked by girls, it seems that trying to be nice about it doesn't really solve the problem, but being assertive can harm the relationship for a while. Then again, I've never had a friend try to kiss me.
Anyway, I have empathy. Been there, done that.
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Posted: Sun Sep 04, 2011 8:16 am
Atrum_Anima It may have been just the way you described her, but from what you've said, this girl seems to have serious attachment issues. If so, I might recommend therapy (for her). Otherwise, maybe, "I'm sorry, but I really don't love you the way you love me,", or a more assertive, "I'm not attracted to you. I like guys. You're not a guy.". The hardest part is being gentle and clear at the same time. >.< From my experience of being liked by girls, it seems that trying to be nice about it doesn't really solve the problem, but being assertive can harm the relationship for a while. Then again, I've never had a friend try to kiss me. Anyway, I have empathy. Been there, done that. I've never had a girl attracted to me before, so I find this whole thing really awkward and confusing... But thanks, yeah, I might have to be assertive to get my point across to her. I'll try doing what Kiba suggested first, but if that doesn't work I'll do what I have to.
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Posted: Sun Sep 04, 2011 9:08 am
Rainebow Monkee *sigh* Fine, I get it: Not getting any replies tonight. Later people, I'mma go play AC:Brotherhood. heart you know, you cant expect an answer right away. ya gotta be patient well, id have to say, talk to her about it. if she's flirting with you then tell her you're not interested. i had a guy ask me out and i was shy at first so i said no, but then i eventually said yes...but i didnt really love the guy. so i eventually stopped seeing him. hopefully i can find the right guy sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Sep 04, 2011 11:58 am
She "loves" you? Uh...that's kind of awkward, seeing as it doesn't seem like you've known each other that well. Just reiterate to her that you just see her as a friend, and hopefully she'll understand. If not, well...there's restraining orders xD (just kidding. It shouldn't have to be that extreme...maybe.)
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