mistressofthelost
Ok, my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year. I've brought him to church with me, helped him change...a little, and just basically began making him a better person that what he was before. As time has progressed, I keep feeling like the relationship isn't for me and that it's not working. I don't know what to do, especially since I'm seriously considering breaking it off with him. The main problem is the fact that Valentine's Day is just around the corner and the fact that I want him to come to the youth weekend this weekend. I'm afraid that any breakup would just push him away even more from God and destroy all that I've done. I don't know what to do...I just feel that getting out of this relationship would be the best thing for me, but I don't know how to do that without damaging his faith, or what little of it there is. If you can't help, that's alright, but I just needed to get this out.
You do have a tough situation going on there, but I'm impressed with the fact that you see that this might not be the best thing for you. What I'm not so impressed about is your saying that YOU'VE helped him change, that leaving him would destroy all YOU'VE done. Because if it's the case that his faith is based on what you've done, then it's going to crumble even if you stay in this relationship. In order for him to remain with God, GOD has to be doing the work. YOU can't save anyone (though it's very good, and required, of you to present Jesus' love to him). I know this isn't very straighforward advice. All I can tell you is to keep praying about it, keep praying FOR him. Ask God to show you how to end this relationship tactfully, and also WHEN to do it. You don't want to keep dragging that guy along, am I right?
Yeah, it's definitely tough. But God will give you guidance, and if it's His will then your boyfriend will see the Truth despite and because of this.
I hope I helped a little.
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