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 Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 12:41 am
Ok....Yes, the title is explains everything.
This IS about love.
Anyway, I like this one guy. He is perfect, he fits every image of my dream guy but what worries me is that what if i’m not good enough?
I mean, of course i’m not perfect. I’m FULL of flaws, so how could someone like me be put together with someone so....Perfect.
Well, this guy. He is liked by everyone. He can communicate well and he doesn’t even have to do a thing, people come to him.
And I? I can’t communicate with anyone. I’m dull, followed by that i’m very quiet around people I don’t know and everyone just wants to get away from me.
We are in two complete different worlds but I really like him and every time I see him, I get so interested and fascinated, I just want to get to know him more.
But I can’t do that with my shyness. I’m too shy.
I mean i’ve talked to him for only seconds in a short period of time and my heart races non-stop.
I may seem obsessed...I just might be but I guess thats what you call love
Now, tell me this.
How can two different worlds meet? How can they possibly make a bond?
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Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 1:28 am
You are the apple...
I see your situation time and time again and I'll tell you exactly what I tell everyone else: Go and talk to him. Find the courage to get past your shyness and strike up a conversation. Maybe take the time to find a common interest between you two and talk to him about that. The bottom line is, just talk to him.
Good luck = )
and I am your core.
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Posted: Wed Aug 31, 2011 7:41 am
This seems like me and my boyfriend, he was (and still is) liked by everyone,he was everything I wasn't....just perfect! and I was in love with him and I didn't think I was enough for him but one day I asked myself "What if I'm scared of?" so I walked up to him and we started talking, and then I said "I have a huge crush you" he looked at me and said "I have a crush on you too" and he asked me out....and we've been together for five years.....FIVE YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (and a very happy couple) so I'm like you, shy and such and he is like my boyfriend and maybe he wants someone too....how should I say this, but someone he can talk too and actually be himself....maybe you're his yin and he's your yang you balance him and he balances you, but you'll never know unless you try wink
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:11 pm
Not to ruin the romance of it, but look at it logically. Its not two worlds, and he's not really perfect. He's human like everyone else. Same goes for you... You're not worthless, you just don't notice your strengths. Just talk to him more each day and see where it goes from there. Little bit by bit, you'll over come your shyness.
And everyone wants to feel like they're with someone whose better than them. That's why they're called "your better half"... If you were with someone you thought was beneath you... what the hell kind of relationship would that be.
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:41 pm
I'm going through the same exact thing, except I'm comfortable with just admiring from a distance.
Back then I'd scheme and come up with devious plans to 'accidentally' run into him and exchange some few words right then and there, but I'd never have the guts to carry out my plans. xD
You can try looking him up on Facebook and try getting to know him more there. It would be less nerve-wracking but I've already tried it and it didn't really work out...
I know that trying to overcome shyness is difficult, but it seems to be the best way. Say a few hi's to him throughout the week and don't forget to smile~
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 10:54 pm
We all live in the same world. Remember that. No one person is better than another. You deserve a chance with whomsoever you want a chance with. If he's as great a guy as you say, then I think you have just as much a chance as any other person, BUT.. you have to take the chance. Life is full of chances, and we're all given just two choices. Take it, or don't. You could regret it either way, but you have to take the chance.
As for being shy, I can definitely follow how you're feeling. My social scene was at ground zero. I have three younger brothers than me who were twice my size on the map. There were tons of girls who I wanted to talk to, but never had the chance (by that I mean courage) to talk to them. I can't even recall how long I lived life like that, but eventually I met a girl who seemed 'perfect'. I took my chances, and things went great. After that first chance, it just got easier. ^^
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 1:23 am
With super glue and duct tape.
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 3:02 am
maui boy no ka oi With super glue and duct tape. xD that made me lol
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Posted: Sat Sep 03, 2011 5:20 pm
Glad I could be of assistance biggrin
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Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2011 10:15 pm
Just talk to him and be you.
Remember, we're all humans, there is no such thing as complete perfection.
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Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2011 10:38 pm
No he isn't. Perfection doesn't exist. So is everyone else. Including the guy you're fawning over. Quote: He is liked by everyone. He can communicate well and he doesn’t even have to do a thing, people come to him. So he's charming. And you're being charmed. Quote: I’m dull, followed by that i’m very quiet around people I don’t know and everyone just wants to get away from me. Holy poor self-esteem, Batman! Frankly, lots of people are attracted to the quite type. Quote: I mean i’ve talked to him for only seconds in a short period of time and my heart races non-stop. So you have almost no personal interaction with him? No wonder you think he's perfect! Quote: I may seem obsessed...I just might be but I guess thats what you call love Nope. Love involves seeing someone's flaws and not caring, for one thing. Quote: Now, tell me this. How can two different worlds meet? How can they possibly make a bond? When we met, my husband was very outgoing, very funny, totally the life of the party, and I was the quiet girl that sits in a corner. He was attracted to me because he likes the shy types, and I was attracted to him because he went out of his way to talk to me and get to know me. But that's not what made us fall in love, because that isn't enough for you to fall in love with someone. Someone can be different from you, and that doesn't mean you can never interact with that person. That's just silly. Stop thinking he's so amazing. You're not seeing the forest for the trees. He's just as flawed as anyone else, and, by thinking he's perfect, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. I've seen so many relationships fall apart because one of the people in the relationship is somehow surprised that the other person isn't as perfect as they thought they were. It's a childish point of view. I'm sorry, but it is.
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2011 12:24 pm
I know it's difficult. I had to deal with that and am still dealing with it. What I do, if I'm found in a situation where I need to talk, is I say something, anything that comes to my mind. If a conversation springs from that, that's good. If not, walk away and try again later. Are you in school with him? Do you have any classes together? If not, then just talk to him the next time you see him. I've always waited for people to talk to me, and I realise now that I'm in college, that this phenomenon rarely happens. You have to create the opportunity yourself.
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2011 12:27 pm
Calliope Solipsism When we met, my husband was very outgoing, very funny, totally the life of the party, and I was the quiet girl that sits in a corner. He was attracted to me because he likes the shy types, and I was attracted to him because he went out of his way to talk to me and get to know me. But that's not what made us fall in love, because that isn't enough for you to fall in love with someone. Someone can be different from you, and that doesn't mean you can never interact with that person. That's just silly. Stop thinking he's so amazing. You're not seeing the forest for the trees. He's just as flawed as anyone else, and, by thinking he's perfect, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. I've seen so many relationships fall apart because one of the people in the relationship is somehow surprised that the other person isn't as perfect as they thought they were. It's a childish point of view. I'm sorry, but it is. -claps- I love this <333
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2011 12:28 pm
Omonarujin We all live in the same world. Remember that. No one person is better than another. I'm sorry to take a shining sh*t on your idea, but this is only true in theory. That's just not how the world operates. There are lots of people who are better than us, for various reasons, because that's how society deems it.
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