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 Posted: Sat Aug 27, 2011 10:13 pm
So, there's this girl.. She's my best *online* friend. She lives in Massachusetts, and I've been talking to her for like... 2-3 years... We've talked on the phone, and everything...
Okay, so I recently found out I was bisexual, and... I think I like her more than a friend :/
Problem is, I've never dated online, i doubt my parents will let me date online, or at all, my parents don't know i'm bi yet, and she likes someone else that doesn't like her back, and I doubt she likes me like that back...
but I really love her. I don't know if I should tell her, and if i do, i don't know if it'll ruin our friendship... .____. I don't want to lose her, and if I can't have her the way I'd like to, I want her to still be my friend. But what if she DOES like me back? (she's bi too.) and if I don't tell her, I'll lose my chance. .-.
What do I do? .-.
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Posted: Sat Aug 27, 2011 10:49 pm
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Posted: Sat Aug 27, 2011 10:56 pm
I think it depends on how you look at it. Telling someone you like them, and being rejected usually twists the overall relationship, so there's a chance you might lose your friendship. Don't know if that's just me, but that's my input.
In my opinion, I think you should just wait it out. If she starts giving some signs that she likes you, then it makes it easier. Just hint about it a lil, or tease or something. Does that help at all? x]
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Posted: Sun Aug 28, 2011 7:45 pm
No offense, but if its an online relationship, why bother telling your parents?
As for telling her, why not... Its not like she hasn't admitted to being bi. If she is really your friend, she wouldn't just run away from that, she'd at least tell you she doesn't feel the same way and try to continue being friends
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Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2011 10:52 pm
NEWSFLASH!
Telling someone you have feelings for them (don't say you're in love) won't destroy your friendship unless A) they're really immature and weren't that good of a friend in the first place, and they would rather say EWWW and then laugh at you from afar, B) you go into stalker mode or come on WAY too strong so they feel they need to distance themselves from you because you're actually making them worry that you'll go nuts and hurt them in some way, C) you go into stalker mode or come on WAY too strong and they feel they need to distance themselves from you in the hopes that your feelings diminish and they don't end up breaking your heart, D) you act really stupid and cruel when they don't respond they way you want them to, E) you get into a relationship and it ends, and one of you can't stand to see the other because there are still deep, painful feelings that they have for you, or F) you get into a relationship and you have a stupid, petty, evil breakup and end up hating each other.
Tell her you like if. If she likes you back, yay! If she doesn't, oh well, time to move on. Don't act weird.
Source:
~I'm still friends with a guy I was in a relationship with for a year.
~My best friend and I are in love with each other but we can't be together for various reasons so we don't let our feelings influence our friendship.
~After asking the guy that was my best friend at the time and getting turned down, we remained close friends until he spazzed out several years later and became a total douche.
~I told a friend that I'd totally try to date her if she was gay. It made her feel better about herself, but caused no weirdness and we remained friends.
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2011 12:56 am
Calliope Solipsism NEWSFLASH! Telling someone you have feelings for them (don't say you're in love) won't destroy your friendship unless A) they're really immature and weren't that good of a friend in the first place, and they would rather say EWWW and then laugh at you from afar, B) you go into stalker mode or come on WAY too strong so they feel they need to distance themselves from you because you're actually making them worry that you'll go nuts and hurt them in some way, C) you go into stalker mode or come on WAY too strong and they feel they need to distance themselves from you in the hopes that your feelings diminish and they don't end up breaking your heart, D) you act really stupid and cruel when they don't respond they way you want them to, E) you get into a relationship and it ends, and one of you can't stand to see the other because there are still deep, painful feelings that they have for you, or F) you get into a relationship and you have a stupid, petty, evil breakup and end up hating each other. Tell her you like if. If she likes you back, yay! If she doesn't, oh well, time to move on. Don't act weird. Source: ~I'm still friends with a guy I was in a relationship with for a year. ~My best friend and I are in love with each other but we can't be together for various reasons so we don't let our feelings influence our friendship. ~After asking the guy that was my best friend at the time and getting turned down, we remained close friends until he spazzed out several years later and became a total douche. ~I told a friend that I'd totally try to date her if she was gay. It made her feel better about herself, but caused no weirdness and we remained friends. I disagree. I was "best friends" with this one girl for over 2 years until she finally decided to have an affair and start "dating" me on the side. Anyway despite everyone insisting that she break up with her BF and start going steady with me, she ends up telling me she never wants to see me again because apparently the guy decided to lie about himself being in the hospital to get her attention. So she remained in an abusive relationship with the guy for another few months until they finally broke up. Then she calls me up and asks me if I want to hang out again, I say yeah. A few weeks later she's dating another guy and says she doesn't wanna talk to me again. Now she calls me up after finding out that I'm in a relationship insisting that we "go back to the way things were". Absolutely ******** ridiculous. But I like to use this story as a reference whenever something retarded comes up regarding relationships.
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2011 1:09 am
maui boy no ka oi Calliope Solipsism NEWSFLASH! Telling someone you have feelings for them (don't say you're in love) won't destroy your friendship unless A) they're really immature and weren't that good of a friend in the first place, and they would rather say EWWW and then laugh at you from afar, B) you go into stalker mode or come on WAY too strong so they feel they need to distance themselves from you because you're actually making them worry that you'll go nuts and hurt them in some way, C) you go into stalker mode or come on WAY too strong and they feel they need to distance themselves from you in the hopes that your feelings diminish and they don't end up breaking your heart, D) you act really stupid and cruel when they don't respond they way you want them to, E) you get into a relationship and it ends, and one of you can't stand to see the other because there are still deep, painful feelings that they have for you, or F) you get into a relationship and you have a stupid, petty, evil breakup and end up hating each other. Tell her you like if. If she likes you back, yay! If she doesn't, oh well, time to move on. Don't act weird. Source: ~I'm still friends with a guy I was in a relationship with for a year. ~My best friend and I are in love with each other but we can't be together for various reasons so we don't let our feelings influence our friendship. ~After asking the guy that was my best friend at the time and getting turned down, we remained close friends until he spazzed out several years later and became a total douche. ~I told a friend that I'd totally try to date her if she was gay. It made her feel better about herself, but caused no weirdness and we remained friends. I disagree. I was "best friends" with this one girl for over 2 years until she finally decided to have an affair and start "dating" me on the side. Anyway despite everyone insisting that she break up with her BF and start going steady with me, she ends up telling me she never wants to see me again because apparently the guy decided to lie about himself being in the hospital to get her attention. So she remained in an abusive relationship with the guy for another few months until they finally broke up. Then she calls me up and asks me if I want to hang out again, I say yeah. A few weeks later she's dating another guy and says she doesn't wanna talk to me again. Now she calls me up after finding out that I'm in a relationship insisting that we "go back to the way things were". Absolutely ******** ridiculous. But I like to use this story as a reference whenever something retarded comes up regarding relationships. That girl is obviously an idiot, which you should've figured out when she decided to have an affair with you instead of dumping her boyfriend. That isn't evidence that you shouldn't date friends, that's evidence that you shouldn't date a stupid girl that won't even leave one relationship before starting another.
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Posted: Sun Oct 02, 2011 3:00 pm
Should I bring up other instances as examples? My point is that once you get romantically involved, things just aren't the same anymore.
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