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 Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 9:10 pm
Basically the last six months of my life have belonged to chasing after this guy only to be friendzoned when I finally asked him. He still has feelings for his ex and they really only broke up because her parents didn't want her dating anyone (I am 15, yeah I know, young and all, blah, blah, blah). Anyways, we've become closer and I even told him maybe a month and a half ago I still have feelings for him, and he shouldn't be waiting around for this girl's parents to say yes. He said he'd consider it but I really don't think he took it that much to heart. confused
What really bothers me is how much we have in common, and I KNOW we have much more in common than him and his ex who I didn't really like to begin with (even before they went out, she was just always a b***h for stupid reasons). We can be serious, silly and the whole in between. It's just, school's starting up soon and we both want some classes together but at the same time I don't so I can move on you know? But part of me wants to keep talking to him because I just feel really happy around him, even if we are just friends. I don't how he views me at this point, either romantically or friendly but I'm debating whether or not I want to ask him to Homecoming this fall or if it'd just be stupid and I'd just end up hurting myself again.
So yeah, thread title, where do we, I, go from here?
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 10:14 pm
You are the apple...
It looks like at this point, any romantic future is up to him. You could continue trying to convince him that you're a better match for him than her, but in doing so, he might get a little defensive.
If you want to keep the chance of a relationship alive, stay friends with him. He may come to realize, in time, that you are a good match for him.
and I am your core.
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Posted: Mon Aug 22, 2011 10:25 pm
Rock4ourRock You are the apple...
It looks like at this point, any romantic future is up to him. You could continue trying to convince him that you're a better match for him than her, but in doing so, he might get a little defensive.
If you want to keep the chance of a relationship alive, stay friends with him. He may come to realize, in time, that you are a good match for him.
and I am your core. i agree, stay as close as possible so he has somebody to fall back to. just be patient the time will come where he'll realize your better than his ex smile
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Posted: Thu Sep 01, 2011 11:16 pm
I know you probably hear this all the time, but you're still young. 15 means you're barely in high school or so right? I can pretty much guarantee that he's not the only guy you're gonna fall for in the next few years. And if he's still into his ex, and he's not giving you any definite feedback, he might just be holding onto you for the rebound. You do NOT want to be that girl. There are tons of guys out there that'll treat you better than a guy who would hold you up for the rebound.
Now if this is a really close friend, who you don't think would treat you as the rebound, then maybe he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. But if he felt the same way for you, that you feel for him, then you'd know. Especially after confessing how you feel.
Now if you're still going to 'wait' for him to change his mind, then you're not going to accept any of this advice anyway, but I strongly recommend that you try not betting your high school life on this one guy. If anything, maybe he'll come around later in life with a more decisive mindset. Hopefully for you. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2011 2:30 pm
Omonarujin I know you probably hear this all the time, but you're still young. 15 means you're barely in high school or so right? I can pretty much guarantee that he's not the only guy you're gonna fall for in the next few years. And if he's still into his ex, and he's not giving you any definite feedback, he might just be holding onto you for the rebound. You do NOT want to be that girl. There are tons of guys out there that'll treat you better than a guy who would hold you up for the rebound.
Now if this is a really close friend, who you don't think would treat you as the rebound, then maybe he just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. But if he felt the same way for you, that you feel for him, then you'd know. Especially after confessing how you feel.
Now if you're still going to 'wait' for him to change his mind, then you're not going to accept any of this advice anyway, but I strongly recommend that you try not betting your high school life on this one guy. If anything, maybe he'll come around later in life with a more decisive mindset. Hopefully for you. 3nodding Yeah I know I'm young and I know I'm not wasting all of high school 'hoping' for him to come around, and yeah, I do NOT want to be his rebound. Thanks for the advice, I'll keep it in mind. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2011 2:49 pm
Most would say its a good idea to wait it out until the guy does something, but I think that waiting it out is pointless. If you really like the guy, be someone his ex is not. Be nice to him, smile, and be understanding. Prove to him that you're a better person than she is. If you're not the type of person to make the first move, then I suppose there's nothing to do but wait. I've been in your position before, and I know that waiting is not the answer.
Good luck though! ^_^
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