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 Posted: Sun Aug 14, 2011 9:21 pm
Well, after a summer from Hell, I finally had a turn-around. But there are problems.
Okay, on my birthday, I lost one of my closest friends, due to the fact that his girlfriend put him on restrictions. Then, being the girl that I am, I retaliated, and called her a name, and said that she was controlling him.
He got pissed, and I apologized. But he went on and on, to the point where he called me a b***h, and said "You should just do a favor for all the people you care about and stop talking to them. And NO, I don't care, and I never was friends with you." I was crushed, and I'm terrified that i'm going to lose some of the friends I've been closest to since the 3rd grade. Then band camp started. And I found I like someone new. But I'm still scared that he'll be just like my past. It's kind of immature, but I honestly don't know what to do anymore. Any advice?
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Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2011 1:02 am
You are the apple...
It sounds like the girlfriend is making him avoid other girls, or at least, thats what I got from your description of the situation. If that is the case, you're right in saying she's controlling him. However, it sounds as though your confronting him about was a bit too harsh, seeing as she is his girlfriend. His reaction was over the top as well, though perhaps only because you came on so harshly, if you did so.
I'd say talk to him about it, explain what you know of the situation and how it's wrong, mention that you don't want to lose his friendship, and try to refrain from calling his girlfriend names.
and I am your core.
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Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2011 6:59 am
Rock4ourRock You are the apple...
It sounds like the girlfriend is making him avoid other girls, or at least, thats what I got from your description of the situation. If that is the case, you're right in saying she's controlling him. However, it sounds as though your confronting him about was a bit too harsh, seeing as she is his girlfriend. His reaction was over the top as well, though perhaps only because you came on so harshly, if you did so.
I'd say talk to him about it, explain what you know of the situation and how it's wrong, mention that you don't want to lose his friendship, and try to refrain from calling his girlfriend names.
and I am your core. I agree, I came on too harsh, I did apologize, and tried to calmly go along with it when he went off on me, until he started blaming me for everything. I'm sorry, but I did not cheat on my girlfriend, which is what started this situation. THEN I stepped up and said for him to stop blaming me. So, wend of the story is, he Itold me what he did. .-. And It's kind of impossible to talk with him atm.. He goes to a different school, and the only time as of right now that I have a small possibility of seeing him is at our school's football game together, where we have to do marching band.
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Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2011 6:59 am
i agree with Rock4ourRock, just talk to him about it. and i would also try to avoid his girlfriend if i were you. i have a friend who used to sit at my table at lunch, he was the only guy there, and then his girlfriend told him he couldn't sit with us anymore and because of that i had to stop hanging out with him coz that was the only time i saw him. don't let her tear you two apart. and about the other guy, just get ti know him first and then ask him out if you feel you still like him. just take a chance and see what happens
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Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2011 8:03 am
Free Rainbow Condoms Well, after a summer from Hell, I finally had a turn-around. But there are problems.
Okay, on my birthday, I lost one of my closest friends, due to the fact that his girlfriend put him on restrictions. Then, being the girl that I am, I retaliated, and called her a name, and said that she was controlling him.
He got pissed, and I apologized. But he went on and on, to the point where he called me a b***h, and said "You should just do a favor for all the people you care about and stop talking to them. And NO, I don't care, and I never was friends with you." I was crushed, and I'm terrified that i'm going to lose some of the friends I've been closest to since the 3rd grade. Then band camp started. And I found I like someone new. But I'm still scared that he'll be just like my past. It's kind of immature, but I honestly don't know what to do anymore. Any advice? I can't tell you what you should do... But I can--from experience--tell you his motives in overreacting. If he's anything like me, he snapped at you so that you wouldn't be losing someone you're attached to. I know, it doesn't work as well in practice as in theory, but... it is possible he was trying to make you mad at him so that the separation wouldn't be so hard.
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Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2011 9:35 am
I can just respond from past experience.
I don't have any of the same friends I went to high school with now. And I had a really close bunch of people I hung with!
As your life moves on, you meet new people and the ones you were close to before become a memory. It's just how life is.
I wouldn't worry overmuch about losing the past since there are more and better opportunities in the future. You met a new guy...awesome! But don't be afraid to pursue him because of the past.
You'll do just fine.
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 7:41 pm
Amras Tasatir Free Rainbow Condoms Well, after a summer from Hell, I finally had a turn-around. But there are problems.
Okay, on my birthday, I lost one of my closest friends, due to the fact that his girlfriend put him on restrictions. Then, being the girl that I am, I retaliated, and called her a name, and said that she was controlling him.
He got pissed, and I apologized. But he went on and on, to the point where he called me a b***h, and said "You should just do a favor for all the people you care about and stop talking to them. And NO, I don't care, and I never was friends with you." I was crushed, and I'm terrified that i'm going to lose some of the friends I've been closest to since the 3rd grade. Then band camp started. And I found I like someone new. But I'm still scared that he'll be just like my past. It's kind of immature, but I honestly don't know what to do anymore. Any advice? I can't tell you what you should do... But I can--from experience--tell you his motives in overreacting. If he's anything like me, he snapped at you so that you wouldn't be losing someone you're attached to. I know, it doesn't work as well in practice as in theory, but... it is possible he was trying to make you mad at him so that the separation wouldn't be so hard. That makes sense. I see what you're saying.
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Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2011 7:48 pm
xXOnYx MoOnXx i agree with Rock4ourRock, just talk to him about it. and i would also try to avoid his girlfriend if i were you. i have a friend who used to sit at my table at lunch, he was the only guy there, and then his girlfriend told him he couldn't sit with us anymore and because of that i had to stop hanging out with him coz that was the only time i saw him. don't let her tear you two apart. and about the other guy, just get ti know him first and then ask him out if you feel you still like him. just take a chance and see what happens Its really kind of hard to talk to him now, since he goes to a different school now but next time I see him, I'll bring it up. And his girlfriend, I really want nothing to do with. At one point, I tried to be respectful, but after she went ran her mouth about me through a text when I was right there, I was through. And that's what I'm trying to do. c:
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 8:17 am
Free Rainbow Condoms xXOnYx MoOnXx i agree with Rock4ourRock, just talk to him about it. and i would also try to avoid his girlfriend if i were you. i have a friend who used to sit at my table at lunch, he was the only guy there, and then his girlfriend told him he couldn't sit with us anymore and because of that i had to stop hanging out with him coz that was the only time i saw him. don't let her tear you two apart. and about the other guy, just get ti know him first and then ask him out if you feel you still like him. just take a chance and see what happens Its really kind of hard to talk to him now, since he goes to a different school now but next time I see him, I'll bring it up. And his girlfriend, I really want nothing to do with. At one point, I tried to be respectful, but after she went ran her mouth about me through a text when I was right there, I was through. And that's what I'm trying to do. c: well when u do see him then maybe while ur trying to work it out u could tell him that ur going to try and stay away from his girlfriend and that could show that ur really trying to make this work and might make him forgive u sooner
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Posted: Thu Aug 18, 2011 7:29 pm
xXOnYx MoOnXx Free Rainbow Condoms xXOnYx MoOnXx i agree with Rock4ourRock, just talk to him about it. and i would also try to avoid his girlfriend if i were you. i have a friend who used to sit at my table at lunch, he was the only guy there, and then his girlfriend told him he couldn't sit with us anymore and because of that i had to stop hanging out with him coz that was the only time i saw him. don't let her tear you two apart. and about the other guy, just get ti know him first and then ask him out if you feel you still like him. just take a chance and see what happens Its really kind of hard to talk to him now, since he goes to a different school now but next time I see him, I'll bring it up. And his girlfriend, I really want nothing to do with. At one point, I tried to be respectful, but after she went ran her mouth about me through a text when I was right there, I was through. And that's what I'm trying to do. c: well when u do see him then maybe while ur trying to work it out u could tell him that ur going to try and stay away from his girlfriend and that could show that ur really trying to make this work and might make him forgive u sooner Yes, thats what I'm going to do.
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