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 Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 11:01 pm
I am curious about something!
I am currently engaged IRL to a male, (Paulfred here on Gaia) For a year and 6 months we've been a couple... and he knows im bisexual.
My problem is... I'm starting to miss women.
He's not your typical guy. So I can't like... look at women with him or something. He's a Baptist Christian - meaning he was raised to be kinda strict... and he's not entirely all for the gay/bi community... and... thing is...
it's true. I DO miss women. A lot. I get no attention from them anymore.
I want to be able to explain to my fiance that I DO love him so very much... but I'm lacking a big part of who I am.
How can I fill this gap and still remain loyal to him?... I mean ... if he and I would explore women a bit together... it might go away... but... he wouldn't.
....ugh... what can I do about this?.....
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:07 am
Try talking to him about it?
Tell him how you feel. its not right, to be in a relationship like that and lack such a huge part of who you are, so just talk to him about it.
Sorry, this advice sucks sweatdrop I tried though, lol.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:12 am
TheMadHatterLovesYou Try talking to him about it?
Tell him how you feel. its not right, to be in a relationship like that and lack such a huge part of who you are, so just talk to him about it.
Sorry, this advice sucks sweatdrop I tried though, lol. Nooo! I appreciate the help. See, I did talk to him about it... but... i still can't really think of what to do for myself about it, you know?
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:16 am
ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou Try talking to him about it?
Tell him how you feel. its not right, to be in a relationship like that and lack such a huge part of who you are, so just talk to him about it.
Sorry, this advice sucks sweatdrop I tried though, lol. Nooo! I appreciate the help. See, I did talk to him about it... but... i still can't really think of what to do for myself about it, you know? Oh noes... D: Ummmmmmmmm... Does he mind when you look at other women? Its one in the morning, I apologize for my lack of good advice XD
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:24 am
TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou Try talking to him about it?
Tell him how you feel. its not right, to be in a relationship like that and lack such a huge part of who you are, so just talk to him about it.
Sorry, this advice sucks sweatdrop I tried though, lol. Nooo! I appreciate the help. See, I did talk to him about it... but... i still can't really think of what to do for myself about it, you know? Oh noes... D: Ummmmmmmmm... Does he mind when you look at other women? Its one in the morning, I apologize for my lack of good advice XD 4 here lol... its okay, and.... he kinda minds. He doesn't look though so... he gets jealous. And I dont mean to make him jelly. Its just... women are ... beautiful. And I miss that. A lot.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:25 am
ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou Try talking to him about it?
Tell him how you feel. its not right, to be in a relationship like that and lack such a huge part of who you are, so just talk to him about it.
Sorry, this advice sucks sweatdrop I tried though, lol. Nooo! I appreciate the help. See, I did talk to him about it... but... i still can't really think of what to do for myself about it, you know? Oh noes... D: Ummmmmmmmm... Does he mind when you look at other women? Its one in the morning, I apologize for my lack of good advice XD 4 here lol... its okay, and.... he kinda minds. He doesn't look though so... he gets jealous. And I dont mean to make him jelly. Its just... women are ... beautiful. And I miss that. A lot. What did he say when you talked about it? Why do I feel like I'm interrogating you? XD
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:27 am
TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou Try talking to him about it?
Tell him how you feel. its not right, to be in a relationship like that and lack such a huge part of who you are, so just talk to him about it.
Sorry, this advice sucks sweatdrop I tried though, lol. Nooo! I appreciate the help. See, I did talk to him about it... but... i still can't really think of what to do for myself about it, you know? Oh noes... D: Ummmmmmmmm... Does he mind when you look at other women? Its one in the morning, I apologize for my lack of good advice XD 4 here lol... its okay, and.... he kinda minds. He doesn't look though so... he gets jealous. And I dont mean to make him jelly. Its just... women are ... beautiful. And I miss that. A lot. What did he say when you talked about it? Why do I feel like I'm interrogating you? XD Well... he said he felt like he wasn't pleasing me enough and I told him thats not it... i just... miss women. Idk what to do about it. And lol nah ur not razz Just wanting to know more. The hour maybe razz
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:30 am
ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou Try talking to him about it?
Tell him how you feel. its not right, to be in a relationship like that and lack such a huge part of who you are, so just talk to him about it.
Sorry, this advice sucks sweatdrop I tried though, lol. Nooo! I appreciate the help. See, I did talk to him about it... but... i still can't really think of what to do for myself about it, you know? Oh noes... D: Ummmmmmmmm... Does he mind when you look at other women? Its one in the morning, I apologize for my lack of good advice XD 4 here lol... its okay, and.... he kinda minds. He doesn't look though so... he gets jealous. And I dont mean to make him jelly. Its just... women are ... beautiful. And I miss that. A lot. What did he say when you talked about it? Why do I feel like I'm interrogating you? XD Well... he said he felt like he wasn't pleasing me enough and I told him thats not it... i just... miss women. Idk what to do about it. And lol nah ur not razz Just wanting to know more. The hour maybe razz Could be, ahahah. Well, I've never really been in that situation before, considering I'm only 17, and I've never had a fiancee before. I wish I could help you D: Maybe I'll be able to later.. After I Sleep... XD
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:31 am
TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou ll Jessyjeans ll TheMadHatterLovesYou Oh noes... D: Ummmmmmmmm... Does he mind when you look at other women? Its one in the morning, I apologize for my lack of good advice XD 4 here lol... its okay, and.... he kinda minds. He doesn't look though so... he gets jealous. And I dont mean to make him jelly. Its just... women are ... beautiful. And I miss that. A lot. What did he say when you talked about it? Why do I feel like I'm interrogating you? XD Well... he said he felt like he wasn't pleasing me enough and I told him thats not it... i just... miss women. Idk what to do about it. And lol nah ur not razz Just wanting to know more. The hour maybe razz Could be, ahahah. Well, I've never really been in that situation before, considering I'm only 17, and I've never had a fiancee before. I wish I could help you D: Maybe I'll be able to later.. After I Sleep... XD Lol maybeee. XD Nighty night.
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Posted: Sat Oct 22, 2011 7:03 am
it's a tough spot to be in, I know.
My finance is like that too.
Here's our basic situation:
I'm a lesbian (at least I identify as such, since I only really have a preference for asian men)
And my girlfriend is full on bisexual.
She's never been with a man, and neither have I since we've been together since we were 14. She some times wonders what it's like to be with a guy (I get all grossed out when p***s's are mentioned, again that's just me)
We've had many talks though about it. Perhaps it's easier though for us to talk because we've been together for almost 8 years now, and we're pretty open minded.
But I have found that talking about it has helped greatly, and we keep talking about it because it's better to do so than keeping it all bottled up and then some thing happening that either one of us might be regret.
Perhaps explaining to him why you need to talk about it and expressing your feelings and concerns might get him to open up about it a little more. Explain that you want to talk about it with him because you love him and don't want to do anything that might hurt the relationship. If he loves you enough then he will respect that and listen. It's not fair to let religion get in the way of your relationship, no matter how faithful you are to it. If he started dating you and being with you knowing who you are then he should respect you enough to at least give you a chance to explain.
Honestly, it's the best I can give for now, my girlfriend and I are constantly trying to keep the communication line open, there has been many changes in our lives in the last year alone, from wanting to buy a house to starting a family. If I didn't tell her how I was feeling and the problems I was having we'd fight a lot more.
How long have you two been together, and if I might ask, how old are you both? My girlfriend is 22 and I'm turning 22 tomorrow, so being the same age some times helps.
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