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 Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 8:21 pm
So I just got back from the most awkward outing with some friends I used to LOVE being around. One of them I still love being around...but the other one made me very uncomfortable. For easy reading, friend P is the one I still like being around, and friend S is the one who made things uncomfortable.
Basically, the evening just consisted of us scrambling to find something to say. I feel like friend S didn't want to be there, because that's basically the vibe she was giving out. I felt like no matter what I said, she just looked down on me. I didn't like this at all. We used to be close, and after a year of college, I felt like I had nothing in common with her anymore.
Now that I bored you, how do you feel about situations like this? Has it happened often for you?
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 8:25 pm
Not really.
I'm not in contact with any of my high school friends (Facebook doesn't count). Most of my [current] friends I've met through college or during college years.
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 9:43 pm
well there was this one girl who had the same first two names as me in 5th grade, and we were inseperable....but she had to move away in april of 7th grade.
i met her again one night in october of my 9th grade year at the fair, and she was with some other of her new freinds, and she was a total b***h. called me a loser, said she didnt know me, and i didnt know her, and marched off with her 'new freinds'. they even called out her name while she was dissing me, and it WAS her.
i still have the sweater she always wore and gave me when she moved, and a bunch of little drawings and nicnaks she gave me....
i think i should burn them or donate them to the red cross or goodwill or someone....
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Posted: Sun Jul 17, 2011 11:18 pm
I just got out of high school and haven't been to college but I feel the same way. Some of my good buddies aren't the same. And some of the people I used to roll with diss me now. So screw them I can't wait for college.
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 12:12 am
I'm still in high school but I've experienced this before. They were my best friends for an extremely long time, but they've changed so much to the point where they see me as immature, an insignificant part of their past.
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 12:30 am
I hated people in High School. They
were always so fake and ready to
believe this was it for the world. And
a lot of them still carried those ideals
as they grew up. Which is sad. Now
older, I still look at them and ask myself
how I stomached associating myself
with them. I have two people that I loved
through out high school that I am BEST
friends with, the rest I threw away quickly,
because when pushed came to shove, they
weren't ever there. And I don't need those
drama carrying crazies in my life. If you aren't
part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
And are therefor not worth my time.
That probably sounds heartless, but it has
helped me find some truly awesome friends.
And stay CLEAR of stupid drama.
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 12:49 am
I've had this experience to an extent. Broke up with my gf a while back and almost stopped being friends with her, entirely. Long story. Then she pulled a sob story of not wanting to lose her best friend (we had been best friends since elementary school, too) - so I decided to give friendship another shot. Well, she basically was all nice to my face.. but then stopped talking to me and started talking s**t to our friends and lied about everything that happened between us and got them to choose her over me. This all happened a few months after we graduated high school. I now have no friends from school, pretty much. It's hard to believe that my best friend since childhood could go this low. ;/ LithiumXwolf well there was this one girl who had the same first two names as me in 5th grade, and we were inseperable....but she had to move away in april of 7th grade. i met her again one night in october of my 9th grade year at the fair, and she was with some other of her new freinds, and she was a total b***h. called me a loser, said she didnt know me, and i didnt know her, and marched off with her 'new freinds'. they even called out her name while she was dissing me, and it WAS her. i still have the sweater she always wore and gave me when she moved, and a bunch of little drawings and nicnaks she gave me.... i think i should burn them or donate them to the red cross or goodwill or someone.... I suggest a mix of burning the stuff and burying the things that don't burn so well. That's what I did when my ex-gf/best friend back stabbed me. I used to have drawings and nic-nacs from when we were kids, too. I was going to burn the drawings.. but never got around to them. I just tore them up and tossed them out. As for the nic-nacs and random stuff, I buried them up on the hill of the elementary school we went to. It was a way for me to get rid of everything and move on.
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 9:20 am
You have to keep something. You said so
yourself, you two were inseparable. That was
a deep friendship. Just because she has become
someone horrible today, didn't change what she
was to you in the past. If you burn everything and
destroy it, you will regret it later. I promise you that.
An ex however, is a much different story. I cannot
talk because all that s**t is destroyed. XD
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 4:22 pm
I've really not spoken to my high school friends so much since I graduated (5 years ago). I did have one guy come into the store I work at and apologize for being a jerk during high school, which made my day. I'm now starting to fall out of touch with my college friends (they all moved away), so I'm going to have to go to law school to meet some more, I guess.
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Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2011 4:31 pm
I cut ties with almost everyone from my high school. Those years were godawful, and I really don't care if I ever see most of my former classmates ever again.
There are a handful of friends, though, who I've only seen 2 or 3 times since I graduated in 2005, and we just pick up where we left off. It doesn't seem to matter how much time passes, we're still comfortable together.
Some people just grow apart, though. It's natural. Someone who may have been one of your best friends as a teenager may have next to nothing in common with you as an adult. It doesn't mean you don't wish them well, but you may not end up being friends with them as you get older. If you were close, and it would mean a lot to you to maintain the friendship, then you can always make an effort, but you may need to accept that your (former) friend might not reciprocate.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:04 am
I litereally have no friends I can talk to in high school. I'm the only person who sits in a maths class at a desk alone. Everyone else has someone to talk to. Even people that are newer to the school and are quieter have more friends than me. The problem is, I'm just way too different. I can't be bothered now, just one term and school is over.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:53 am
Lol I was the dork everyone picked on and no one wanted to be friends wtih so no I don't really have that problem. Though now I'm meeting a few of my classmates here and there.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 9:38 am
Silver Sage-General Lol I was the dork everyone picked on and no one wanted to be friends wtih so no I don't really have that problem. Though now I'm meeting a few of my classmates here and there. Aww XD I was the person who befriended those dorks.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 9:42 am
finfageek Silver Sage-General Lol I was the dork everyone picked on and no one wanted to be friends wtih so no I don't really have that problem. Though now I'm meeting a few of my classmates here and there. Aww XD I was the person who befriended those dorks. You would have been awesome. owo
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2011 10:04 am
Silver Sage-General finfageek Silver Sage-General Lol I was the dork everyone picked on and no one wanted to be friends wtih so no I don't really have that problem. Though now I'm meeting a few of my classmates here and there. Aww XD I was the person who befriended those dorks. You would have been awesome. owo I know biggrin
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