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 Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2006 5:44 pm
(( I didn't really know where to put this ))
Im really worried about my friend. shes like the only girl in the school that still has no sexual interest or any interest in boys. She still acts like a little kid and watches little kid shows. not like dora the explorer or any of those but she doesnt watch any shows that are for teens and adults. all i ever want to talk about is boys and normal teen stuff but she has no interest in those so she changes the subject and stuff. i have found out a boy likes her and she knows too. but she has ABSOLUTELY NO REACTION to it. I have of course considered that she is a lesbian but i really doubt that she is. im getting really frustrated with her and so are all of my other friends. I dont want to leave her out but sometimes she embaresses me. shes my best friend and i would really like some advice on how to deal with this.
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Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 3:39 am
This isn't the right place for it and it will most likely be moved to the sexuality forum.
Now to be completely honest, this may come off as rude but it really isn't any of your damn business if she doesn't want to talk about boys then don't talk about them, you wouldn't want me to talk about say D&D or video games you had no interest in would you? Think of different subjects, and there is no such thing as a 'normal' teen, every teenager is different. This doesn't look like a problem to me at all, just because she isn't obsessed about boys doesn't mean anything, and perhaps she just didn't like that boy who liked her, did you concider that? Tell your other friends that too, it doesn't matter that she isn't obsessed with boys, and if something like that makes you concider leaving her out because it embarrasses you then maybe you need to talk a look at your self. If this advice is bad, sorry. I just woke up and got little sleep last night. sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 2:46 pm
cry im not making her talk about or anything. i know i cant change her. but im a person who needs to talk to people about things and i cant talk to her about it so it kinda feels like im leaving her out when i talk to all my other friends about stuff. shes my best friend and i will wait for her to experience this stuff. but im a little concerned about her because she is almost perfect she has the best parents and was taught good manners and everything and i have never seen her mad or angry she doesnt do anything mean. thats why i love her so much. but once she does experience things like wanting to have sex a lot im afraid it may hit her hard and scare her. it scared me for a little. so is there any advice how i could help her through that if it does happen?
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Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 3:02 pm
If she's really your best friend, then you should be accepting you for who she is, not what you think she should be like. So what if she has no interest in dating or guys? I know several females my age who have little to no interest in guys, and that doesn't make them any less of a person.
If it bothers her enough when you talk to your other friends about guys/other topics she has no interest in, then she'll probably speak up and say something. So until then, just leave her be.
If she does become overwhelmed when she starts to take an interest in boys and sex, then just be her friend and support her as much as you can. You could also encourage her to talk to her parents about any questions she might have, her family doctor, or a counsellor at school.
Then again, you're 14. And I'm guessing she's your age too. To be honest, I'm glad she has no interest in sex or guys at that age, because you're both kids. And sex isn't for children. So if she's not prepared for it, don't get on her case about it. She'll take an interest when she's ready, and hopefully for her sake that won't be for awhile yet.
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